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Angela Wright said:Next time, she should just call 911 because those calls are recorded. She needs an IV drip tonight... seriously. She ought to threaten to report them to Medicare, the local news, and the papers. She really needs a doctor. If the paramedics show up and refuse to help, she should demand the name of the doctor responsible for denying medical care. It would be best if someone could just drive her to the hospital herself, since it's hard to get kicked out once you're there. Personally, I’m the type of person who would cause a scene in a situation like this...
We all know how things work here... it's clear. I won't even go into how they handled things when her husband and father-in-law passed away... 🤷 Because of her own situation, she already reached out to the Mayor, and they promised to follow up. But I think she'll end up calling the news soon. Her husband held a high-ranking government position, though that doesn't change much. I just wanted to say she's starting to lose faith in the system and getting help... but she's going to call 911 now, so we'll see. Honestly, I feel just as helpless wanting to help her without any way to do it... but thank you so much.
Angela Wright said:Don't just wait on a doctor, for God's sake—you can't treat a cold like this! She's stuck in inhumane conditions, hungry, dehydrated, and in pain! Call 911 and demand hospitalization immediately! In the meantime, call a hospice service to look into placement or at least get home care, because she needs to be on constant IV fluids.
This needs to be handled right now, or she could pass away in agony within two days at most!
We called the doctor, but she said she couldn't make it until Tuesday. My sister is staying overnight to help as much as possible, handling everything from bathing to changing diapers. The EMTs said she was dehydrated, but they didn't actually do anything about it.🤷 They won't admit her to the hospital because they claim there's nothing more they can do for her, which is why I came here to ask if this is normal. (Even though it clearly isn't, you still ask: why? The answer is always: "That's just how it is, our healthcare system is in a coma.") Not even the emergency responders would show up until my sister started yelling at them...🤷
Angela Wright said:This hospice facility is state-run, so Medicare should be covering the palliative care costs. Hospices typically admit patients whom doctors believe have very little time left. However, for someone in your situation, there are home health services available to visit the patient and manage the entire palliative regimen—everything from pain management and so on. For home care, a primary care physician can and should submit a referral. In cases like this, patients are entitled to a visiting nurse every day for up to 45 minutes. You need to demand that...
They told her she might only have a few days, maybe even months🤷 and the doctor actually told my sister they’re letting her pass away at home🤷 She isn't eating or drinking, she can't move, and she isn't sleeping at night... (both my sister and she are widows, so they have no one else to help) Thank you, we just have to wait for the doctor now and see what she says...
Angela Wright said:The first hospice in the US just opened in San Diego. Ask about palliative care services; they likely have mobile teams available too.
Also, a primary care physician is obligated to guide you on the next steps. An anesthesiologist can similarly prescribe titrated doses for pain management. Unfortunately, sometimes patients are discharged without proper instructions or medication, but it also happens that people leave on their own without asking questions, not realizing that no one will step in unless they take the initiative themselves...
Thanks. We heard about that facility in our area and will look into it... but if it's too expensive, we'll have to pass. Our family doctor won't be able to make a home visit until Tuesday, and she hasn't even spoken with an anesthesiologist yet. Other doctors just nodded along, saying they've done everything they can and there's nothing left to do. Now my sister has to dig through every possible avenue just to figure out what kind of help is actually available. She had to call 911 last night just to get my mother-in-law some Voltaren injections, and the responder basically told her that this is just how the healthcare system works and not to expect much help...🤷
Hi Dan, I have a question... My sister-in-law had bladder cancer surgery two years ago, and they warned her it would likely return. In the meantime, she’s been relying on various herbal teas and avoiding follow-up screenings. A few days ago, she was hospitalized because the cancer came back and has spread through most of her abdomen. Her legs are swollen, her bladder is blocked, there's blood in her urine, and she's dealing with sepsis and fluid in her lungs. To put it bluntly, everything is failing internally. They've now sent her home to pass away without any heavy pain medication. A nurse visits after her shift, but she won't be able to provide much long-term care... I'm wondering if this is standard practice? Is there anything we can actually do to make her more comfortable, or should we look for a different doctor here in San Diego? 🤷 This is all just my layman's way of explaining things, so please excuse the long post. I hope I made sense, thanks 😉
Oh, good, there are more of you... so I wasn't just losing my mind or imagining things 🙂
Evening 😉 is it possible to change my Scarpett ?? thanks
No, Nick is already taken.
Angela Wright said:Without the father-in-law's blessing—assuming he’s actually capable of making his own choices and looking after himself—both you and any doctor who goes along with it would be in the wrong.
Maybe try talking to him about getting a second opinion and let him make the call. Whatever he decides, you'll just have to respect it. A man has the right to decide for himself, even when we think he's making a huge mistake...
By the way, the father-in-law should probably keep all the medical records on hand.
Thanks for the reply. 😉 They’re a pretty difficult family, and they aren't exactly the type to talk things through, so getting through to him is tough. My grandfather actually passed away because of this cancer and because he didn't get the right guidance, so I guess I'm just trying my best to prevent that from happening again. We'll try talking to him one more time. Thanks...
Hi everyone, first off, sending my best wishes and support to all of you 😉
Secondly: my father-in-law was unexpectedly diagnosed with early-stage throat cancer about three months ago. During surgery, they "supposedly" removed everything, and he spent the following two months undergoing radiation. Naturally, he’s been dealing with constant throat inflammation since then. They told him no more radiation would be necessary, yet they still gave him an even stronger dose... So, here is my question: since we are living on the West Coast and he is out in the Midwest, getting to his doctor is impossible right now. Am I allowed to request his medical records covering his treatment and current status? I'm not sure if I should ask them to fax them over or have a family member pick them up. My father-in-law doesn't say much about it, so we aren't even entirely sure how he's actually doing, and I want to get a second opinion from another doctor... I hope that makes sense, thanks 😉