How to deal with social burnout?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Someone made a great point earlier—the issue might be that I’m trying way too hard. I overextend myself trying to spark a conversation, which feels pretty absurd in today's world where being open and hunting for a new crew is treated like a chore.
- Exactly. Stop forcing it. You're pushing against things you can't control, and frankly, it's a losing game. People are who they are. Nowadays, especially given the state of things, money dictates everything—personal satisfaction, mood, all of it. Most people just want to be left alone, which I get.
But heaven forbid I actually step out and try to talk to someone new; it turns into an absolute train wreck every single time.
- Question: What kind of communication are we talking about here? Like, what do you actually talk about?
So what's the move? Avoid new people entirely so I don't have to deal with obnoxious, disgusting personalities? It's clear I'll never be some big VIP, but I didn't realize it would be this difficult to just have a decent, pleasant interaction that makes a person feel even slightly valued.
- Trying to connect with others just to feel validated is a bad strategy. Everyone is different. One person might tell you you're amazing, while another tells you you're an idiot. Usually, people fixate on the negative, and then the whole circus starts with everyone making excuses and spinning nonsense.
- Exactly. Stop forcing it. You're pushing against things you can't control, and frankly, it's a losing game. People are who they are. Nowadays, especially given the state of things, money dictates everything—personal satisfaction, mood, all of it. Most people just want to be left alone, which I get.
But heaven forbid I actually step out and try to talk to someone new; it turns into an absolute train wreck every single time.
- Question: What kind of communication are we talking about here? Like, what do you actually talk about?
So what's the move? Avoid new people entirely so I don't have to deal with obnoxious, disgusting personalities? It's clear I'll never be some big VIP, but I didn't realize it would be this difficult to just have a decent, pleasant interaction that makes a person feel even slightly valued.
- Trying to connect with others just to feel validated is a bad strategy. Everyone is different. One person might tell you you're amazing, while another tells you you're an idiot. Usually, people fixate on the negative, and then the whole circus starts with everyone making excuses and spinning nonsense.