Struggling Parents
in Psychology & Therapy ·
dustysailor28 said:The second someone drops a popcorn emoji, I know exactly what’s happening—they think they’re watching some big cinematic drama unfold, when really, they’re just being obnoxious. In this case, it's pretty obvious you're just here for the entertainment value, so honestly? I’m going to skip your entire post. Go ahead and take that "main character" energy somewhere else—maybe find another thread to stir the pot in. By the way, I liked your old avatar better.
I’m telling you, I’ll head over to the apartment eventually—but definitely not tomorrow. If I show up even a second earlier than expected, he’s going to absolutely lose his mind because he'll think I actually moved back in. forever Home. You feel me? 🙂
My girlfriend actually has a job, but since she isn't getting a steady paycheck right now, we’re basically fighting a constant uphill battle just to stay afloat. As for me, I pick up various freelance gigs or side hustles whenever they pop up—you know, those little jobs that come along every now and then. The problem is, there are almost zero student employment opportunities out there that offer anything more than a quick month of work. I’m always hunting for something more substantial—something that might last six months or so—because if her paychecks were actually hitting our bank account on schedule, we wouldn't be in this mess. Do you see why we're so screwed? Honestly, the system is just rigged against us from every single angle. 😢 And then you've got those frail old folks.
Look, I am not some dependent living off my parents. Every single month, I manage to land at least three different gigs, and they actually have the nerve to ask me to pay them back for whatever little things I spend—which, honestly, would be the absolute peak of jerk behavior on their part. I barely eat more than one small meal a day, so I’m certainly not running up a massive grocery bill. I don't ask them for a dime, they don't give me any money, and they don't buy me anything. If they really expected me to chip in for these tiny little household expenses, then I’d expect my sister to be doing the exact same thing, considering she’s the one still actually living in that house.
So, is there actually a way—some kind of strategy or logical comeback—to use when he starts bashing the whole idea of independence again? I need something solid so that when he inevitably starts clutching his pearls and accusing me of "just philosophizing" or talking like some uneducated rube, I actually have a point.
sorry, but no matter how brave you think you are for "coming out of the closet"
your immaturity really shines through in your words.
first of all, those are your parents, and regardless of what they're like, you should be grateful you even have the option to breathe and consider moving out.
suicide attempts, I won't comment on that
nor running away from home, based on what I've gathered, at seventeen
my view of you is that you're just a rebel without a cause who hasn't fully defined herself as a person yet. You should slow down and think, because this all still feels like an immature plan.
I can't comment on the situation at your house, but I wouldn't be surprised if you've exaggerated it in your own head. If it really is as you say, get a decent job (if you're an adult, retail and serving are always hiring; you don't need student services, just find something official where you get a paycheck and you'll see the money... you just have to try harder to find it).