Toxic family dynamics: How do you deal with it?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Look, Zachary James5, you aren't alone in this. I’m dealing with the exact same mess, except my parents won't stop tearing me down. They won't even let me sleep more than seven hours, they constantly belittle everything I do, call me crazy... honestly, the house is a total pigsty. It’s enough to make you lose your lunch just walking through the door.
They love lecturing me on what and when to eat, which is rich coming from people who are all overweight themselves—me included, sure, but they're the last people on earth who should be handing out diet advice.
As for messy divorces and cheating? Yeah, I've checked those boxes too. I’m grinding through my Master’s degree right now. It’s an uphill battle, but I’ll get there. Honestly, the only reason I’m actually finishing is because I couldn't stand being at Home Depot most of the time; I was always running off somewhere else just so I could find a quiet corner to study.
Some situations, some people, some absolute disasters—you just can't change them, and they're always going to hit you. But your number one priority right now is getting that degree in your hand. Grind through the online classes—just don't screw up your credits—and then start building a life for yourself far away from all of them. My mom has leaned into this dynamic so much that she's beyond help at this point; the best thing she could ever do is just see us succeed and leave it at that.
Keep your head up.
They love lecturing me on what and when to eat, which is rich coming from people who are all overweight themselves—me included, sure, but they're the last people on earth who should be handing out diet advice.
As for messy divorces and cheating? Yeah, I've checked those boxes too. I’m grinding through my Master’s degree right now. It’s an uphill battle, but I’ll get there. Honestly, the only reason I’m actually finishing is because I couldn't stand being at Home Depot most of the time; I was always running off somewhere else just so I could find a quiet corner to study.
Some situations, some people, some absolute disasters—you just can't change them, and they're always going to hit you. But your number one priority right now is getting that degree in your hand. Grind through the online classes—just don't screw up your credits—and then start building a life for yourself far away from all of them. My mom has leaned into this dynamic so much that she's beyond help at this point; the best thing she could ever do is just see us succeed and leave it at that.
Keep your head up.