Premature ejaculation help/advice needed
in Health ·
Alright, let me share my own experience dealing with premature ejaculation.
Basically, back when I first started being sexually active, things moved way too fast—to the point where if a girl was just leaning over me, a little bit of friction was enough to send me over the edge (keep in mind, I was only 14 at the time 🙄). Over time... even when we switched to manual stimulation, it was still incredibly quick. Same thing happened during oral; it was lightning fast. Eventually, even oral took a bit longer, but once actual intercourse started, I’d be done after just a couple of thrusts. I honestly thought that the more often I did it, the better I'd get, but there was zero progress. It eventually started messing with my head, causing even more anxiety about finishing early. 😢
Just so you know, a huge part of this is psychological—if you're constantly worrying about finishing early, you're basically inviting it to happen.
I tried everything from various topical gels to practicing solo during the day, but once it came down to actual sex, nothing changed. 🙂
The one silver lining was that if I finished once during sex, I could last much longer the second time around—but by then, my partner would usually lose interest, and by the time she was ready again, I wasn't quite there yet, which made it hard to fix the cycle.
That’s when I discovered Kegel exercises. 🙏 Here's the deal: you have to contract that specific muscle located between your anus and your prostate. You don't need equipment, weights, or anything else—just a clear head, pure willpower, and persistence. When you squeeze that muscle, all your other muscles—your abs, your legs, etc.—need to stay completely relaxed. Just focus all your mental energy right there (you can identify the muscle by the feeling of stopping your urine flow mid-stream; that’s the one).
At first, you should do alternating squeezes—hold for 2 seconds, release, and repeat for a minute or two, or however long you can. Don't overdo it; just spread the sets out throughout the day. I used to do them three times a day. The training is incredibly tedious, but believe me, it works if you stick with it. I personally refused to quit until I knew I had fully mastered it. It took me nearly four months, 🤷 but the results were definitely there. 😍 Now, I've reached a point where I can hold that contraction for 2 minutes at a time, five reps per set, three times a day—morning, afternoon, and before bed. But fair warning: it takes a massive amount of time to get to this level.
The end result? Now, when I'm inside her and feel like I'm about to hit the limit, I just squeeze that muscle (not too early, not too late), and I can keep going for what feels like an hour (I haven't actually hit a full hour yet 😁), and you can use this technique to delay things every single time. 🙂
One more thing: the result is an incredibly firm, rigid erection, and once I finish the first time, I can be ready to go again within about 15 seconds—believe me! 😍
I hope this helps someone tackle this issue. Just stay persistent! 🙂
Basically, back when I first started being sexually active, things moved way too fast—to the point where if a girl was just leaning over me, a little bit of friction was enough to send me over the edge (keep in mind, I was only 14 at the time 🙄). Over time... even when we switched to manual stimulation, it was still incredibly quick. Same thing happened during oral; it was lightning fast. Eventually, even oral took a bit longer, but once actual intercourse started, I’d be done after just a couple of thrusts. I honestly thought that the more often I did it, the better I'd get, but there was zero progress. It eventually started messing with my head, causing even more anxiety about finishing early. 😢
Just so you know, a huge part of this is psychological—if you're constantly worrying about finishing early, you're basically inviting it to happen.
I tried everything from various topical gels to practicing solo during the day, but once it came down to actual sex, nothing changed. 🙂
The one silver lining was that if I finished once during sex, I could last much longer the second time around—but by then, my partner would usually lose interest, and by the time she was ready again, I wasn't quite there yet, which made it hard to fix the cycle.
That’s when I discovered Kegel exercises. 🙏 Here's the deal: you have to contract that specific muscle located between your anus and your prostate. You don't need equipment, weights, or anything else—just a clear head, pure willpower, and persistence. When you squeeze that muscle, all your other muscles—your abs, your legs, etc.—need to stay completely relaxed. Just focus all your mental energy right there (you can identify the muscle by the feeling of stopping your urine flow mid-stream; that’s the one).
At first, you should do alternating squeezes—hold for 2 seconds, release, and repeat for a minute or two, or however long you can. Don't overdo it; just spread the sets out throughout the day. I used to do them three times a day. The training is incredibly tedious, but believe me, it works if you stick with it. I personally refused to quit until I knew I had fully mastered it. It took me nearly four months, 🤷 but the results were definitely there. 😍 Now, I've reached a point where I can hold that contraction for 2 minutes at a time, five reps per set, three times a day—morning, afternoon, and before bed. But fair warning: it takes a massive amount of time to get to this level.
The end result? Now, when I'm inside her and feel like I'm about to hit the limit, I just squeeze that muscle (not too early, not too late), and I can keep going for what feels like an hour (I haven't actually hit a full hour yet 😁), and you can use this technique to delay things every single time. 🙂
One more thing: the result is an incredibly firm, rigid erection, and once I finish the first time, I can be ready to go again within about 15 seconds—believe me! 😍
I hope this helps someone tackle this issue. Just stay persistent! 🙂