Posts by Gary Cooper11

Jason Ward35 said:Well, you clearly need some 🙂 if you ever hope to improve 😬

I mean, I know... it all just leads right back to my original point, doesn't it? 😛

Gerald Rivera60 said:It’s as simple as this: I have zero interest in treating people with personality disorders, yet I am fascinated by the neurophysiological mechanisms behind behavior and cognition.
Or maybe I don't care for working in an HR department at a big corporation, but I'm deeply interested in how attitudes are acquired and shifted.
Maybe I have no desire to work in a school system, but I want to uncover the mechanics of how autobiographical memory is formed. And so on.
The point is, I don't care about "fixing" people; I care about understanding them—and myself.
That is why I have no interest in traditional practice, particularly within a clinical or similar setting.

Goodness gracious, people, why is it so hard to see what I'm trying to get at here?
Let's try to simplify this... everything you mentioned is fine, okay... but do you honestly think I wouldn't find these things interesting if I didn't have an "open channel" in my brain for perceiving complex situations, thoughts, and whatnot? Do you think I wouldn't be able to analyze, learn, and truly grasp the principles upon which the human psyche operates? Or that I wouldn't be able to realistically view situations from multiple angles and use that insight to reach valid conclusions that serve me both professionally and personally?
Do you seriously believe you can learn all of that just by reading textbooks?
And regarding personal inclinations... and the fact that I would always choose to work with individuals struggling with various psychological disorders... look, we aren't going to debate whether we agree or not. My perspective is simply this: if someone possesses the ability or the knowledge regarding how things function, and they have the opportunity to help someone else, why wouldn't they do it?
Isn't it a bit selfish to just remain a passive observer? Or is it perhaps a matter of lacking self-confidence? At the end of the day, you learn so much from those people, right? So, what is the actual purpose of the knowledge you've acquired if you don't use it?
But hey, at the end of the day, it's a matter of personal choice what you decide to do with your life... so, this is JUST my opinion!

Yeah... but what if we flip the script?
That’s really what’s been weighing on my mind lately...
I mean, looking back at all my relationships, I’ve noticed a pattern: I always seem to attract guys who are okay with how I actually behave towards them...
The only real issue is that they get used to me being pretty arrogant or saying some pretty harsh things when certain situations pop up. That isn't who I want to be—I don't want to crush anyone's spirit—but honestly, my self-control just isn't quite strong enough to stop myself when I start reacting intensely!
Does that make more sense now? Because that is the core of the problem!
P.S. I was actually at work when I was typing this, so it’s no wonder I totally messed up the phrasing! (I work in customer service answering phones 🙂 )

Kyle Nelson2 said:You’re basically trying to validate your own self-worth by proving to someone who clearly isn't interested that you're actually worth wanting...

It certainly could be... that’s just one of my personal theories on the matter. Honestly, it feels like the only logical way to explain it!

Jason Ward35 said:I don't think this just happens once in a while; I suspect it’s actually a fundamental rule of human nature. It sounds incredible, but it seems to be the truth, and honestly, I find it somewhat exhausting.

There we go... finally someone gets it. It feels like nobody else understood what I was actually trying to say except you!
And I am totally on the same page as you here!

Jeffrey White3 said:😲
Dammit! You really should have mentioned that BEFORE I signed up for my degree!

I mean, honestly... 🙄 😵

Besides, a relatively small percentage of people who graduate with a psychology degree actually do what the general public assumes they do—"helping" people or practicing therapy. Depending on their interests, plenty of people go into research, data analysis, organizational psychology, cognitive studies... The profession isn't just clinical psychology, and certainly, not every psychologist is a therapist, counselor, or "helper."

Yeah, sure... especially those who don't have enough cash, connections, or heaven knows what else to open up their own private practice... because please... tell me, what other reason would someone have to avoid practicing their profession if they went through the trouble of getting the degree in the first place? What else would cause that kind of aversion?
And one more question... on what basis are you even going to conduct scientific research if you aren't involved in practical application?
And at the end of the day... everything you listed requires actual talent!!!
I'm sticking to my guns: you really have to be born with a calling for psychology!

Okay, I think I misspoke there... I didn't mean to say it’s bad, per se. It’s more that things just don't always go smoothly. When you're constantly clashing with someone or when sparks start flying, that's what really gets to me—even if it's just bickering or a negative vibe.
I mean, wouldn't everything be incredibly boring and monotonous if it wasn't like that? Life would be so dull.
And regarding your point about people not latching onto the wrong things—I actually disagree. People definitely get hung up on the wrong stuff. Hmmm.
JUST TAKE A LOOK AROUND!
I could honestly give you a thousand different examples from my own circle of friends and acquaintances who would back me up on this.
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Hmmmmm... whether psychology actually qualifies as a science is a bit of a debatable topic, isn't it?
I feel pretty certain about one thing, though: you just can't learn how to be a psychologist or a therapist through a textbook. You either have that innate intuition from birth, or you don't.
Because of that, I honestly think most formal psychology courses end up being quite useless. We would all probably learn much more effectively by simply studying one another—really diving into self-discovery, constantly analyzing our own behaviors, and working to better ourselves.
If everyone actually did that—if we were all truly honest and approached it the right way—we wouldn't even need books or any of those "artificial" academic teachings!

I’ve been wrestling with something lately...
It seems like a universal rule that most people end up falling hard for the ones who treat them the absolute worst.
Maybe I’m just reading the room wrong, but in my experience, whenever I’m being nothing but kind and supportive, the person I’m with couldn't care less about me. But then, the moment I stop playing nice and start acting a bit difficult? Suddenly, they’re obsessed, valuing me more than ever, and all this other stuff starts happening.

I’m really curious about the psychology behind this kind of behavior.
What’s the deal with how people act? Because honestly, the most frustrating part is realizing I’m doing the exact same thing. I find myself gravitating toward those "bad" guys—the ones who treat me poorly—and for some reason, they’re the ones I want the most. It’s incredibly damaging.

WHAT THE FUCK??????????????😕