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I might sound a bit blunt or even selfish to some, but I truly believe that having a child doesn't mean your life comes to a halt; on the contrary, it is actually where the real journey begins. It certainly demands an immense amount of effort, sacrifice, sweat, and time, yet it is by no means impossible because you find yourself possessed by so much more motivation, valuing every single moment and achievement far more deeply, and constantly seeking out new ways to succeed. Anyone who allows themselves to be completely consumed by their child—even when there is no medical necessity to do so—is ultimately responsible for feeling as though their own life is slipping away. With proper organization, people can successfully navigate college, sports training, and everything else; I refuse to lose my sense of self for the sake of my child, though I am always willing to adapt as much as necessary!
placidtinker31 said:Question about what happens after you give birth 🙂
I’m out here in the middle of nowhere, home alone with two kids. My husband works away from home, so he’s only back for maybe ten days every few weeks...
The first couple of times, my mom used to come stay with us. She can't anymore. Now, my mother-in-law lives 19 miles right next door and she never stops questioning me about how I’m handling everything. She acts like she’s making some huge sacrifice, yet my own mother isn't there? Or my sister? She never mentions them... 🙄
The breaking point was when she actually suggested someone should take both kids away for at least five days just so I could get some sleep and bond with the baby.
Are you kidding me?! There is absolutely no way I’m letting anyone take my children away. I want us to be together constantly. I’m not risking any kind of trauma over something so trivial. God forbid there are complications, but right now, that idea sounds completely insane to me...
How am I supposed to stay polite. How... 🕺
Well, I would happily sign my mother-in-law and sister-in-law up for all of that, except perhaps for them targeting me directly all the time—they should definitely target my husband instead! My husband doesn't work away, but he is at work from 7 AM to 7 PM... And my mother-in-law actually raised three children herself while living in a house back when cars weren't on every corner and mobile phones didn't exist😂. Even so, my own family isn't much better, even though nobody else (except for me, quite soon) has more than two children, so they all just act like, "Oh my goodness, how will you manage? Three kids? It's going to be so hard!"