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Arthur Kim74 said:🤣🤣
You really hit the nail on the head with what you told him...👍
Man, his ego is going to take such a massive hit from this, he might actually lose it, and here you are just worrying about the money...🤣
🙂🙂 And since he's always been so manipulative... this isn't even the first time he's pulled the whole "I'm going to kill myself" card. I've grown used to the drama by now. It's just that in the past, I'd always rush over to comfort him, thinking I could fix things, which only made him think he could win me back using that exact same tired routine. Well, not this time. He's not getting through to me that easily anymore.😉
I honestly don't have much to say about this particular situation right now, though I’ve been sitting here thinking about how things usually play out when people start getting loud about nothing. It feels like we're circling the same drain every single week. I was just reading through some of the recent threads, and it strikes me how much energy gets wasted on these circular arguments that never actually lead to anything productive. It reminds me of those long, drawn-out town hall meetings back in my hometown where everyone shouts over each other for two hours only to realize they haven't even touched the actual issue at hand. We need more substance and less noise if we're going to get anywhere meaningful. kaže:
That’s exactly where the issue lies. Honestly, when someone is already being an absolute jerk and trying to mess with your head like that, it’s just plain rude to go out of your way to add fuel to the fire. 😁
I’d honestly love to keep messing with him just a little longer, but I’m genuinely worried he might actually snap and try to take it out on me. At this point, though, I think I've pretty much sufficiently knocked the wind out of his sails.🙂
Rachel Hernandez2 said:No, that isn't a normal reaction at all.
You weren't cheating on him—he was cheating on you. I don't see where he gets the nerve to lecture you when he's guilty of the exact same thing.
One thing just doesn't make sense to me, though. He actually asked you if she was "good enough" for him? Where is the logic in that? What kind of conversations are you two even having?
Girl, just walk away from him without saying a single word...
Based on everything you've shared here, I can tell you're smart, and I know you won't want anything more to do with him. You truly don't need someone like that in your life.
Honestly, I wouldn't even know how to answer a question like that... I was genuinely stunned when he first brought it up. When I told him straight up that I wasn't the right person to be giving him advice or weighing in on his relationship, he claimed he was asking because she’s pregnant and because women are supposed to..., well, you know. So I congratulated him, and then he just casually dropped that he was messing with me and just wanted to hear my thoughts after all...🤷
Michelle Alvarez8 said:Just tell him you found yourself a total stud on the forum. 👍
Oh my god, you’ve gotta be kidding me... he’s going to turn this whole thing into a massive production. Honestly, once I admitted I had cheated on him, he absolutely lost his mind; he started panicking and picking fights with every single one of his friends because he's totally convinced it was someone within his own inner circle!🤣
Michelle Alvarez8 said:He won't even complain if the sex is mediocre—LOL! 🤣
Honestly, I have to say—your ex really is showing off some impressive mental skills here. Maybe tell him in your next reply that he’s basically running this forum, since he's got such high potential for becoming an admin.
Oh please, what "sexy"... all he cares about is whether I have some guy hooking me up, and now that he's single, if he's back on the market too!!!!! 😂 As if I'd want someone else sleeping with me when I can just have a great friend instead...! God, what was I thinking in life...🙂
I'll mention the forum thing to him, but I've always managed to get under his skin by talking about this place, so I highly doubt it'll work....😢
Michelle Alvarez8 said:Oh, I just now caught this—Joe Biden! 👍
P.S. Just so you know—any posts where I’m calling people in America stupid or slow? That’s actually just my cat typing.
So... ban her, not me! 😬
🤣you always know how to make me laugh... hehe...
Yeah, so here comes another one... there's nobody else around except me, and she wants to be my friend, but she won't complain if things get a little heated in the bedroom occasionally!!!! She'll never find a girl like this again.🙄
But right after sending that message, he decided to end it all and just vanish from the face of the earth.... and honestly, whatever, I only asked him to pay me back the money he owes me before he goes through with it....
slymaker9 said:He’s crazy, and there’s no denying it.
He honestly doesn't have a single functional brain cell left in his head...
He sent me this whole thing yesterday: "A man doesn't realize what he actually had until it's gone," followed by some message thirty minutes later saying, "I'm sorry for absolutely everything... justice has been served." And then, to top it all off, he claims he broke up with his girlfriend, said he needs me, insisted I'm the only person who has ever truly understood him or been okay with who he is, and then tried to tell me that all those messages were actually sent by his girlfriend because he was having a complete mental breakdown after I told him I cheated on him.... what an idiot.
Arthur Kim74 said:Just be happy for yourself and give yourself a pat on the back because your ex is finally 😉
There isn't any way you should ever be around him again, and you definitely shouldn't give in to his calls no matter how many he makes...
Having an ex like that is honestly such a blessing since he's out of your life now. 😁
Between those insecurities and his constant irritability, goodness, dealing with him would be like handling a ticking time bomb, truly... 😲
I don't think I have ever met someone in my entire life who was quite this deeply insecure about everything... everything. I remember one specific time when we were still together, he actually told me that as soon as we had kids, he’d be sending them straight to a plastic surgeon to fix anything he deemed "imperfect," just so they wouldn't grow up feeling as self-conscious as he does.
He lost his cool plenty of times—breaking things, throwing fits—but like I mentioned before, I didn't really let it get to me at the time because his outbursts were never directed at me, nor did they happen while I was right there...
Thanks to everyone for the input.🙂
Rebecca Scott3 said:Look, that guy is an aggressor, and you honestly can't predict what kind of crazy he might pull next...
...It might actually be smart to just shoot him a quick text. Just tell him that the whole thing with the salad was nothing more than a way to give him a taste of his own medicine, and make it clear that you aren't the type of person who would ever cheat or spread diseases around...
Also, let him know straight up that his behavior and those messages are exactly why you’re cutting all ties with him... and then just stop there. Don't say another word. You need to avoid him like the plague, because at this point, that's exactly what he is...
...Just send enough to settle him down so he doesn't try to play the victim... BECAUSE HIS OPINION DOESN'T MEAN A THING. He thinks he owns you until you find someone else to take charge...
.....If there's an older, strong man in your family, it might be a good idea to have him step in and tell this guy to back off... maybe even throw in a warning about calling the cops if he doesn't...
....And if he keeps bothering you after that, call the police. Someone acting like that usually has plenty of other trouble lurking under the surface...
Man, it’s like you’re actually reading my mind.😉
I was actually planning on sending him exactly that. I can't stand the idea of someone walking around with a completely warped perception of who I am—and I don't just mean him. It’s the way he went around asking other people if they knew who I was cheating with, as if he had some right to drag my name through the mud like that. Honestly, after everything he said to me, everything he was capable of throwing in my face, I just want nothing to do with him. I wanted to tell him straight up: because of how you acted, we are done. No contact, no exceptions.
I’ve got to wait another couple of days before I can pull the trigger on this, mostly because someone still owes me a bit of cash. Once that hits my bank account, I’ll reach out and settle things with him. It’s funny, though—he actually tried to tell me he was going to keep the money as "compensation" for the emotional distress I supposedly caused him, or worse, threaten to sue me. The kid is a law student, so he thinks he’s being all clever and intimidating with his legal jargon, but honestly? It just cracked me up. Hahaha.😉
Jerry Martinez5 said:There’s a massive difference between realizing how insecure he actually is and seeing just how aggressive he can get.
If he were just dealing with an inferiority complex, I might actually feel bad for him.
Wait, so you're telling me he's never had an aggressive outburst before?
Look, I knew from the jump that he was insecure, but I kept holding onto this naive hope that he’d just grow out of it as he got older and more mature...
Now that I’m thinking back on it, he definitely had those outbursts, it’s just that they never happened when I was around, so I didn't get to witness them firsthand. Last summer, he was away on a business trip in Miami while I was back home in Chicago, and we got into this stupid argument over text—I can't even remember what it was about—and he ended up slamming his phone onto the floor and completely smashing it. He did the same thing once with a pair of glasses, too...
He’s generally a pretty high-strung guy, and he’s had his moments, but it was usually directed at his buddies or one of his close friends...
Jerry Martinez5 said:- Not a normal reaction.
- Be glad you're done with him.
- If he keeps calling, change your number.
Don't meet up with him under any circumstances. No coffee, no talking.
He's lucky he has a girlfriend. But that doesn't mean he won't try to harass you. Just stay cold and firm.
Thanks so much🙂 I was actually wondering if my reaction was out of line, but I really wanted to hear from people who aren't emotionally involved in the whole mess and could give me an objective perspective....
I had been feeling so guilty about the whole situation, but now I'm just thanking God that I did what I did, because I know exactly what kind of person he truly is...
quietseal2 said:I don't think you're stupid. 🙂
It looks like his life is pretty empty right now, so he's using you to feed his ego.
Good on you for putting him in his place, though. Now you see who he really is.
I can't stand people with complexes or those who can't take a joke.
Like they say in those old movies—"a kick in the butt is a step forward!"
Hehehe... tell me about it. :-)
Anyway, I’m actually relieved I finally saw this side of him because I’ve truly never experienced this version before... or heard him talk like this. Usually, he’s the kind of guy who wouldn't even dream of swearing; he’s always been incredibly polite and well-mannered...
But then there's this girl he left me for, claiming he's head over heels and wants to marry her one day. So, I wouldn't go as far as saying his life isn't interesting—it's more like he's dealing with some massive internal issues.
quietseal2 said:- let the idiot run.
- nah, that’s not a normal reaction.
- how am I supposed to stay on good terms with someone who cheated on me and left me for someone else?
I don't know... maybe it's because I'm being naive... since we've known each other since we were kids, I tried to just brush it off and maintain some kind of civil relationship, mostly because of our history and the fact that I'm forced to see him around campus at college and stuff, so we wouldn't end up acting like total strangers...
But honestly, I was just floored by what he actually managed to say to my face after everything... and yeah, I have zero intention of hanging out with him ever again.
Hey everyone... I’m not entirely sure if this is the right place for this kind of thing, but I’ll give it a shot....
To make a long story short, my boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago to be with someone else (and honestly, it wasn't even the first time; he cheated on me once before), but we managed to stay on decent terms... we talked a few times and hung out occasionally, just as friends. Then, a couple of days ago, he suddenly started blowing up my phone, asking if I was seeing anyone, whether I thought his new girlfriend was actually good enough for him, and why I hadn't tried to get back together with him after we split up. He even started grilling me about whether our sex life had been good (he’s always been pretty insecure about intimacy, which seems to be a recurring theme in most areas of his life, really)....
Anyway, he eventually jumped to the conclusion that the sex must have been great, because otherwise, why would I have stayed with him for three years and "cheated" on him? In a moment of pure, mindless sarcasm, I asked him how he could possibly be so sure I hadn't cheated on him (I know, I know, I shouldn't have said it, but it was just a joke, and when I saw his reaction, I was so stunned I didn't even realize I should take it back)... and that’s when he absolutely lost it. He started sending these vile messages calling me every name in the book—just total trash—telling me I’m dead to him now. He was cursing God, Jesus, my mother, everything under the sun. He went as far as wishing I’d drop dead from whatever happened with that guy he thinks I cheated with. He claimed I broke his heart, that I’m a terrible person, and said he hopes I never fall in love again and stay alone forever.... When I woke up, I had 38 missed calls and a mountain of texts just like that, sent all through the night....
So, basically, I want to know if this is a normal reaction for a guy who cheated on his girlfriend, dumped her, and acted like a complete lunatic just because she jokingly suggested she might have cheated on him.... I get that his ego is bruised, but the things he said to me were way over the line. To be honest, I’m actually feeling a little scared now.🤷
Thanks to everyone for the input, and sorry for the long-winded post:-)
Hey there, here are some photos of myself... I’d love to get your honest feedback and any advice you might have on how to tone things up a bit. I've recently started running and I spend a lot of time dancing—mostly jazz, MTV-style, and hip hop. My goal isn't to look overly muscular or bulky; I just want a more balanced, athletic physique.
I'm going to try uploading a few more shots because I'm having a bit of a technical headache with this forum. It keeps telling me my next post will be too large if I try to add more, but if I delete this one, the original photo disappears from the thread entirely. So, thanks in advance for bearing with me! 🙂 In these ones, my legs look a little thicker than they actually are, which is why I really wanted to share a few different angles...