Posts by mistyrider7

You don't exactly need a PhD in genetics to see how biology plays its part.

Anyone with a bit of life experience—and maybe some actual observational skills—can tell you that honesty often shows right up in a person's face. It seems like those shady, degenerate types... well, they usually have the faces to match.

And it’s not just adults, either. You see it in kids too, before their environment even has a chance to reshape their features.

These aren't just temporary expressions you can fake; they're baked into their basic constitution.

I'm not saying everyone is genetically programmed to be dishonest, but it’s pretty obvious that plenty of them are—unless, of course, you're one of those people who chooses to look the other way.

Carol Lee4 said:- there were those attempts at proving killer genes and stuff...
- not a single study has actually confirmed anyone is born a killer just because of genetics

I think I even saw a documentary once about how a bunch of killers and violent criminals have certain chromosomal abnormalities or genetic disorders—maybe.

The whole thing with genetic influence is... complicated, I guess.
For instance, some people might carry genes that basically force them toward being honest—while others have traits that push them right toward being crooked.
Then you’ve got the ones who don't really lean either way.

So, it's entirely possible that some folks are just "born bad," whereas others are shaped by their environment.

From what I've seen personally—and even within my own family—it seems there are plenty of "bad actors" who are just genetically predisposed that way.
I come from one of those old-school American families with a long, deep lineage, and you can clearly see how genetics dictate who turns out decent and who doesn't.
I won't get into specifics, though—wouldn't want any relatives recognizing me in the text.

Carol Lee4 said:- well, there were those studies done with twins—the ones who were separated and raised in totally different environments, families...

- regardless of genes, "social circumstances" took over, and in some cases, they ended up being completely different people—behaviorally speaking and all that...

I think you might have mixed things up here.

The genetic factor actually showed its prevalence—especially when that specific trait was clearly present—and it showed up in these almost unbelievably subtle personality quirks and preferences.

Lawrence Wells said:Nobody—and I mean absolutely nobody—is born evil. If everyone around you treats you like some kind of monster your whole life, I guess you eventually just become one.

That’s just ideological wishful thinking, really.

Studies on separated twins have shown just how much genetics actually drive personality formation.

Nicole James said:I'm not even close...

I mean, how does that even relate to the topic at hand?

But you were the one talking about how useful all that hands-on experience is supposed to be...

Harold Adams5 said:I get what you're getting at—mostly.
But I guess the journey toward the "source of life" is actually more interesting than life itself—maybe.
And his to be, I guess—if that's even how things work.
And everyone wants to be the one to uncover it—all by themselves, I guess.
No recipe—just winging it, I guess.
Everything happens when it’s supposed to—I guess.
It’s all just instinct, I guess—that thing where you have to do something just because it feels like the only option left.
Just like birds heading south, I guess.😉

You probably read that somewhere... It feels a bit like those New York City New Age ramblings—I guess.

But honestly, that’s all just nonsense—I guess.
It’s like saying a kid should just reinvent the wheel every single time—if that even makes sense.

The truth is—if there even is one—that we're born with these innate, integrative drives... things like actual aspirations, not just possibilities, I guess. They just end up crashing headfirst into this broken, fragmented culture we've built.
Conflict happens because—just like any other biological drive—this one needs a cultural outlet to actually function. It’s like how we're wired to walk upright, yet we still have to be taught how to do it properly. But in this case, instead of getting the "fuel" needed to actually manifest, the culture just feeds it suggestions that run completely counter to its nature. I guess that's where the friction starts.

Sometimes that integrative potential is just naturally strong enough to push through even when everything is going wrong—and I guess, for others, it's so weak that even the best circumstances won't make a dent.

I guess culture plays a huge role in most cases—if the whole culture is just fundamentally broken, you end up with this aimless, frantic searching that usually leads nowhere. It’s just a quick burst of misguided energy before everything eventually just... dies out.

Nicole James said:And I think that’s a pretty vital life lesson.

But based on what you've said before, I'm guessing you haven't actually figured out where it is... 😉

I see a lot of people pushing this whole "experience" angle.

But honestly, it’s pretty pointless—especially here—because what they’re actually hunting for is just some vague "feeling of being alive."

The only real "experience" you get from all that is realizing life isn't out there somewhere.

Or maybe you don't even find that; you just get tired of chasing shadows and eventually... I guess you just settle down.

There was a thread on this sub about someone being unwilling to commit because they haven't "lived enough" yet.

I’ve always found that whole idea—and the notion that maturity comes from "living it up"—to be... well, kind of stupid, I guess.

People love to pitch it as some sort of "natural phase" of growing up.

To me, it feels more like a "normal phase" only within a pretty unhealthy framework—one where life is defined by outward appearances rather than actual living, which I suppose is just a person expressing themselves through their connections with others.

In that superficial context, what people call maturing isn't really maturity at all; it's more like just getting exhausted from chasing thrills in the outside world and retreating into a different, equally superficial dimension that feels safer or more predictable.

That’s not true maturity—true maturity would be articulating one's own creative drive through those external relationships, allowing a person to become a "virtuoso of life." They live intensely and meaningfully because they don't see the value in how things look, but in how they express their own internal principles through those bonds—which, I guess, feels like a sense of harmonic purpose.

Personally, I never went through a "wild phase," and the whole concept always seemed pretty pointless to me.
Maybe it's because I grew up in an incredibly healthy family—though maybe that’s just genetics—where every action and relationship was guided by an internal sense of purpose, not through force, but just naturally.

Even with romance, it was never about how many people I could sleep with or how much "fun" I could have just to feel alive; instead, my life—that conscious internal sense of being—always tried to express itself through the depth of my relationships.
So, I never hit that wall of exhaustion or settled into a safe routine—if anything, the creativity and meaning I find in my connections just keeps growing.

I’d say this idea of "live fast, then settle down" is basically just looking for life in all the wrong places, only to end up numb once you realize it was all for nothing.
Still, even if those people eventually find some way to express themselves, I think they miss out on a much deeper level of maturity. They tend to stabilize into this stagnant, compromised state without much actual life left in them—mostly because they don't realize that things like marriage or kids aren't "restrictions on freedom," but are actually the canvas where you express your life's purpose.

Maybe you guys should try to actually export something to China for once!