melloworca6 said:
You won't get a strike for this (even though honestly, you deserve one since both the admin and I asked you via PM to stop doing this), but I have to tell you, this is really uncalled for.
We let you post about your case everywhere, even when it was totally off-topic and had nothing to do with the thread. We didn't delete your posts or warn you until recently. Mistyjackal842, I am truly sorry for what you are going through, but you aren't the only one who has lost someone due to someone else's negligence. What would this forum look like if we allowed everyone to post their personal stories everywhere, regardless of whether it fits the topic or not?
As mods, our job is to maintain the hygiene of this forum. Given the state of this place, we actually show a lot of tolerance and allow way more than what's typically permitted elsewhere. Accusing people who are doctors—who spend their free time giving free advice and explaining things better than some actual doctors—of covering up for whoever is responsible for a death is a very, very low blow.
To surprise you, not all the mods in the Health section are medical professionals (some of us have nothing to do with medicine), and I have to tell you that this ban on dragging Vinogradska topics isn't just a decision by the doctor-mods; it's a decision by all the Health mods, the super-mods in charge of Health, and the admin.
That warning about being sued for libel was good-natured advice from the admin (and btw, leaking private messages is against forum rules and carries a fairly long ban, just so you know how much we mods are fed up with you). You won't believe it, but we've had cases where lawyers contacted the owner asking for IP addresses to sue people for defamation. Do you actually have evidence for everything you're saying? Setting aside the fact that I believe you, do you have evidence that would hold up in a court of law? If not, then thank God someone warned you. You never know who reads this forum or who might take offense at what you're doing and decide to sue you. You even mentioned certain doctors from Vinogradska by name; what's stopping them from filing a lawsuit against you? 🤷
I know you're going through it, but let's take a breather here. We’ve tried being patient and keeping things civil, but honestly, from here on out, we're deleting posts like this—and if it doesn't stop, we'll start handing out bans. And don't think this just applies to the Health section; this goes for the entire forum.
Also, please don't reply to this post right here. If you want to argue about it, we can talk in this thread: Messages, complaints, comments
I fully stand behind this post. I've seen this happen on this forum before—you can be sued for defamation, and then suddenly it's "oh, poor you." Everyone thinks this forum is anonymous, but it's not. Like melloworca6 said, it's possible to track down URLs and IP addresses, and that's not even the issue. The issue is that once you start filing lawsuits and all that, you won't be welcome in any hospital in the city of Washington, D.C., or anywhere else, or even abroad.
You say you see your future abroad, but don't think it's all sunshine and rainbows over there. Medical services cost a fortune, and they have waiting lists too. Just ask people living in the US how much gallbladder surgery costs. Have you ever wondered why Italians come here during their vacations to get dental work done? Personally, my family members live in Scandinavia, and even there, you have to wait up to 6 months for allergy tests and specialist appointments. They have waiting lists too.
Look, I get that you're bitter, really I do. But you keep mentioning how you studied Latin and logic back in high school—well, I didn't. So instead of playing doctor, I actually go see them. At least over the last couple of years, I’ve dealt with exams and checkups at plenty of hospitals all over Washington, D.C. If you're so hung up on why you didn't just head to the infectious disease hospital, then why didn't you just sign the waiver to take responsibility for transferring your late mother from Vinogradska Hospital to the infectious disease hospital?
You could have done that under your own responsibility. Looking back through all your posts I've followed, you mention your mother had kidney issues before, but you never brought that up earlier. Your father is a doctor, so why didn't he just handle things the same way?
I know things are rough and losing your mom is an incredible pain, but let's be real here for a second. The admins and mods gave you fair warnings and were honestly just trying to help.
My advice? Just listen to them.