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Douglas Brown4 said:Look. That happens to you. What can I say in the reverse scenario?
I’m messaging this woman, and she’s flooding me with texts, absolutely loves me. She says I’m getting under her skin. We share the same interests.
I even told her that if we met, she shouldn't expect too much—that I'm not some tall, dark, and handsome guy, just a short blond. She said she wasn't expecting anything special and that it didn't matter to her.
She asks about my expectations. So, I tell her the only thing I don't expect is to have a female friend to whom I am not physically attractive. I told her there was no way I would agree to that.
Everything seems fine. She keeps insisting.
We meet up. At 8 in the morning, she sends me a message saying there wasn't a spark, even though she had a really great time talking about all sorts of things. Then she goes silent. Nothing. Naturally, I told her goodbye immediately. And she was exactly my type.
I’ve had experiences like this before. When I didn't say goodbye right away, the relationship would just cool off, making it harder to stay in touch until everything suddenly stopped.
You see, it's people like me—those who aren't considered desirable—who suffer these disappointments. You can fascinate someone however much you want, even sincerely, without lying or bluffing, but if they don't see the physical component, everything else falls apart. That's why I say people are superficial and that looks are the only thing that matters. Everything else is just seasoning. It really should be the other way around.
Regarding that business about being uglier or heavier, that’s a very clumsy way to phrase a compliment. They want to tell you that you're pretty as well as smart. I guess I don't know why it bothers you so much. Personally, I would gladly trade intelligence for beauty. And please don't take this post as an expression of frustration. Sure, it hurt me deeply, and I won't ever let anyone do that to me again, but not enough to shake my self-confidence.
Douglas Brown4 said:Look. That happens to you. What can I say in the reverse scenario?
I’m messaging this woman, and she’s flooding me with texts, absolutely loves me. She says I’m getting under her skin. We share the same interests.
I even told her that if we met, she shouldn't expect too much—that I'm not some tall, dark, and handsome guy, just a short blond. She said she wasn't expecting anything special and that it didn't matter to her.
She asks about my expectations. So, I tell her the only thing I don't expect is to have a female friend to whom I am not physically attractive. I told her there was no way I would agree to that.
Everything seems fine. She keeps insisting.
We meet up. At 8 in the morning, she sends me a message saying there wasn't a spark, even though she had a really great time talking about all sorts of things. Then she goes silent. Nothing. Naturally, I told her goodbye immediately. And she was exactly my type.
I’ve had experiences like this before. When I didn't say goodbye right away, the relationship would just cool off, making it harder to stay in touch until everything suddenly stopped.
You see, it's people like me—those who aren't considered desirable—who suffer these disappointments. You can fascinate someone however much you want, even sincerely, without lying or bluffing, but if they don't see the physical component, everything else falls apart. That's why I say people are superficial and that looks are the only thing that matters. Everything else is just seasoning. It really should be the other way around.
Regarding that business about being uglier or heavier, that’s a very clumsy way to phrase a compliment. They want to tell you that you're pretty as well as smart. I guess I don't know why it bothers you so much. Personally, I would gladly trade intelligence for beauty. And please don't take this post as an expression of frustration. Sure, it hurt me deeply, and I won't ever let anyone do that to me again, but not enough to shake my self-confidence.
Douglas Brown4 said:Look, speaking from my own experience: if you don't demonstrate your intellect, people tend to respond by saying, "Well, at least she was pretty."
It isn't because your looks are a flaw; it’s more about how you handled yourself. If you had shown more substance, they probably would have called you smart. They only mention your beauty because, I guess, that's all you chose to show.
restlesshound27 said:Ugh, honestly? I gotta disagree with you there.