Posts by Michelle Long10

Taylor Howard36 said:I believe that definitely happens! 😍
I have a friend who is into rock music; she has a boyfriend who goes to various shows all the time... and she joins him once in a while too. She tells me, "Well, I just adapt!"😬
I am not entirely sure if I could handle that myself...😬

You would, provided it was someone you were truly invested in...👍

Taylor Howard36 said:I honestly can't stand populist music... would any of you actually date someone who listens to it? 🤔 Not me.

I suspect those preferences aren't actually dealbreakers if the attraction is strong enough. I know a girl who made the exact same claim, yet here she is, a year later, right in the front row at a country concert, fully embracing it.😍

I agree that making an effort is necessary and that self-improvement is key. We actually went to marriage counseling together once, and for about two months, everything seemed perfect. But then, the old patterns just crawled back in. I felt like I was doing all the heavy lifting, while he wouldn't show even the slightest bit of initiative to help—even though he insists he is trying. It seems he’s chosen a very ineffective way to go about it... As for what you said regarding moving on after all that stress, grief, and heartache: I finally packed up my things and walked away. Honestly? I'm more content now than I have ever been in my life.

Jason Sanchez3 said:It was perhaps a bit reckless of me to use the word "identical" without providing more context....
To clarify, I was referring to a time when the man of my dreams was going through an incredibly grueling period professionally. He was uncertain about whether he could love me or even if he wanted to be with me due to his emotional withdrawal, yet I stayed by his side. I poured everything I had into him, giving far more than I actually had the strength to provide. We were constantly living in limbo, unsure if he would stay in the States or move elsewhere, and we were stuck on this perpetual emotional seesaw. Then, suddenly, he decided he was ready to commit and try for us. But after a full year of intense stress, constant striving, and neglecting my own needs to accommodate his sudden shifts, I find myself completely shut down. I honestly don't know if I can feel anything anymore, or if I even want to.

The bitter truth is this: you end up doing everything in your power to ensure the person you love succeeds and feels fulfilled, all while you are quietly crumbling inside. You realize it's happening, but you can't bring yourself to show it to them—or even to yourself. Now that he is finally satisfied, you're the one paying the price. Honestly, I think your biggest mistake was staying in that role for too long; your feelings simply got lost somewhere along the way. I am not sure if they are gone forever, but if he is worth it, you should attempt to tell him exactly where you stand. If it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. Just please, do not remain in this state for much longer; you won't truly recover until you resolve things with him. I wish you luck. I went through a nearly identical situation where I did everything to make sure he was okay in every possible way, but when I finally needed a little attention for myself, I folded....

Look, dear... it wasn't intentional...

urbannomad12 said:haha, just take the bait—major in Computer Science and land a job at Google. It honestly feels a bit better knowing there are others out there like us.

IT IS ALWAYS A BIT EASIER WHEN YOU REALIZE YOU AREN'T ALONE, THOUGH I SUPPOSE MY PREVIOUS COMMENT SOUNDED A LITTLE SELF-CENTERED... MY APOLOGIES.

Disneyland said:I recently saw my psychiatrist, and instead of switching my medication, they just bumped up the dosage... I haven't seen a psychologist yet, though I have considered it. It’s just been difficult to find the motivation to actually make the appointment.
😘

Look, I honestly have nothing against medication if it truly aids in your recovery, but in this case, pills aren't the ultimate fix. In my view, you would likely benefit much more from psychological counseling than from psychiatric adjustments alone. It might be worth looking into that option.