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bluewalker33 said:Some women just hit the jackpot by birth and are living the dream, while others are out there struggling just to keep their heads above water. But those of us still looking? We’re hunting for the lucky ones, even if they’re rare as hell...
Back in high school, the hottest girl I knew was still single. She’s twenty-nine now, looks like a total doll, and she's still flying solo just like me. Probably still holding out for someone who actually deserves her.
It isn't just about luck; some women honestly prefer being solo—enjoying life without someone constantly hovering or nagging them. Take me, for instance. When I lived with a guy, I was losing my mind within two months. We just didn't click enough to build a lifetime together.
bluewalker33 said:Unfortunately, the average Joe outnumbers the educated crowd... which is why mediocrity and pure stupidity seem to be everywhere you look.
Where did this happen? What forum or thread was this on?
Look, for those of us who wait longer to get married—or don't at all—it’s because we’d rather have nothing than settle for something subpar.
Well, thank God for that. True equality today means having total autonomy over one's own body—deciding what to do with it without being forced into motherhood if that isn't the goal. If someone wants to live a life of pure leisure, that should be their choice, not dictated by some narrow-minded view of "nature." I've had enough of those lectures.
I suppose I would have married if I’d actually met an exceptional man—but I haven't. Just because the most intellectually stunted girls in my class ended up married with kids doesn't mean I'm somehow "lesser." It just means they settled for whatever mediocre guy came along, whereas I refused to settle for anyone who was dull, limited, or simply unimpressive.
If I had encountered a man who truly impressed me, I might be married by now; however, since I haven't, I refuse to marry just to satisfy social expectations. Besides, nobody really believes in the institution of marriage anymore—so this whole frantic rush toward it feels pretty pointless to me.
I suppose I’ve been lucky here—mostly because every time I start a thread about how mediocre people can be, especially regarding the whole marriage circus, some women descend upon me like dragons. They love to question my authority—asking who I am to judge, or implying that if nobody wants me, then my opinion must be invalid.
It’s a losing battle trying to explain to people like that—those absolute idiots—that a woman’s entire existence isn't defined solely by who happens to be chasing her.
Honestly, I’m really enjoying the women in this thread—it's refreshing to see people who don't just chase every passing trend and actually have enough sense to look down on mediocrity.
I’ve always had an affinity for women who blaze their own trails, though—unfortunately—there comes an age where being a total outlier becomes difficult. There's this constant, nagging pressure to prove to the world that you've checked all the boxes—marriage, kids, the whole "standard" life path.
Then, predictably, you get targeted by the masses—that average, uninspired crowd that loves nothing more than discrimination and attacks. And let me tell you, there are plenty of them. Most are incredibly aggressive, likely because they're miserable with their own lives and feel the need to drag everyone else down to their level just to justify their own choices.
I simply cannot wrap my head around people who bully others into conformity. It represents such a profound level of idiocy—an absolute failure of personal growth and basic empathy.
While I personally adore the eccentric and the unconventional, most people just flat-out hate them. To me, those people are just... intellectually stunted.
Paul Adams31 said:What can you even say? It’s pure primitivism. Personally, I find it best when someone steps up and pays for the wedding because their partner is pregnant—it just makes things easier. It seems most marriages eventually sour; living with someone for years without falling into a stagnant routine is incredibly difficult. Why bother getting married at all? What's the harm in a couple living together without the ceremony? It's essentially the same thing, and if the relationship fails, they don't have to deal with the headache of a divorce. Gender dynamics are complicated, and honestly, I'm not sure what purpose a wedding actually serves anymore. It's nothing more than a formality, which might not even be the smartest move given how chaotic things are these days. 🤷
It also blows my mind that anyone would go into debt for $150 $0.00 or more just to throw this massive production, only to end up divorced three years later. I know plenty of people who have done exactly that.
I just don't get it. I could never justify dropping that kind of cash on some silly wedding. If I ever did decide to marry, I wouldn't spend more than maybe $3,000—just enough for a nice dinner with close family. I don't understand that mindset—the obsession with finding "the" dress, ensuring it's the most beautiful thing on Earth, or spending $15 $0.00 on accessories. I truly don't understand women who think like that; what world are they living in?
Some "princesses" get married thinking they'll be happy forever with their prince, only to be filing for divorce within a few years—ten at the absolute most.
Here we go—another topic for the pile.
What truly gets under my skin is how much people today just default to stereotypes. The typical American script is pretty rigid: get married by 25, take out those massive mortgages, find a husband (mandatory), and have a few kids—ideally as many as possible.
If you don't fit that mold, you usually end up being the target of judgment or scorn; most people look at you as if you’re somehow "lesser" or fundamentally broken.
I’m 31 now, so according to this social blueprint, I should have been settled down ages ago. I recently ran into an old classmate who already has three kids, and he spent a full two hours lecturing me on why I’m not married and don't have children yet—asking things like, "So what's the issue?" or "How haven't you found anyone?" or even implying that nobody wants me.
The reality of my life isn't that something is missing—everyone who actually knows me can attest that everything is fine. It's just that I hate being tied down; I value my independence, I dislike feeling suffocated, and frankly, I enjoy living on my own. That's just who I am. And because of that, I'm treated like a total anomaly. I could have easily married my long-term boyfriend if I had wanted to, but I didn't, because he had no drive to work or build a life, so I realized he wasn't the one for me. I could have also just proven I was "wanted" by checking off all the boxes society forces on us—from family to the media—but I refused to force a marriage just to satisfy everyone else instead of myself. Now, I'm viewed as this "oddity" that no one will touch at 31, when the truth is I simply chose not to marry someone who wasn't a perfect match for me. I chose to be happy. Instead, I was expected to just marry anyone, produce a brood, and call it a day just to satisfy some arbitrary sense of justice. 🙂 🙂
Why are there so many Americans clinging to these stereotypes, while so few women seem to be original or do things simply because they decided to, rather than because their environment demanded it? Why aren't there more people breaking away from the norm—people who are genuinely put-together, living their lives without needing to parade a "perfect" domestic image for show?
It would be lovely if it were all sincere, but most of those people just open a Meta profile to rub it in everyone else's faces—showing off how they "made it," how perfect they are, and how flawlessly they've adhered to the status quo. Who knows if they even love their poor spouses? You can say that again.
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