Posts by casualwolf39

redheron30 said:she should just ignore any "unacceptable" opinions.

That sounds great in theory, but it’s hard to do when we have a moderator like @Sacreus who just wipes away anything he doesn't personally like and hands out penalties to whoever happens to rub him the wrong way.

I have zero interest in ignorance or being sold a bunch of smoke and mirrors by @Sacreus.

Bring back @enciklopedista bpd-a=enciklopedista bpd-a

bluemason3 said:Even if that were true—and I’m not even getting into the whole debate about the premise here—it’s completely irrelevant to this forum. You can't hold anyone accountable for choosing which replies to address or ignoring certain comments and questions; nobody is under any obligation to post anything specific just to facilitate a discussion (unless, of course, they're acting as a moderator handling technical inquiries).

I have read enough quality literature regarding hypnotherapy, and I haven't come across the claims you're mentioning anywhere, except in that one presentation you linked yourself (which, by the way, includes relative limitations and warnings concerning specific professional and medical backgrounds, or rather, the lack thereof). That isn't some peer-reviewed professional paper. As far as hypnosis goes, there isn't any professional consensus on much of anything (in fact, there’s no consensus on most things in psychotherapy, even though you seem to love presenting your own theoretical frameworks as universal truths).
The other supposed link you mentioned, which you claimed was a more experienced or professional work that I skipped over—well, it doesn't exist on the subject. I’ve searched multiple times and found nothing but childish nonsense. But even if it did exist, it would merely be the opinion of a single author, not some universally accepted standard.

And this right here is lying and defamation, which is also punishable under the Penal Code of the United States.😁

We aren't "comrades" just because we share an interest in hypnosis. He didn't drag me into this, nor have I ever supported his claims regarding the treatment of BPD or jumped into your mutual arguments. Sometimes I read through BPD threads because of one particular female member who posts there, whom I've known for years, so that’s nothing new. However, I rarely get involved since I am neither someone with BPD nor a therapist (though it isn't true to say I've never posted on those topics before), and unlike most non-professionals, I'm not entirely sure how much knowing someone with actual or potential (undiagnosed) BPD qualifies me to offer any constructive commentary. I only stepped in because this was an off-topic matter that I happen to know somewhat through both theory and practice, and where you were very authoritatively stating very incorrect things about a field you don't even know.

It isn't an insult; it's a fact. Most people who graduate from a forestry program end up being worse at building wooden ship models than a self-taught hobbyist, simply because that's not what they study in college. Just because someone finished training in psychotherapy, psychology, or psychiatry—fields which, as a rule, do not include extensive (often non-existent) training in hypnosis—certainly doesn't make them better than someone who does it every single day for their livelihood.

The problem is that you feel this need to be the "father of the topic," trying to act as an authority on subjects you don't understand. You perceive any disagreement as a personal attack on your highly perceived status and ego trip, and it just so happens that both @Sacreus and I actually know a thing or two about this. Aside from that, as far as BPD goes, I don't see how you're linking us.

You're in the wrong thread; these are COMPLAINTS AGAINST THE MODERATOR @Sacreus

I’m filing a formal complaint against the moderator @Sacreus. It seems they've been deleting posts simply because they don't align with their personal views, all while simultaneously insulting Nicole Turner35 and handing out sanctions to HY.
It’s honestly quite dangerous to grant moderation authority to someone who clearly operates with such blatant double standards. Even more concerning is that, as a moderator whose word carries weight here, they are actively promoting two or three specific therapies. By doing this, they are essentially undermining the immense, long-term effort put in by everyone navigating PT and offering nothing but false hope to those who are just starting their treatment journey.
I have absolutely nothing against them posting as a regular user like anyone else.

I am formally requesting that we remove @Sacreus from their moderator position. In my view, their constant pattern of ignoring valid points, belittling others, sheer ignorance, dodging direct questions, mockery, outright insults, manipulation, and blatant self-promotion without any merit—not to mention a general lack of literacy—is unacceptable. It feels like an insult to the intelligence of this community, and frankly, it only deepens the pain for anyone who has ever endured, or is currently enduring, the absolute nightmare of living with borderline personality disorder.

Honestly, my apologies—you’re absolutely right, I clearly didn't read that closely enough.🙈

granitecyclist99 said:There are three diagnostic criteria here (difficulty controlling anger, inappropriate outbursts/impulsivity, and a pattern of unstable interpersonal relationships).

When you talk about BPD, issues like violence or promiscuity are inseparable from the core discussion. If we want to shed light on this phenomenon, we have to be prepared for some conflict.

That is 100% correct.

Anyone who fails to tear that apart, to become aware of it, to accept it, or to seek atonement—it’s almost as if they haven't done anything wrong at all.

I suppose the question is: what matters more, the form or the substance?

It’s easy to speak about something ugly in a sanitized way, isn't it?

And why should we even limit artistic freedom? If everyone were forced to write the exact same way, things would get incredibly boring, wouldn't they?

Betty Alvarez47 said:btw, I'm just a bystander. Honestly, I don't even follow this thread.

😕😕😕

If you aren't even following the discussion, what exactly are you basing your comments on???

I think we should let those who actually read the posts weigh in. Let the people who find value in reading and writing here be the ones to speak up, since they're the ones actually getting something out of it.

Betty Alvarez47 said:I hear you, but there is a massive distinction to be made when looking at this situation. At the end of the day, this is just an online forum—with its own set of rules and limitations—not actual professional therapy. I suppose what I mean is, even if someone finds value in this kind of discussion during their clinical sessions, it doesn't mean the same thing will happen here. Unfortunately, we have to face the fact that this is just a message board, not a professionally managed therapeutic environment. To see any real progress in treatment, it has to be guided by experts; you can't just leave patients in a room together and expect things to improve on their own.🙂

By the way, I'm non. Honestly, I stay away from your thread because I have too many personal traumas tied to it and I really don't want to go digging through those memories, but I truly hope the moderators decide on a course of action regarding this topic soon, because I think you all really need it.

You're right about it needing to be professionally led, but isn't it obvious we actually have an expert involved here?! (for psychodrama)
Aren't the breakthroughs made by casualwolf39 and non totally obvious?
Of course, just reading and posting on a forum isn't enough; you can't get through this without actual therapy!
Think of this as nothing more than supplemental study. 😬

Michelle Evans said:Just to illustrate—this is merely an example since we don't have a specific topic yet—discussions regarding violence within people with BPD aren't welcomed unless your specific issue is violence; stories about promiscuity among those with BPD aren't welcome unless that’s specifically what’s bothering you.

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I honestly don't see how one can even talk about the BPD struggle without addressing the most severe consequences. Why is it considered acceptable for those currently struggling to vent about their feelings and messy situations, while those who aren't—the "non-borders"—are essentially silenced? It’s two sides of the exact same coin, really.

It seems like a real shame to shut this thread down just when things were finally starting to look up for both the folks living with it (like >) and those on the outside looking in (like >).
People cite "insults" as a reason for closure, but maybe they don't realize that such petty friction is child's play compared to the actual reality of a person's life with BPD and the things they are capable of saying. A certain balance was finally being established for a sort of psychological drama, where everyone—both > and > included—could find their footing and receive support.

In my view, effective therapy for someone with BPD actually looks a lot like the last few pages of this discussion. There aren't many pleasantries or gentle persuasions used as arguments. A person with BPD needs raw, intense emotions to face the truth; that is the only way they truly learn. In fact, real therapy often looks much worse than this—it involves more arguing, more bluntness, and repetitive questioning about problematic situations. If you walk away from therapy feeling "good," that might actually be a bad sign; if you feel terrible, it could be a good sign, because it means something inside you has been stirred, signaling that change is coming.

I think it's misguided to claim that some were driving discussions toward topics like violence or promiscuity... To me, that's a sign that people are finally able to confront their past, which is never easy to admit. It's a form of healing a wound. By reading these accounts, both those without the diagnosis and those with it have a chance to make sense of things in their own heads. It also gives those with BPD a chance at redemption by offering support to the others.
To summarize, if you aren't someone living with BPD, an ex-border, or someone close to them, these debates will probably just feel like personal attacks to you. For the rest of us, this is a deep, meaningful, and constructive dialogue that we can actually learn from. 😬