Quincy Adams
Justin Allen81 said:Something really rubbed me the wrong way the other day—not directly related to the pregnancy, but let’s just roll with it: we were having coffee with my husband's side of the family when they brought up the whole "celebration" thing for the baby's arrival. Apparently, he’s expected to host some big get-together while I’m stuck in the hospital, because that’s just how things are done, right?
My husband and I just shared this one look.😁
He tried to explain to them that the idea was completely insane to us—that him drinking and hosting a party while I'm lying in a hospital bed is just wrong. He told them he’ll be home looking after our daughter and getting everything ready for when we finally head back from the hospital, so we can all celebrate together once I've actually recovered.
And those looks they gave him...🤣 It was like, "That's not how you do things." As if he isn't entitled to celebrate the birth of his son however he damn well pleases! Like, heaven forbid a man doesn't get wasted the second a baby is born just to show he's happy.🙏
We explained it again.
No, it’s not how it works.
We explained it yet again.
"Well, I guess you won't be joining us for a drink then!" they snapped.
🤣
Honestly, I'm just waiting for them to show up at our doorstep uninvited.🤣 My only regret is that I won't be there to witness the drama.🤣
Microsoft and I were in the hospital together after F was born. I lost a lot of blood and couldn't even get out of bed for a few days, so having him right there meant everything. We didn't bother with any big celebrations then; we just enjoyed being together in the hospital. Once she hit the one-month mark, we treated the family to a celebration—my folks had already thrown a little get-together for their friends the day I gave birth.
Quincy Adams
Justin Allen81 said:Look, I get it—if that setup works for you all, then fine. It’s your call. But that’s just not how we’re doing things. Honestly, we aren't even planning any big, traditional celebrations—the kind everyone expects. We’ll probably just host a nice lunch for my parents and siblings in a few weeks once we've settled in, and then maybe grab drinks with friends later on. Hosting parties at our apartment is basically out of the question right now anyway; we have neighbors who are as annoying as they come.😁
My daughter recently had a birthday party with five friends from 5 PM to 9 PM over the weekend, and this neighbor actually had the nerve to come banging on the door, screaming about us "jumping around" the apartment.🤣
Felicity was lucky she didn't hear it. My husband took one listen to her and sent her on her way—he's a calm guy, so he didn't feel the need to get into a massive argument. Though, frankly, I have no idea what I would have said to her if she'd tried to lecture me personally.😁
It’s just incredibly irritating when people start lecturing me with that "this is how it's done" or "how can you think that" attitude. It’s the same loop every single time—it happened with the wedding (since we didn't do the whole classic thing), it's happening with the baptism (since there won't be one), and so on. I don't see why anyone has an opinion on our business other than us. It’s not like we’re living in some dystopian dictatorship where everything is MANDATORY. It isn't.😁
As for the weight gain... yikes.😁
I was at the OBGYN yesterday and they put me on the scale; I nearly fell off from the sheer shock. I'm not telling anyone how much I've gained.🤣
I think when they inevitably ask (and they ask CONSTANTLY), I'll just tell them to mind their own business. They can check back in with me once I've fully developed a double chin.😁
I told my dad straight up that we aren't baptizing the baby, and his response was basically, "Don't do this to me!" Like, I'm not doing it *to* you. It's my kid, my call. He should probably want her baptized for his own sake, not because of what the neighbors think...