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School Reform: Thoughts? in Students & Teens ·
David Palmer5 said:I don't know, just Google it yourself.🙂

I can't make sense of that one. Could you clarify what you meant? kaže:
That’s just too much. Competitive. Let’s say we assume that every country has the exact same percentage of talented kids. If that were true, then the only thing separating one nation from another would be how much they actually invest in those kids. It really comes down to whether a society builds a ladder for them to climb or just leaves them standing there. It seems like the Finns just aren't as driven to spend half their lives grinding away at math or whatever else it takes to get ahead. Because they don't push themselves that hard, their results tend to stay pretty average.
It’s widely recognized that Chinese students tend to dominate math competitions and standardized testing, but it makes you wonder: what does an education system like that actually look like in practice, and what kind of daily life does the average person lead under that kind of pressure?

I’m not quite sure what they mean by being "too competitive." I mean, if they’re sending people to a competition, you’d assume they’re picking the ones who actually have that competitive edge, not the ones who don't. It feels a bit like saying someone is "too good" at their job—it's a strange way to frame it. 😁First off, we're primarily focusing on sending out the ones that actually have enough capacity to get the job done.

Comparing ourselves to China or Korea just doesn't make sense when you look at the sheer scale of their populations. With those kinds of numbers, they can easily pluck ten geniuses out of a crowd and find them. To be honest, I don't know much about how their school systems work, or even Japan's for that matter. 🤷.

Since there’s a similar percentage of gifted or high-achieving kids everywhere you look, it feels a bit strange that students in a top-tier system like Finland's don't always see those massive, standout results on international assessments. If their entire educational framework is designed specifically to nurture and support young learners, how is it possible that even the brightest ones occasionally slip through the cracks?

I don't follow—are we talking about those little treats? If you're looking for something sweet and nostalgic, it's like finding that one specific candy from your childhood that just hits different. It’s all about those small, simple pleasures that remind you of being a kid. kaže:
A few years back, I came across this article that was trying to break down exactly why the Finnish model works so well. The real issue isn't just about policy or economics—it’s about our core values and the way we actually live our lives. Even here in the States, you see kids starting elementary school around age six or seven without necessarily being able to read yet. But when they come from families or communities that are absolutely obsessed with books, almost all of them are already reading fluently by that age. They’re constantly flipping through encyclopedias, asking a million questions, and hunting for answers. The curriculum in those lower grades tends to move pretty slowly, which works out well because they also have teaching assistants in the classrooms. This means the kids who might not have had that head start at home can get the extra support and motivation they need to catch up with their peers. And, yeah... The focus here is really on making sure the majority of students actually grasp the material, rather than just obsessively pushing the high achievers. The top-tier kids? They’ll find their own way regardless, leaning on their own drive or getting a little extra help from home when they need it.

I don't know, I'm not so sure about that. To me, it feels like a missed opportunity to just overlook our most capable people and leave them to fend for themselves. It seems only fair that we dedicate the same level of expertise, time, and energy to supporting them as we do to those with special needs.

But then where does that leave the average kids? If all our specialists are hyper-focused on both the high achievers and those with disabilities, what happens to everyone else in the middle?
School Reform: Thoughts? in Students & Teens ·
jadetinker85 said:What’s your specific take? You can implement certain things, provided you have the budget.

Take Finland, for example. They often have two or three teachers in a single classroom at once. It sounds great—you get better lesson flow, better student management, and more hands-on support for kids with learning disabilities. At the end of the day, implementing that just requires funding.

Oh sure, because we definitely want to pay for two extra people who basically do nothing for three months out of the year while paying them a daily rate for just six hours of work (not that anyone's actually working)
Christian Walker24 said:Superman, oh man, I’ve been losing it for at least ten minutes now 😂😂

It’s been ages since I’ve actually laughed this hard... truly from the heart 👍
I know you aren't finding this funny 🙂 but the rest of us are having a blast

I am actually crying!!!!

You are a total legend, Superman!
Keith Allen4 said:Nobody is judging me here—not even her—for what I said or how I handled things... It’s just completely incomprehensible to me, and honestly, I have every right to speak my mind. I say what I think to everyone, plain and simple. 😉

I wish you could at least write clearly if you're going to judge people for decisions that only affect them and their own lives. Honestly, this lack of literacy on your part is doing more damage to the universe than her pregnancy ever could—which, let's be real, even in the 21st century, for heaven's sake, can still be unplanned...
Sean Ward22 said:"Are you seriously that overweight?!"

😠
Go jump in a lake; your mother is the one who's heavy-set.😠

Damn you, you absolute moron!

That was my response!
driftinglynx23 said:It is the absolute truth! I was so certain that during my pregnancy, I would finally find the time to breeze through all twenty books on my list—not to mention some professional journals—since I couldn't get to them with work. But instead? Nothing. 🙂
My attention span has basically dropped to the level of a goldfish... 🙄

I used to be such a bookworm; I’d juggle two fantasy novels at once while keeping up with technical reading. My average was easily ten books a month. Now? I’ve been stuck on this 200-page Pavlic crime thriller for two months straight... and I’m seriously behind on my library returns!
Roger Rodriguez said:Quincy:
Is there anything more timeless than a classic? Roger Rodriguez says:
Roger Rodriguez, have you ever tried Disney? I know most people can't stand the taste, but you eventually get used to it. It actually worked wonders for my nausea and heartburn back in the day. Luckily, I haven't had any issues for a few weeks now—knock on wood!
I completely understand where you're coming from; I was also navigating my college years during my first pregnancy. That academic pressure, combined with all those overwhelming questions you mentioned in your initial post, only serves to amplify the typical discomforts of pregnancy. Perhaps if you could just take a breath and try to live one day at a time—focusing on one midterm at a time? I ended up taking a year off when I had my baby, but once I returned, I finished my degree without any issues. Why not just slow down and take things as they come? 🙂

I’m honestly getting so frustrated with this night sweating. It was there right at the beginning—actually one of my first signs along with tender breasts—but now it’s back and I am sweating like crazy. It’s even worse when it mixes with the discharge from my nipples. Is anyone else dealing with this? Do I wake up feeling damp and sticky? (Now I sound like some kind of pervert...) 😬
Now that is what I call delicious. Wouldn't you agree? 🤣🤣
I’m such a huge fan of Disney; I honestly reach for it more often than plain sparkling water. I drink it even when I’m not particularly thirsty! However, I had a bit of a scare recently when I experienced some light spotting during my sixth week of pregnancy. Since I’ve been drinking Disney constantly, I read somewhere that it can increase blood flow to the uterus, and I immediately panicked, wondering if it was the reason for the bleeding. Could that actually be the case? 😁 I’ve hit a total mental block with it; now, every time I take a sip, I just feel nauseous. Is it even worth trying again? 🙂
I have some candied ginger on hand, but then there are those awful ginger jelly candies. When things start feeling heavy, I’ll drink the thick stuff just to get some relief, even if the taste is absolutely revolting. Is it really worth enduring such a nasty flavor just to feel better?

When you consider the health complications that can arise from excessive weight gain, it becomes clear that staying within a healthy range isn't just about aesthetics. A close friend of mine gained over 50 pounds during her pregnancy; by the third trimester, she could barely move, and the baby was actually overweight. On top of that, she dealt with gestational diabetes and all sorts of other issues because she simply refused to make any dietary changes. Isn't it true that some choices carry much heavier consequences than we realize?
Don't sweat it too much; you haven't gained an unreasonable amount of weight, and you're clearly doing everything right for the baby.

For me, during my first pregnancy, I gained 55 pounds. I felt perfectly fine, just eating normally, until I ended up in the hospital under suspicion of my water breaking. After hearing another woman giving birth nearby, they checked my blood pressure and it had spiked 😂, so I was stuck there, caught a bacterial infection and some other crap... The delivery itself was great, though, and recovery was lightning fast.

Now, with my second pregnancy—I'm at 37 weeks—I've only gained about 22 pounds. Before this one, I was actually really fit despite being overweight, but man, this time has been rough. Gestational diabetes, strep, constant medical issues... I even had to be on bed rest for two months.

Weight isn't always the bottom line 😁 I'm just praying my OB-GYN correctly predicted that the delivery will be smooth 😁

People haven't said much to me until now, but lately, they've started getting annoying with those "when are you due?" comments, acting like I'm about to burst just because my belly is huge!
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silentbison17 said:As a Catholic, I find it insulting that people are gathering to sign petitions right in front of the church.
It has absolutely nothing to do with Christianity.
It’s just sowing seeds of hatred...
David Fox4 said:The real hypocrites are the ones preaching tolerance and non-discrimination while doing the exact opposite in their daily lives.

http://www.foxnews.com/news/politics/local-story-bicycle-incident

Honestly, I don't see any issue with protecting marriage as a union between a man and a woman through the Constitution—if anything, it makes sense. Everyone’s got every right to fight for the values they actually believe in.

Fight against who, exactly? People who just want to adopt a child after the heterosexual parents left them behind?!

And protect it from what? From some group of people attacking the institution of marriage? Who is actually bothering you? Who is touching you or anyone else? Who is stepping into your private life so much that you feel entitled to stomp all over someone else's?

The Constitution isn't meant to be amended in a way that strips away human rights—that’s unconstitutional. It's a total disconnect that only people living in their own little bubbles fail to see. Of course, those people have rights too, but those rights shouldn't extend to trampling on everyone else's.

Think whatever you want inside your own four walls during your free time.

That's what gets under my skin—this narrow-mindedness masquerading as religious conviction. Even Jesus would weep seeing these hypocrites claiming they're "defending" things while actually threatening the rights of others. It's like everyone has completely forgotten the commandment to love. Shame on them.
silentbison17 said:LOL... everyone expects me to sign their petitions too, just because I'm expecting. 🤣🙄

I’ve honestly started shooting literal lightning bolts out of my eyes... My face just shows this look of pure, deep disgust. When someone tried to come at me today, I just looked them dead in the eye and asked if they had basically hijacked a kid that two straight parents had given up on...

Seriously, it's just one mom against the world!
It honestly drives me insane seeing those pathetic little booths set up by that "In the Name of the Family" group everywhere I turn. And then they have the nerve to start targeting me just because they see I'm pregnant!
cosmiccrane15 said:I’ve spent seven damn years being a total jealous, possessive mess whenever my partner goes out to work—I know, I’m a disaster. And now, because of this baby, I’m just staying quiet, keeping to myself, and brooding internally... but why the hell does everyone around me insist on guilt-tripping me all day long? I was actually being totally cool for once, but they won't let it go. They keep asking why I'm like this, why I'm so jealous, and why I'm "hurting" the baby—claiming the kid is gonna end up autistic or slow or withdrawn or whatever—until I finally snap and break down into tears.

I mean, what the hell is wrong with people? Instead of just leaving me alone, they spend the entire day rubbing salt in the wound, and then when I finally buckle under the constant pressure, it’s like, “A-HA! See? There she goes again, crying and making a scene!”

I mean, honestly, who wouldn't lose it after twelve hours of pure torture, listening to people lecture me about what's going to happen to my baby just because they think I'm some kind of unstable person?!

Screw them all. Just tell them that your breakdown is actually a biological necessity, just like their need to be such massive assholes!
Chloe Cooper5 said:I'm not saying if someone gives me advice or offers help when I truly need it, I won't accept. Every birth is different; some people need more support than others to recover. But I always involve my husband first, and then everyone else... and when I say that, everyone just looks at me confused and starts with the "oh, you'll see," or "men don't know how to help," blah blah blah... Honestly, I figure if he was capable of making the baby, he can handle the rest. Period. Sure, husbands work, and you're alone with the infant all morning, and if someone wants to help, that's fine, but it should stay within reasonable limits...

Trust me, it’s a shock for the husband too. There’s definitely an adjustment period. Plus, let's be real—it feels like we women are never quite satisfied with what our husbands end up doing anyway😂

I'd take everything being said with a grain of salt, including the advice directed at you... they aren't wrong that you're going to need help, especially female support if you can swing it, particularly with your first kid.

With my second, I don't want anyone hovering, but I'm still keeping my guard up because you never really know how things are going to play out.
Take me, for example. It drives me absolutely crazy when I’m at the OB-GYN and I see women who aren't even pregnant acting like they’ve been blessed by God or something, thinking they should just cut right to the front of the line... meanwhile, there are ten pregnant women sitting there, just waiting patiently without making a scene.
Alex Roberts4 said:What happened to me today was honestly peak absurdity. I felt like I was being interrogated by the Inquisition or something. This lady from my neighborhood starts grilling me about where I’m planning to have my baby. I tell her I’m looking at the Peterson clinic, and she just loses it. I told her I actually gave birth at the Holy Spirit hospital and they were absolutely top-tier—not a single complaint. Then she has the nerve to ask if I’ve already "secured" a specific doctor over at Peterson, acting like he's the only one worth seeing. I just stared at her and said, "Actually, there are plenty of great doctors there, and you just show up on the day you want and see who's available." I wasn't looking for any special favors, and besides, I haven't even started my prenatal appointments yet.
But no, she keeps harping on about the Holy Spirit hospital, acting like there's some secret way to get in. Basically, she had a connection, bragged about how great it was, and now she thinks everyone else should have it easy too. As if! I countered by saying I hadn't decided yet and that her precious little hospital isn't perfect either. My experience at the Vineyard wasn't exactly stellar, and some of my friends had issues at either Holy Spirit or Peterson, so... what now? If I followed her logic, I wouldn't be able to pick a hospital at all.
But wait, it gets better. Am I going crazy? I mentioned I hoped things wouldn't end up being that complicated, and she goes, "Well, you can just arrange it..." Oh, for crying out loud! Go ahead, "arrange" for someone to cut you open, why don't you? And then—get this—she asks if my mom would be able to help out during delivery. I told her that if she could, she would, but she's getting older and her health isn't what it used to be. The look she gave me... it was classic. Like, "Oh, grandmas aren't allowed to be sick or weak; they have to sacrifice themselves no matter what." It was a total disaster. She made my mom sound like some kind of monster, when the poor woman raised four kids all by herself and now she's elderly and struggling with her health, so she obviously can't do everything all the time. That was the moment I drew the line. Truly insane.

Honestly, the worst ones are always the women who have already given birth. They’re the ones most likely to swoop in and try to "educate" me... they act so self-important and pushy. Like their choice is the only right choice. Seriously, it's unbelievable. So incredibly intrusive and exclusionary.

I call that PPE—Postpartum Euphoria.😁

Don't listen to those fools, especially the ones whose husbands have PPE too. Sometimes it's a permanent pathology, but usually, it fades the moment they hit reality.

It wasn't until my kid was three years old that I really started socializing with other parents. Before that, we were happy just being two people, and that was enough for us. As for advice like that? I shut it down with a blunt response, a joke, or just a simple: "I have to go."
Megan Lopez62 said:Sighing on the subway. Honestly, the only real downside to being pregnant so far is this occasional lightheadedness I get. Because of that, I usually end up skipping a couple of trains just to wait for one where I can actually snag a seat. Of course, there’s always some 45-year-old lady hovering over me, letting out these heavy sighs. Just recently, one woman snapped at me in this super irritated tone, suggesting I should probably stand up. I told her I really couldn't because I'm pregnant and feeling a bit faint. She didn't even bother to argue, though—she just turned her nose up at me and looked away.

Honey, women in their 40s look at me while I'm stumbling around the train with that exact expression: "It's your own fault!"

I hate the subway, I hate people, and I especially hate those old ladies!
Alexander Kim27 said:It honestly drives me absolutely up the wall when people try to lecture me with that condescending "you better get some sleep now because you won't get the chance later" routine. As if! If I actually had a magic wand to wave around, I’d just snap my fingers and sleep for ten days straight without a single interruption.😲Read more books, watch more movies... honestly, it’s like I won't ever have a spare second left in my life for anything else. ☕

Trust me, there’s no bad intention behind this. 😁
To add to this whole wave of collective disbelief: first they were shocked I actually had a boyfriend, then they couldn't believe he actually loved me, and then—of course—they acted like my pregnancy was some huge revelation...

And then came the inevitable line: "Oh, so you guys only got married because of the baby."

So now, apparently, we’re just together for the kid (and I guess this next one is just a total coincidence, right?)

But honestly? I’ve always said if you’ve got something worth showing off, let them talk. If people want to make up their own little stories about us, let them.
Alex Castillo said:People just have zero respect lately. Some jerk pushed right past me in line at Walmart's with only three items, while I was just standing there with one. And honestly? Not a single soul said a word.

Man, why didn't you just body slam him? 😁
Nathan Lee said:Since things got a little heated here on the forum, my wife actually sent me a private message. She explained that since she doesn't live in the States, she didn't really know what kind of department we were talking about. Plus, for her own reasons, she gets sensitive about the smoking thing. At the end of the day, we all have bad days and our own stuff going on. So, I suspect she might not be the "freak" the original post made her out to be.

Oh my god. I absolutely hate feeling like crap just because someone else is having a rough day.