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Jason Sanchez3 said:... and then it just happened—he suddenly decided he absolutely had to try... after a whole year of intense stress and all that effort, combined with how much he ignored my feelings and those sudden changes in him, I've just shut down. I don't know if I can feel anything for him anymore, or if I even want to...
Ah, the classic scenario. You wanted him desperately when he was out of reach, but now that he's actually yours, the spark is gone. Grow up.
placidotter15 said:So, you both were just clueless? 😁
I suppose that’s about it—she just keeps droning on about her mindless shopping trips and how many guys she picks out outfits for every single day. We didn't touch on any other topics at all; I just sat there in silence, thinking, please just finish this story so we can be done with it 😁 and I can finally head home.
I suppose I fall into the "older" demographic; a stable, low-drama relationship is precisely what I’ve been looking for and what I want. Hell, why is it so difficult to walk away from the first one?
She was a nightmare (although she was quite attractive), and my intention was merely a brief fling... however, I have recently realized she has endured some significant hardships in her life that, in my estimation, make her actions understandable...
I would appreciate some feedback from the group here.
Following a breakup, I ended up in a fairly intense rebound situation—it was mostly driven by loneliness and a lack of direction, and we really had nothing in common beyond physical chemistry. She is incredibly attractive, but there wasn't much substance there. I believe the feeling was mutual.
Under these circumstances, something unexpected happened with a woman I consider a true friend; she is someone I can talk to about absolutely anything, just a wonderful person. I genuinely care about her and have no desire to hurt her.
I assumed breaking things off with the first girl would be easy, but my perspective has shifted... she has become somewhat tolerable, and the fact remains that the physical attraction is significantly stronger... even though I know it won't last and I don't want it to go on too long, but...
So, I am faced with a choice between logic and friendship versus passion and impulse... and I'm starting to wonder—if making this decision feels this difficult, is it possible that neither one is actually the right choice?