Robin Diaz4 said:I actually had the same thought regarding this kind of "withholding" information. It’s almost as if they think they're being empathetic by not letting any of us know the full truth...
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It was actually because of something exactly like this that I ended up firing my doctor—and honestly, he wasn't even in the wrong. Before we had an official diagnosis, his brother and sister-in-law flew in from Europe and told me they already knew what was going on. Apparently, they had heard through some connection involving his close friend, and they claimed his doctor was intentionally keeping me in the dark just so I wouldn't "lose it," given that I have a young child to look after.
I marched straight into the doctor's office and let him have it. I demanded to know who gave him the right to lie to me—reminding him that I am not some fragile child who needs to be shielded from reality. Even worse, I questioned his right to discuss a patient's private medical status over the phone with someone he couldn't even verify was actually family.
He tried to explain that it wasn't a lie—and technically, it wasn't, since he had shown me every single test result himself prior to that conversation—but rather that they simply don't disclose the full extent of things unless specifically asked. They do this because they can't gauge a person's psychological stability, and they leave it up to me to decide how much my husband should know.
Later, when a different doctor (and eventually his primary specialist) admitted him to the hospital, the very first thing they asked me was how much my husband actually knew.
As it stands, he only knows there is lung cancer. He hasn't really cared about the details, other than asking how many rounds of chemo he'll need to go through.