Posts by Thomas Roberts9

I know of a situation where a young woman, who works as a registered nurse , has somehow managed to avoid seeing a gynecologist her entire life, despite being in her mid-twenties. To her, intimacy and sex are just completely normal parts of life, and she’s always opted out of using condoms. It’s one of those cases where someone talks about making an appointment for years on end, yet they never actually follow through.
Her primary excuse, if you can even call it that, is the belief that if her mother, aunt, grandmother, or some neighbor didn't feel the need to go until they were forty, then she shouldn't have to either. 😲 😱
I wouldn't say she isn't aware of the risks regarding infections; I honestly get the impression that she just lets the concern drift away, much like how one might think, "I'll worry about it today, but I won't care tomorrow."
In truth, I suspect that the influence of that relative—be it an aunt or a grandmother—is precisely why she remains so hesitant.
It is exactly what stormymaker24 was mentioning. It’s quite sad, but it rings true. 😢 🤷

stormymaker24 said:Rooting for you, Carol Scott98, really rooting for you.🎉🎉

My sincerest thanks to everyone... 😘 😉

Maria Sullivan33 said:Everything mentioned here is absolutely true, and I truly believe we need to instill in young women the idea that seeing a gynecologist should be a prerequisite to being sexually active. It seems to me that many aren't quite prepared to handle the consequences that follow moments of pure impulsiveness. A solid foundation starts with how one is raised at home and having open, healthy communication with parents, which then naturally leads to the necessity of sexual education, though that's a conversation for another day.

The reality is that you shouldn't walk into a doctor's office carrying any kind of shame or prejudice—worrying about what they might think if they find a minor infection or something similar, or feeling like you've somehow failed. Personally, I’ve never had major issues beyond some incredibly painful periods, but even if I did discover something unexpected, I certainly wouldn't feel like my life was over.
I suppose I may have developed this perspective because the gynecologists and nurses I've encountered have always been genuinely wonderful people...

BRAVO! 👋 👏 🙂 🙂 🙂

nimblemoose40 said:I can't help but wonder what happens if I end up catching a virus or some kind of bacteria. I suppose I'd have to take responsibility if I wasn't being careful with protection, but these things happen, don't they? I feel like I would just sink into the floor from embarrassment, not even just for my own sake, but because of how he might look at me; though, if I think about it, even the bacteria that cause cavities are just something a dentist fixes, so I suppose the comparison between a gynecologist and a dentist isn't entirely misplaced.

But honestly, that is precisely why people visit their OB-GYN—to get treated for those various viruses, bacteria, or infections. To them, it is quite routine, if I may be so bold as to say; they encounter these issues every single day, much like a dentist deals with cavities. In my humble opinion, it feels far more shameful to ignore an infection and wait until it becomes serious rather than simply seeking professional medical help. 🤷

nimblemoose40 said:There is also this other thing that bothers me, regarding the nurses; they can be so incredibly indiscreet, shouting right there in the middle of a crowded hallway, "I have your Pap smear results, everything looks fine!" They could have just as easily shouted, "I have your Pap smear results, you tested positive for HPV..."

That is absolutely unacceptable, and such behavior should actually be subject to legal consequences.
Your health is your private business, and you could potentially sue them for disclosing your medical results in front of everyone.
I am truly glad you walked away from someone like that; personally, I would have given both him and that nurse a piece of my mind before grabbing my files and telling everyone exactly what kind of people they are. 🙂 🙂

I thought I might start a fresh discussion here...
I find myself quite perplexed by how, in this modern era—the 21st century, where intimacy is such a constant topic of conversation—young women seem to be becoming sexually active , yet they are delaying their first visits to the gynecologist !??! 😲 😕

While reading through various threads here regarding women's health, one often encounters a variety of questions—some rather trivial, others perhaps more significant—typically posed by young women who have already begun their sexual lives.
However, it always strikes me as somewhat baffling that these same individuals will discuss sex, pregnancy, and birth control so openly, yet they don't even know where the nearest clinic or doctor's office is located in their own city..

It feels a bit disheartening, honestly! 😢
It truly seems absurd when you hear or read about a girl feeling fearful or embarrassed to visit a gynecologist! It is quite a contradiction; there is no hesitation about wearing a bikini at a local pool or showing skin at the beach in front of older neighbors, nor is there any shame in being intimate with a partner, yet there is this profound hesitation to simply lie on an exam table for the sake of one's own health!?!?!

I will quote a previous post of mine, just in hopes of lightening the mood a little:

Carol Scott98 said:There really is no reason to feel embarrassed. Personally, I find going to the dentist much more daunting. A gynecological exam isn't painful; it might just be a touch awkward.
A doctor sees dozens of patients every single day. That adds up to hundreds a month, or thousands a year. (Please excuse my bluntness, but I hope it helps ease your mind 😂).
Ultimately, whether you feel self-conscious or not, they see patients all day long. I don't see why it should be a concern; it's not as if you'll run into them on a street corner in town and they'll think, "Oh, that's the girl I saw earlier."

This is intended for all the young, sexually active women out there who believe a gynecologist is only necessary when something feels "off" or when a pregnancy occurs...

I would love to hear everyone else's thoughts—whether from those who make regular appointments (perhaps some gentle encouragement might help those who are hesitant) or from those who, for whatever reason, choose to avoid these visits altogether.

I truly hope that I might be able to persuade at least a few of you. 😉 👍

Sophia Fisher55 said:Thomas Roberts9, yes, I did take the tablet afterward.

Oh, my goodness... I honestly don't even know what to say to you right now.
I can't help but wonder if you truly grasp the potential harm caused by taking that pill after the fact; I noticed you went ahead and took it. I suppose I should have given it more thought. da ti je sperma Perhaps. I find myself somewhat perplexed by the implications of such an occurrence, though I suppose one can't help but wonder about the complexities of human anatomy in those moments.
Please don't worry, I truly have no intention of making fun of you; I only wish to share a little bit of what I've learned.
Please, prioritize your own well-being first before worrying about me or anyone else; perhaps you could take some time to learn more about the realities of conception before jumping back into the bedroom.
If women were to conceive every single time a stray bit of sperm accidentally made its way into the uterus, I suspect there wouldn't be a single woman left in America who wasn't pregnant. 🤷

I will provide you with some basic outlines here, and if you could perhaps do a little digging online to flesh out the details, I would be most grateful.
For a pregnancy to occur, it is essential that the man... I find myself completely captivated by you. I suppose I should have been more direct—it’s about reaching that deepest, most intimate part of you, rather than just staying on the surface. I find myself reflecting on how even the smallest, most subtle gestures can leave such a lasting impression on one's spirit. I find myself occasionally lost in thought regarding the specific number of fingers upon which one might rest such heavy burdens. Perhaps. I find myself occasionally pondering the more biological aspects of our existence, though I realize such reflections can sometimes feel a bit out of place in casual conversation. It is a subject that, while fundamental to life itself, often feels somewhat awkward to address with any degree of sincerity.
In order to conceive, a man really does have to find his way to completion with you. During those fertile days of the month.
I’m afraid I simply cannot get this ready. It was purely by chance. One should really only introduce it into the kidney if it isn't being accompanied by anything else—whether that be actual anatomy or any sort of supposed "remedies." 😉)
It is my sincere belief that a few stray drops simply aren't enough to cause a pregnancy, particularly when we are talking about those initial moments of pre-ejaculatory fluid that occur before a man actually reaches climax—which is exactly what I was trying to explain earlier.
The emergency contraceptive pill isn't something you should just take on a whim; it really ought to be reserved only for those specific instances where it is absolutely necessary. I am entirely certain that there is a possibility of becoming pregnant. It seems to me that he was quite overwhelmed by his attraction to you during those particularly fertile days.

I would truly encourage you to take a moment to look things up online, perhaps have a heartfelt conversation with your partner, your mother, or even your closest friends, or maybe pick up a book on the subject—whatever it may be, please just try to seek out some information. I only say this because I would hate to see you causing yourself unnecessary distress by remaining in the dark. 😢
As you so aptly pointed out, there is no shame in asking a question—but perhaps there is a certain quiet embarrassment in remaining ignorant, or rather, in failing to truly understand one's own body and the intricate ways in which it functions. 🤷

Sophia Fisher55 said:Look, it isn't as if we suddenly realized out of nowhere that things can move from one way to another... there was actually a legitimate reason for my anxiety (and I won't get into all those messy details here, right?), and please rest assured, I am quite well-informed about how this works, but I have truly never experienced a condom getting stuck inside me resulting in this much which is why I reached out here, rather than because of the anal aspect, which is why I didn't go into detail about that part... so I kindly ask you not to dwell on that, but rather to address the specific issue that is troubling me... do you happen to know what happened and why it occurred?

Generally speaking, you cannot get pregnant from those "drops" you mentioned. Those fluids are just the semen being released, much like how you experience natural lubrication before intimacy. However, that amount simply isn't sufficient to fertilize an egg; for that to occur, he would need to ejaculate inside you!!

I am still somewhat confused, though, about which pill you took?? If you don't mind me asking.
Alright, we won't tease you any further (at least I won't). Just please try not to do anything reckless and then turn to internet forums for answers.
That pill—was it an emergency contraceptive like Plan B?????? 😕

Sophia Fisher55 said:a few days later I had anal sex with my boyfriend and he finished inside me, but we both panicked thinking some might have somehow ended up where it wasn't supposed to go.

I'm struggling to understand the logic here—how could any sperm possibly reach the uterus if the encounter was strictly anal? 😂

Sophia Fisher55 said:so I just took a pill...

And which specific pill did you take? You aren't suggesting you took Plan B after the fact, are you? 😕

Amanda Martin682 said:Even the doctor is on vacation. She’s back Monday, which means I won't see her until then. Hopefully I don't get hit with a flare-up before then, though I wouldn't hold my breath...

But what if it does happen anyway? There isn't much you can control in that situation. You should just head over to the clinic, explain exactly what's going on, and hopefully the staff there can offer some guidance or at least a little advice to help you get through it.👍

Amanda Martin682 said:I need to get my period, and I always get discharge beforehand, but this time it's way heavier than usual. I'm hoping that’s actually why it hasn't shown up yet...

Anyway, I'll try calling my OB-GYN tomorrow to see if she can squeeze me in. If not, then first thing Monday morning...

Even though the discharge has slowed down now, it might stop completely by tomorrow.🤷

Regardless, you should definitely go see her, if only to get a professional opinion. It might taper off, but there is always that possibility of it returning or even getting worse later on.... 🤷
It certainly doesn't hurt to ask. 👍

Amanda Martin682 said:I’ve been panicking for the last few days. I'm also dealing with heavy discharge, though it looks normal and doesn't smell anything unusual.

Now, this uncomfortable sensation started right after sex. We used some condoms we hadn't tried before—could that be the cause?

By the following evening, it started itching a little, then turned into a stinging sensation. It’s gone now, but honestly, I'm terrified.

My gynecologist can't see me until next week, and I feel like I'm going to die from anxiety waiting until then.

Can someone please say something to calm me down?

It really isn't anything to fear, as I went through the exact same thing myself. Just make sure to see a doctor at your earliest opportunity, get some vaginal wipes, and follow their treatment plan.👍

p.s.—and by "earliest opportunity," I don't mean scheduling something for a month from now; I mean call them, explain what you're feeling, and let them know it's urgent. Please, try not to let the panic take over.🙂

cosmicgardener36 said:Candida is the fungus most commonly responsible for infections, though smaller amounts live in your gut naturally. Symptoms usually involve increased discharge, redness, and itching. An infection typically hits when your immune system takes a hit, but it can also pop up after a round of antibiotics, while on birth control, during pregnancy, or—in about two-thirds of cases—through sexual intercourse. Most people just use Canesten or Plymicol, maybe some vaginal suppositories plus a cream, and it clears up in a few days.
While you're treating it, it might be a good idea to cut out sugar and stick to yogurt with LGG or Acidofil. You can also pick up Lactogyn tablets at any pharmacy to help strengthen your vaginal flora. It’s also probably best to avoid tight clothes, thongs, or synthetic underwear; cotton is better so your skin can actually breathe. I'd suggest skipping those various washing gels and just using lukewarm water instead, and definitely stay away from pantyliners.
Obviously, you should avoid sex during treatment. Also, make sure to dry off thoroughly after showering, because moisture is basically an invitation for yeast to thrive.
I've also heard that tea tree oil is really helpful when fighting Candida, but you have to be careful with it since it can be irritating to the skin. You should probably dilute it with a base oil before using it.

Excuse me?!?!?!?!??! 😲 I honestly can't function without them; I just end up sleeping through the day. My discharge has increased so much lately, and I absolutely cannot stand that constant "wet feeling" in my underwear. 🤣

Nathan Smith12 said:That’s exactly how I felt too... I was convinced things were going way more south than they actually were. But in the end... it's "just" some stupid Candida... I feel like I have it practically all the time. My boyfriend and I just keep passing it back and forth.🙄

Why don't you just undergo treatment at the same time and start using condoms to finally get rid of this? 😕

rustyscout3 said:So, I've finished my first pack and I'm just waiting for my period to arrive. It's already the fourth day, and it hasn't started yet, even though with Yasmine, it usually showed up by the third or fourth day at the latest.
I'm starting to feel a little anxious about the delay, even though there isn't any actual reason to worry.
What do you all think, or has anyone else gone through something similar?

Don't stress out too much!😁 Mine used to come on the fourth day too, but every few months it would shift forward or back a day. It's perfectly normal.👍

If you aren't entirely certain about your next move, it might be wise to take a third attempt just to be safe.
I can't help but wonder if you've ever found yourself engaging in incredibly risky behavior when you're feeling this much uncertainty.😱

Periods don't really care about what time it is, so you can certainly take it after midnight if that works better for you.😉
I actually know a girl who preferred taking the pill in the morning just because it felt more convenient for her routine. The main thing is to ensure you don't start your course within 24 hours of finishing your last period, as that effectively counts as starting on day two. Whether your flow starts at 8:00 AM or 8:00 PM, you could still take it around 10:00 PM that same day since it technically falls on the first day. So, please don't worry too much about it.😉
The only real complication arises if you experience that irregular spotting where you aren't quite sure if it qualifies as your actual period. My doctor advised me that in those instances, it’s best to hold off on the pill until the regular flow truly begins.😁

Hmm... 🤔
I actually know someone who was told they had Hepatitis B once after a routine blood draw, and the poor soul was absolutely devastated 😲 by the news.
However, after some follow-up testing, it turned out to be a false alarm; it was likely just a mild case of Hepatitis A that didn't even show obvious symptoms, which somehow skewed that initial result.
If you haven't already, I would strongly suggest checking in with your primary care physician to get a professional opinion. As for the risky sexual behavior— please, just use your head !!! 🙂 there is no need to learn things the hard way.

wearycrane18 said:Quick question!!! Has anyone else noticed this weird sensation of numbness in certain parts of their body? And I mean literal numbness, almost like you’ve just been given local anesthesia. For me, my right hand goes numb, along with my lips, tongue, and even my palate... It’s incredibly uncomfortable, though it does seem to pass after a few minutes.

Please don't take this lightly... you really need to see a doctor immediately!!!!! 🙂

Kevin Bailey2 said:I honestly don't think I'll ever wrap my head around how little self-respect a woman needs to have to actually take these pills.

First off, you really have to realize that there are women who absolutely HAVE to take birth control, and for most, it’s due to hormonal imbalances or menstrual cramps that are simply unbearable—for what it's worth, I know people dealing with pain so intense they regularly end up in the ER for Voltaren injections and tranquilizers just to get through their cycle.

Sarah James7 said:So, I went to see my OB-GYN to get some bloodwork done after being on Yasmin for several years straight (I’m on a break from them right now). I finally got the results back, and from what I can gather on my own, my blood sugar and cholesterol levels are both elevated. When I brought the report to him, he just brushed it off, telling me everything looked fine, nothing to worry about, and sent me on my way. Honestly, it felt like he didn't even want to talk about it. I’m heading to my primary care doctor today to get a second opinion because he left me with zero explanations, and now I'm looking at these numbers thinking, "Wait, could this actually be from the pills?" Has anyone else dealt with something like this before?

Elevated lipids? It’s quite possible it was from the medication. I actually ran into the exact same issue myself, so I'm taking a break from them now and plan to redo my labs in about a month.