Does it feel like everyone just wants to be a martyr?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Aaron Anderson72 said:Is this just an excuse for being lazy and a coward?
It’s basically like saying, "It's not my fault, it's my environment, it's my mom for being strict, I have seven different diagnoses, I'm totally helpless, life is just out to get me, there's nothing I can do."
And then you just use that as a reason to stay curled up in bed and do absolutely nothing?
What do you guys think?
Also, looking at how churches operate (like I mentioned earlier), I really don't get why they put such a huge emphasis on suffering.
Maybe it's because "suffering" is basically just a fancy way of saying you turn the other cheek. Like, someone throws a rock at you, and instead of throwing bread back, you just take the hit. You end up with a lump on your head, but hey, you didn't retaliate—you're a good little Christian, spreading love and all that. At least, that’s how I interpreted it growing up while my mom dragged me to service every Sunday, haha.😁
Look, people are just wired this way. They'll weaponize just about anything. Some people actually have issues, some people worry they might have issues so they go down a Google rabbit hole (and end up convinced they're dying or totally fine), and then there are the ones who performatively act out, inventing drama just to stay in the spotlight.
There’s also the whole overpopulation thing to consider (maybe we should get more educated on birth control 😛), which adds layers to the explanation. But really, it boils down to this:
You hang out with a friend. You guys joke around, she’s upbeat, everything is chill—just standard, lighthearted conversation about life and big dreams. It’s a normal vibe, you chat, you part ways, and that’s that.
Then you have the *other* kind of friend. She’s got a thousand problems. Everything is wrong, everything is terrible, she’s depressed, she’s crying, she’s moping... And obviously, you don't want to be a jerk and leave a lady stranded in the middle of town, so you step in to comfort her. You ask "what happened?" and try to soothe her. That attention ends up being way more intense than the fun time you had with the first friend—mostly because you’re walking on eggshells, terrified that if you say one wrong thing, she’ll burst into tears or blow up at you after thirty minutes of peace. Most people are addicted to that intensity. It’s heavy, and honestly, hardly anyone has the guts to just say, "Hey, shut up already, you're being exhausting." But nobody wants to look like the "bad guy."
Personally, I gravitate toward people with positive energy. Usually, a little bit of that rubs off on you and you actually feel happy 🙂. Or maybe we’ve all just had our brains washed. There's constant garbage in the world; you can practically predict the news cycle (doom, doom, and more doom)... Maybe we just don't know any better anymore. 🤷
(Yeah, yeah, whatever. Kids these days will probably grow up watching versions of Cinderella where the prince is a total jerk and Cinderella just pops a pill because her love life is a wreck.)
P.S. lol here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5QHJzWddOa8. (If you're actually dealing with serious issues, please don't take this to heart)