Posts by shadowfalcon43

and I don't know... just to get under everyone else's skin, I guess... 😂

Peter Adams58 said:Or maybe you should just watch what you say?
We can't know what's actually going on in your head at the moment; we only see what gets typed out 🙄. We don't see your actual reactions.
I'm sure you didn't mean anything by it, but it's probably best to be careful 😁
. Most of us are dealing with hormones anyway, right? 😁

Honestly, I think you've got it wrong... because in my very FIRST post about this topic, I clearly wrote..."okay, if someone is dealing with actual complications and has to stay on bed rest to save the pregnancy, that's a different story and needs to be taken seriously..."...but I guess people just skimmed right over that. People tend to read exactly what they want to see...

And frankly, I'm not planning on apologizing... because I stand by everything I said. Yeah, my hormones are all over the place too—I'm pregnant... and I'm not some wide-eyed kid in her second month... I'm at the end of my seventh month and I'm definitely not exactly a "cheerful little hummingbird" anymore...

Anyway, thanks for reminding me why I stopped posting on this forum in the first place...🙂

It’s funny how quickly people jump to name-calling... personally, I wouldn't give a second thought to someone's opinion if I felt like I was just acting according to my own "mental state"... basically, if I believe my behavior is justified 🙂

EDIT: seriously, just relax... if you actually took the time to read through the last page or two of posts, you'd realize this whole thing got unnecessarily complicated... mostly because someone misread what was actually said! Or they totally misinterpreted it... or whatever. There was zero malice intended here... and heaven forbid anyone was actually attacking pregnant women with complications. OMG! relax!

hiddentiger80 said:I haven't been able to help myself, I've mostly just been lurking lately 😬 but what really gets under my skin is how people act toward pregnant women—and specifically how some other pregnant women act toward me 😳
I mean, honestly, ever since I became pregnant, it’s like my perceived value has suddenly skyrocketed in some people's eyes (it's such a total catastrophe). Like, why? If I hadn't had kids or wasn't pregnant, I would have just been treated like some nobody 😕 Everyone keeps pushing these complications on me, like, WTF? I'm not sick, I don't need someone to make my bed for me, and then they start questioning my belly because I'm only in my sixth month and still look thin 😠
I want to exercise, and everything is scheduled for pregnant women at noon, so I do that, but now that I'm back in a regular group, I've sorted that out 🙂. Forgive me, ladies, but I truly don't see any reason why anyone should have to step out of my way in a line or move aside for me? 😳 Oh my god, please, who cares... there was this scene in the grocery store checkout: I stand there waiting my turn, and then my partner arrives a bit later with the shopping cart, and he gives me this absolutely stunned look (you really should have seen his face) pointing out that I need to go behind the woman behind me because she's pregnant and arrived after me 😕 I turn around and this woman absolutely murders me with her eyes because I "killed her mom" or whatever 😲 So I said to him, hey, I was perfectly in line, by the way, and why did you forget that I'm also pregnant? As if it isn't obvious enough to kill me? I think we understand each other, and frankly, I'm dealing with my own crisis and my ligaments are killing me 😁 (that's what I call it when my uterus feels like it's splitting apart from time to time) but so what? This is a different situation 🤷 Fala Bog thank goodness I don't have any actual medical emergencies right now that would require people to clear a path for me... but the rest of this just goes into describing my current state...

It really gets under my skin when I hear people saying stuff like, "Oh, I'm pregnant, so I can't lift more than ten pounds," or "I can't go to the grocery store alone because I can't carry the bags..." or "I can't clean the house because I'm not supposed to." My god... 🙄🙄
...Look, if someone is dealing with actual medical complications and needs to stay on bed rest to save the pregnancy, fine—that’s serious and you have to respect that. But sometimes it feels like certain women are just waiting for a positive test so they can act helpless, miserable, and basically eat their way into a coma!

And then there's the constant judgment I get for still working out... (okay, sure, I've dialed back the intensity, but I haven't quit!) or for actually eating healthy and not having these bizarre, uncontrollable cravings. Sure, my ligaments and my back ache sometimes... but on those days, I just lie down, take it easy, move slow... and by the next day, I'm back to my normal self!!

velvetstag31 said:It seriously drives me insane when people start interrogating me about why I didn't wait for a permanent job or why on earth I decided to get pregnant while I'm between gigs. I’ve caught myself actually trying to justify my life choices more times than I care to admit, but honestly, I'm done with that... It took me a minute to realize how incredibly rude it is to dig that deep into someone else's private business, like, why do you even care about my timing?!? Because it happened when it happened, okay! That's why! Ugh...

Reading through these threads just makes my skin crawl with all these mindless jabs and people who clearly have zero manners. And no, it's not because I'm being overly sensitive 🙂

Oh man... it was the exact same thing for me!

Literally EVERYONE started with the same script: "So what's the plan?" ... "Are you even eligible for benefits?" ... "What happens to your career?" (I had a contract job, plus some freelance stuff on the side)... honestly, people, mind your own business... unless you're planning on paying my bills... which you AREN'T, so just fck off. 🙂🙂

brightotter14 said:I don't get it either—and we're over here being totally stoked 😍

Nah, mostly because I know she wasn't being malicious, she was just "worrying" about whether MM would be unhappy about it.....🙂
And it's obvious to me that some older lady doesn't realize that I wouldn't even grab a coffee with a loser like him, let alone share a bed and a mortgage... but whatever. I hate having to defend myself against stuff like this, and having anyone even suggest our little one could be anything other than loved and wanted!

I'm really crossing my fingers that I have a girl on the way 😍
bless you, a little princess is coming your way 😍

You bet!! We've already got a mountain of pink outfits ready for the neighborhood's biggest little diva 😍

God, those medieval mindsets... acting like it doesn't count if it isn't a boy... honestly, gross.🤮

We're all actually thrilled we're having a girl... and if I'm being honest, we were secretly hoping for a girl this whole time. Meanwhile, MM keeps going on and on about how happy he is and how great everything is... and how much he loves her... he's already completely head over heels...😍 😍

Andrew Martin89 said:It really gets under my skin when there’s absolutely nothing in that RI package!!!

I got some kind of starter kit during my first trimester checkup at the doctor—is that what people are talking about? Or am I missing something else entirely?

😂😂 Tyler Ramos

I actually found myself thinking about you guys again today... specifically regarding this exact topic. 😁

It was one of those moments where someone was clearly trying to get a little too handsy around my stomach area—and there I was, all worked up and "ready" for whatever... 🙂but I just bluntly asked them to stop touching my midsection. Honestly? Maybe I was being a bit rude... 🤣🤷

Justin Baker3 said:I’m with Michael King on this one.
I’m 21, and I happen to be one of those people who has a flat, barely visible stomach 🙂 even though I eat plenty. It drives me crazy when people ask stupid questions like, "Are you even eating anything?" or "Don't starve yourself." Honestly, my apologies if I didn't eat a massive feast just so I could fit into all my clothes.
As for touching my stomach—especially since mine is so small—it’s well below my belly button, yet people constantly try to poke me above the navel or near my ribs. Get it together, everyone. Ask first, and then MAYBE you can touch me.

It’s the exact same thing with me! It’s like everyone is just sitting there waiting for me to gain weight so they can finally feel satisfied and happy with themselves 😁 🙄

Ugh 🙂🙂😵 😠 I honestly just don't get THESE people with their mindless comments.
It’s not even specifically about pregnant women—though, okay, fine—but generally speaking, those comments like "did you gain a little weight?"... "you don't look so great"... "you look exhausted"... and all those other variations... it is just straight-up RUDE to say that!!!
I would be absolutely mortified if I said something like that to someone, especially someone I'm not even close to... I mean, seriously, WTF?! Just mind your own business and move on 🙂🙂

Tyler Ramos said:I honestly find it so draining when I run into women who have been pregnant or are currently expecting and act like they’ve suddenly absorbed the collective wisdom of the entire universe—as if nobody knows anything about pregnancy or babies better than they do.
They love to toss out unsolicited "advice" left and right, even though absolutely no one asked for their input, and then they get all huffy and offended if you dare to disagree with them on even the smallest point.
God forbid you actually have an original thought or decide to handle things a little differently than some self-appointed expert momma.🙂

It also drives me up the wall when women who have already given birth describe their delivery as this horrific, bloody battlefield and the absolute worst thing that ever happened to them—especially when they choose to recount those grim details to someone who is currently pregnant.
Look, I get it, childbirth isn't exactly a stroll through Central Park, and some people definitely go through incredibly grueling experiences, but why on earth would you tell that to a woman who’s about to be on that delivery table herself in just a few days?

Well, since I'm clearly on a roll venting about everything that's getting on my nerves... 😬
..I also have to deal with people during this pregnancy who think they have a free pass to just reach out and poke my stomach.
I’m only 20 weeks along, yet people are out here trying to massage my midsection when the baby is still well below the belly button. And let me be clear: I do not want anyone touching me below my navel.
Get lost.

😂😂 I seriously don't get why everyone feels the need to touch a pregnant woman's belly 🙂
and I have a feeling it's gonna drive me absolutely insane too!!

goldenmarlin352 said:It’s the exact same story over here. I’m currently in my 18th week, and about a week ago, my appetite just exploded overnight 🙂 I feel like I could eat a hundred times a day, haha. I’ve already put on about 4 pounds, and by my next checkup at the clinic, it'll probably be 😲

At my last checkup back in the 3rd week, I was actually down 1 lb... but that's just the appetite part. 😁
We'll find out in a week... things have calmed down a little over the last couple of days, though. I guess it just comes in waves... 🤔

I’ve gotta say, my appetite is actually catching me off guard right now 🙂🙂—for the last two or three days, it’s been absolutely wild. Everything tastes great and I just feel hungry all the time! WHY?! I’m assuming this means the nausea is finally over... which is obviously a massive relief... but 🙂
🙂🙂

So far, the nausea has been the absolute biggest shocker... I honestly had no clue it could be this brutal!! It’s not just that typical "ugh, I don't like this" kind of disgust where you can just power through it... it's more like a full-on visceral revolt—like if you even catch a whiff of something or try to take a bite, you feel like your entire body is going to turn inside out!! 😲 ...and the weirdest part is that my nausea didn't actually go away after eating; it was the exact opposite... I couldn't force myself to eat a single thing!!
And honestly, it's driving me insane how EVERYONE keeps pestering me about work!! Since I don't have a steady job right now, people are acting so weird about it—they all claim they're "concerned" and start asking if I'll have enough money, what my rights are, how I'm going to manage, what I'm going to do next, and so on and so forth... 🙄
There's plenty more where that came from... 😁😁