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casualowl33 said:What really gets under my skin, both back then and even more so now, is when people just reach out and touch my belly. I don't mind if someone does it once if it’s absolutely necessary—especially once the bump is more prominent—but during my first pregnancy, having people poking at my stomach before it had even begun to show was honestly such an uncomfortable experience...
And now, with this second pregnancy, what’s really getting to me is how incredibly sensitive I’ve become; I feel like I’m constantly on the verge of tears over everything, which definitely wasn't the case during my first one.
The constant belly-poking still drives me nuts. It feels rude and totally unnecessary. Just yesterday, someone did it twice, even though I kept trying to move away.🙂
Olivia Newman3 said:The first four months of pregnancy: you don’t even have a bump yet, so everyone keeps asking, "Wait, are you actually pregnant?"
By the sixth month: suddenly, it's all, "Oh wow, look at that belly! Are you about to pop any day now?"
🤦🤦🤦🙂
Man, this started getting under my skin too. Next week I hit 24 weeks, and every single person who knows I'm expecting has the exact same line: "I can't even tell."
It drives me absolutely insane.
And then there's that other one: "You haven't even gained any weight."
So, I was at a funeral yesterday, right? And this woman—my husband’s godmother—comes up to greet me. She mentions she’s only seen me twice in her entire life, and then, out of nowhere, she goes to pat my stomach.
I swear, I almost snapped and asked her what on earth she thought she was doing. 😁
Either I’ve clearly gained some weight or she just has zero class, but either way, it was incredibly tacky and weird.
silentnomad8 said:silentsurfer76, I'm still wearing my regular underwear and I've got four weeks left until my due date. I just avoid the low-rise pairs and stick to ones with a stronger waistband so I don't actually need maternity underwear. 😉
My bump didn't show for a long time either. People were constantly questioning me, wondering why there was no sign of a pregnancy at four or five months. Honestly, at five months, you couldn't even tell through my clothes if I was pregnant or just gained some weight. 😀 It wasn't until the third trimester that things finally popped out enough for people to realize.
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I thought you meant maternity pants or general maternity clothes.😁 I wear one pair of jeans with the button undone, and I can still squeeze into another pair for now, but I think they’ll be unbuttoned pretty soon too.🙂
People asking things like, "Oh, I can't even tell you're pregnant," lol
We’re four months in now, so theoretically, the bump should be showing and the scale should be moving.
Part of me wants that visual confirmation, but the other part? Not so much. If I had to start buying specialized maternity leggings and stuff just to hide it, I'd rather just keep squeezing into my regular clothes. 😁
Juicer, I spent the entire day trekking through NYC. People were all like, "That's probably not the smartest move. You want to be able to do things, right? It's going to be exhausting. How are you even driving?" 🙄
The only real downside to being out and about all day was the constant need to find a restroom, which is way easier when you're just hanging out at home, haha.
As for baby gear, I’m buying the stroller myself. I don't want anyone else picking things out based on their own whims—I want exactly what I want.
silentnomad8 Honestly, I think I could live with not seeing my mother-in-law all that often either. 😁
And regarding that old saying about "when the baby breathes again"... thank God nobody ever said that to me. 😁
What really gets under my skin are those comments whenever I try to get things done or even just plan to be active: "You shouldn't do that," "You need to rest," "Be careful," blah blah blah. Like I’m some kind of invalid. Honestly, most of this comes from my mother-in-law.
As for my own mom and the rest of the family, they finally backed off after I shut them down a few times. They were pregnant too once and lived totally normal lives, so they get it—mostly. Why is pregnancy treated like a disease these days? Don't get me wrong, I know there are high-risk pregnancies and all that, but personally, I feel great. No morning sickness, no fatigue, just regular life. I do housework, I ride my bike, I head out to the farm with the family when they have gatherings😁 and enjoy it. Everything is just like it was before I got pregnant. Of course, I’m more cautious now because I don't want to risk anything for myself or the baby, obviously. But every woman's experience is different, and I think we know our own limits better than anyone else 👍
Then there's the commentary: "Have you really not gained any weight?" or "Well, what happens now?" I eat healthy, I stay active, I'm doing everything I did before. It's not like I'm just lying on the couch all day letting it all pile on—not that I mean to offend anyone 😁.
And since my husband is a merchant marine, I'll be on my own with the newborn while he's away, and my mother-in-law is always hovering. We even eat separately, yet she still starts in with, "Oh, what did you cook today? You aren't eating right," blah blah blah 😵🤦
Also, the idea that my mom or mother-in-law will just descend upon us to "help" once the baby arrives makes my skin crawl. Like one girl mentioned here, that’s exactly the period where I actually want to bond with my husband without everyone else's unsolicited advice ringing in my ears. Fine, we'll see how it goes once the baby is born, but honestly, I hope I can handle it on my own. I like doing things myself and I'm not exactly the type to jump at help. Like I said, we'll see 😉
And if I dare suggest that my kid might end up using hand-me-downs or second-hand stuff, that's when the real drama starts 😁😁. People act like it's a crime. "Tradition should be respected," "Use the old stroller," "Use the old crib," blah blah blah—or then they say nobody should buy anything until they're told exactly what's needed, which is also "wrong." Good grief 🙂