fadedbear8 said:Claritin is actually just an extract from the Astragalus plant—it’s got nothing to do with treating allergies, despite what the manufacturer claims. It's meant for colds! Black cumin is actually effective for allergies—there are clinical studies backing that up.
Thanks, Olivia Ramos66. I trust your take on this—you clearly know your stuff based on your posts. If anything else comes to mind regarding this, please let me know.
[QUOTE=placidbison0;10369626] [QUOTE="fadedbear8, post: 663514, member: 9482"]Oh yeah, would it be a good idea to get him some effervescent zinc or something? Someone mentioned that taking it helps during these miserable allergy seasons. 😕[/QUOTE
Effervescent calcium tablets are usually what people suggest for allergies.
A solid nasal spray is Flonase—it worked for me—maybe ask your doctor about it. Thanks for the tip. 🙂
I ended up picking up some effervescent zinc with Vitamin C, so we'll see how that goes... A few other people also pointed me toward Flonase as the best option for the nose... My son's pediatrician used to prescribe Nasonex for him, which is supposedly very similar—almost the same thing—though I've heard Flonase might actually be better. Interestingly, for the last two years, his doctor hasn't prescribed anything for his nose at all (even though he’s really struggling with it), just some Flonidan tablets.
Yesterday at the pharmacy, they suggested Claritin as a "preventative" (to start taking it at least a month before allergy season hits), along with various immune boosters—especially for allergies—like those black seed oil capsules from Dr. Theodore and stuff like that. They mentioned they carry quite a bit of homeopathic stuff for these things too...
Has anyone here tried Claritin?
Also, I'm curious if anyone else deals with this humidity allergy?[/QUOTE][/QUOTE]
Yeah, I was also wondering—would it be a good idea to pick up some effervescent zinc or something similar? Someone mentioned it might help during these miserable allergy seasons. 😕
Help! My son has been allergic to pollen since he was 11—he’s 17 now. It runs in our family; I have pollen allergies, and my dad did too—so, his grandfather...
His allergy tests showed he’s most sensitive to tree pollen, then grass, and by far the worst is ragweed... Basically, his allergies kick in around March or April, and once the trees (like birch or hazel) finish blooming, things settle down for a bit since he isn't as reactive to grass. But then, by late August or September, the ragweed madness starts all over again. However, the testing also revealed that he's allergic to humidity and mold (and I mean REALLY allergic—it caused quite a stir during the appointment). The doctor was genuinely baffled because we don't live in a damp place, and we've never lived in an apartment with moisture or mold issues. Everything is dry, modern, and bright—we're in a nice, well-lit unit on the third floor. She said looking at his results, she’d assume he was some poor kid living in a basement apartment filled with mildew... He's also allergic to dust (though not as much as the humidity) and certain foods (mostly chocolate and nuts like peanuts, hazelnuts, almonds, etc.). My doctor explained that these other sensitivities—the mold, dust, and food—only seem to flare up when his pollen allergy is active, because his system is just hyper-sensitive during those times.
It all fluctuates—sometimes it's intense, sometimes it's manageable. Honestly, overall, he seems to struggle less than he did when he was younger. Still, the last few days have been driving me crazy listening to him in the bathroom—both in the morning and at night while showering—sniffling and sneezing like crazy. Obviously, the ragweed is still a thing, but I haven't noticed him reacting to the bathroom humidity like this before (I mean, obviously there's steam when you shower, but we don't have a moisture problem). This morning, he was actually STRUGGLING to breathe in there; he was sneezing so hard I thought he might choke or throw up... He walked out looking totally flushed, and the second he hit the fresh air, he felt better! On top of that, a few days ago he developed a rash under both armpits—an allergy to the deodorant he’s used forever. I told him to ditch it and bought him a new one that's alcohol and aluminum-free, but the redness (kind of like hives) is taking forever to fade. At first, it didn't even bother him or itch, but yesterday he mentioned it was getting pretty itchy. It's clear he's just incredibly irritated by his allergies right now and is in this phase of total hypersensitivity where everything triggers him. For his allergies, he takes Flonase, which works best for him. Nothing else, not even Allegra, really did the trick. Interestingly enough, Flonase works best for me too—in my entire "allergy career," it’s basically the only thing that helps, though my own pollen allergies have calmed down significantly over the years.
During those first years when he had allergic bronchitis, they prescribed inhalers and a good nasal spray (I think it was Nasonex). Now, the doctor doesn't prescribe those anymore, just the pills. I did buy him that nasal powder—the kind meant to coat the membranes to create a barrier against pollen—but I'm not sure how much it actually helps. We manage the pollen okay, but this whole sensitivity to humidity and the breathing issues in the bathroom are driving me nuts. It doesn't happen every single time, but the last few days have been extreme, plus that hives situation under his arms! (About two weeks ago, when the ragweed season was just starting and the pollen count was higher, I noticed dust bothered him more. Then that died down, and the sensitivity seemed to 'switch' over to humidity, which is hitting him way harder than the dust did).
What should I do? Has anyone dealt with something similar, or does anyone know anything about this humidity allergy 😕?
Jamie Johnson6 said:Exactly. It all comes down to that. It isn't really about the fact that they live in his house or that she feels like a guest on his turf.
So, when you talk about someone else's territory where she's forced to endure this nonsense until she can leave, it doesn't quite hold water.
In a perfect world, everyone would have their own place and plenty of money in the bank. But in reality, you have to learn how to navigate both the good and the bad within a 😁 community. A husband isn't going to undergo a complete personality transplant just because of a property deed. While you can certainly try to fix the surface issues, it's really just a temporary patch job on the relationship—eventually, those deeper cracks will resurface in other ways. Don't be surprised if others take advantage of you if your husband allows it to happen. And truthfully, that sting won't come from the outsiders; it will come from him.
But looking at it realistically, she should have spent 90% of her energy focusing on her husband rather than her mother-in-law. The MIL is actually a minor player here; the core issue is that her husband is immature. It seems like a lot of people struggle to accept that while you're living in someone else's house, you might want some autonomy—but it's hard to demand anything if the other side is set in their ways and stuck in their habits (and how they want to live). Living in a house where the mother-in-law, father-in-law, and sister-in-law are all there every day because of work—and where they act like they own the place, as she puts it—is going to be exhausting for her regardless. It won't matter if she decides to do all the laundry herself or tries to teach her husband how to prep his own meals while his mom stops coddling him. To her, it’s already subconsciously ingrained: "I'm in someone else's house and they're running around like they own the joint." Expecting all of them to overhaul their lifestyle, traditions, and rules is an illusion. In situations like this, you have to look inward and decide what's best for you—and for her, that means having her own space. Besides, it’s the only way to see if her husband is even remotely ready or capable of living independently from his parents. Ultimately, if she keeps getting disappointed by how much he yields to them, her only move might be to pack her bags and leave. This isn't shared property or a joint asset; it belongs to his parents, and she can simply go back to where she came from (presumably her own parents'). She'd be better off securing her own independence sooner rather than later.
Jamie Johnson6 said:At the end of the day, a woman should have the autonomy to iron her own underwear regardless of whose roof she happens to be under.
It’s easy to slip into the mindset that she has to dress a certain way or handle her things a specific way simply because she doesn't own the deed to the house.
Besides, I think it's worth asking her husband whether he views this house as their shared home or just his own private property. Wherever they decide to settle down, if he is perfectly fine with someone interfering with his wife's personal belongings against her will, then they are going to have deep-seated issues forever.
Look, the underwear isn't the point here. Trust me, she wouldn't care about the laundry if her husband were stepping up. If her husband were a real man, she'd be happy ironing her own clothes—maybe even her mother-in-law's too—all while singing her heart out. This is all just noise. Every single one of these issues stems from her husband's inability to take a stand.
Honestly, I wouldn't want my mother-in-law doing my laundry or cooking my meals—not that it would ever be an option, since we live in two completely different cities anyway. I should probably mention that I’ve always been firmly against married couples living under the same roof as their parents or in-laws. That’s just how I am—it's my stance—and it's exactly what I'd tell my own kids if they asked for advice. Sure, there are exceptions, and I've seen them work out, but they're rare... Looking back at my generation, I’ve seen plenty of examples of people living with mothers-in-law or parents, and it almost never ends well. What's worse is that even when things start out perfectly normal and respectful, it can spiral into intense resentment and massive blowups. So, with the very best intentions, I’ll tell any young woman: "Try your hardest to live alone with your husband!"
Angela Rogers2 said:I mean, they don't live with their elderly parents. You really should have read the whole thing first. And honestly, your story—as in how your husband treats his mother versus how the author's husband treats hers—has nothing to do with each other, aside from the fact that we're talking about mothers and sons.
Look, they’re living in "their" house, not their own. They're in a place built by his parents, which belongs to them, and where they run a family business—where everyone, apparently, including the daughter and all the kids, works together. And since they're there every single day, it's actually worse—it seems they view the whole house as just an "amenity," like some perk of the business where they can just grab a free meal while working... Yeah, it's like what was said about the housing situation being like living at a train station. There won't be any peace in that house—not even if the mother-in-law starts knocking on the door. Long story short, she's still in "their" house, where—as she puts it—they act like they own the place...
I shared my own story just to show that there are definitely things worse than a mother-in-law trying to take over the cooking and laundry... I'd love to see how she'd handle an "autistic," cold, and selfish woman like my mother-in-law was. She spent her entire life grabbing everything for herself—from her husband, her relatives, her kids, and us... and in return, she wouldn't even bother buying a single chocolate bar for her grandkids, or even a jar of jam and some deli meat when we visited for a few days. Not to mention she never even thought to wish anyone a happy birthday... Yet, somehow, I managed to maintain a good relationship with her son without letting our marriage fall apart from my own resentment—and believe me, I was deeply hurt. I couldn't believe people like that actually existed. But they do... and probably worse ones too. Though, I suspect her mother-in-law might actually be better than mine. She could likely fix most of these issues if she just moved out, but her husband would have to be willing to do that too... It isn't about what the mother-in-law wants or doesn't want; it's about what she and her husband want. To me, the bigger issue seems to be the husband... (hmm, so he punishes her by avoiding intimacy because she's on bad terms with his mom 🙄 ...whatever!!! And then she makes the mother-in-law the main problem!). And this whole "I told my mother-in-law everything she told me in confidence" thing... hm... Nathan Ramirez2 is playing a power game in someone else's house, trying to see "who's boss," but you don't play those games on someone else's turf. You have to stand on your own two feet first—meaning, get your own place. If she's unhappy in their house, the only solution is renting or buying her own home... Or, if they're short on cash and she thinks her parents are much fairer and would be more willing to accommodate her husband (?) than his parents would accommodate her, maybe they should try moving in with hers.
Lucky you, making such a huge deal out of this... I didn't actually read every single detail, because honestly, who has the energy for such riveting drama—like whether she swiped your laundry off the line or was just bold enough to iron it for you. Yeah, Mom clearly has an intense attachment to her son. And obviously, she didn't trust that you’d keep him well-fed after you two tied the knot—her heart probably broke knowing he'd actually have to heat up his own leftovers sometimes. Also, it wouldn't hurt if she actually knocked before walking into your room, just in case she accidentally wanders in while you guys are being intimate (even though you say that's not happening)... and things like that. As far as everything else goes, you’re just as responsible as she is, if not more. You chose her son, which makes her a secondary character in this whole saga. (You know how it goes: every family has that one crazy aunt or weird uncle, so naturally, our partners' parents aren't always our cup of tea...). Look, when you decided to marry this guy, you should have really thought about where and how you’d live—realizing there’s a massive difference between living independently and living under someone else's roof. I always tell anyone moving in with their in-laws that it's a mistake... You're in his parents' house, so you're the one who had to adapt to them. You could have seen this coming. I'm not saying it's okay for her to barge into your room without knocking, but I think you're really nitpicking when you complain about the cooking, the laundry, the ironing, and all that. You should be grateful to have a mother-in-law like mine. Whenever we visit, she’ll open an empty fridge—even though she lives quite comfortably—and then, once we're all gathered in the kitchen, she'll just say, "I honestly have no idea what you guys eat, so I didn't buy anything"... And then my husband and I head straight to the nearest Target or Walmart (on an empty stomach) to grab everything from bread and milk to margarine, coffee, jam, deli meats, and drinks... (By the way, that comment about "not knowing what we eat" is hilarious—maybe we eat nails or sawdust or something?)... Anyway, I don't nag my husband about her. She's just one of those miserable, emotionally stunted, unhospitable, and pathologically stingy people. Usually, when she’s a guest at our place—either with me or my folks (alongside my late father-in-law)—it’s funny how my mom or I always knew exactly what they liked. There was always plenty of food, from meat to dessert, and nobody ever said, "No thanks" or turned anything down. But the moment we go to their place, she'll say, "Sorry, I don't bake, the oven heating costs too much for me."😲 Or, more recently, that "I don't know what you eat" bit. Pure genius. Maybe you'd be happier if you had a mother-in-law like that. In her entire life, she's never bought a single gift for her grandkids—not even for birthdays—never $6.75 gave any pocket money, nothing... despite having a pretty decent standard of living... So what kind of help or ironing is that? Honestly, it makes me want to laugh reading about what's bothering you—the fact that your mother-in-law keeps trying to cook and iron for you...
Anyway, enough about my situation. I try to distance myself from it and I don't badger my husband about her or how hurt I am by her... We have a great marriage. He's dealt with enough misery having an emotionally broken mother. She is who she is, and I don't lump her in with my husband or with "us."
Your mistake wasn't going behind his back to tell him what she said to you in private. Sorry, but by acting like that, you basically branded yourself a gossip and a troublemaker... You don't really have grounds to complain while you're living in their house. Your only real move is to become financially independent—work toward being able to buy your own place or rent an apartment so you can live on your own. Any other issues you have with your husband regarding this (like if he refuses to move) are issues with HIM. That's a problem between you and HIM, not his mother. Because if you can't reach an agreement with him, or if you two don't see eye to eye, and if his mother is constantly more important to him than you—or the marriage, the family he built himself—then sorry, the problem is him, not his mommy.
Look, don't just pass the buck to your mother-in-law—put it back where it belongs: right on your husband.
quiethound45 said:Mmm. So he gets eight, I get ten, plus free coffee—sounds like a solid deal to me.😉 😬
Seems like that might be your only real option...😉 And hey, if he’s one of those guys who needs ten hours of sleep (and you can find plenty of them out there), then you’re more than justified in taking your twelve. 😁
So, I was reading somewhere that women actually need about two more hours of sleep than men on average... Basically, we just need to train our guys to wake up earlier, brew the coffee, fix breakfast, and all that good stuff.😛
Kimberly Morgan said:I have a retroverted uterus too—apparently, there's zero reason to worry. My doctor said pregnancies are totally normal, though labor might (not necessarily 🙂 ) be a bit more intense, and I might deal with some extra back pain during pregnancy. But they aren't expecting any specific complications. My mom had the same thing and didn't have any issues at all.
I'm also a "leftie." 😉 Honestly, don't let the fear of a tougher labor get to you. I had a super quick and easy delivery (and getting pregnant again was just as smooth). My whole pregnancy was basically problem-free. The only thing—and this is true: during labor, the pain was strictly in my lower back—just the lumbar area, nothing in the front... So, because my contractions were hitting me mostly in the back, I couldn't stay lying down... I kept begging the nurses if I could just walk as much as possible.... And that's exactly what I did—walking around the maternity ward as long as I could while it helped (being upright and moving felt better) until things got really intense. It actually turned out to be a good thing, because I think that’s why the actual birth went so fast and easily.
Anonymous said:My doctor told me I have a retroverted uterus, but she didn't really explain what that entails. What does it actually mean, and could it cause issues? Will I be able to have kids?
It’s nothing to worry about—it doesn't cause any problems at all. A gynecologist once explained it perfectly to me: having a tilted uterus is basically like being left-handed. It’s just a variation—uncommon, sure, but not "abnormal." Most women have a uterus that tilts forward, while a smaller group has one that tilts back. It has zero impact on your ability to get pregnant or any complications during pregnancy.
So, just think of it as being left-handed 🙄 😁 ... in terms of your anatomy. It doesn't change anything and won't cause you trouble, so don't sweat it.
Sam Hall15 said:it really depends on what you're looking for...
I’m really hoping for Voltaren again. 😁 If they start manufacturing it again at the start of next year, I can hold out until then—though I honestly have no clue why they'd pause production in the first place... in the meantime, I'll just take whatever the pharmacist suggests... maybe something like Neofen Forte, similar to what Hannah James50 used.
Hannah James50 said:Unfortunately, it’s out of stock. I checked a few different pharmacies—apparently, they won't start manufacturing it again until early next year.
Ah, that sucks! What should I take instead then? Anything similar? (If I'd known, I would have stocked up last month!!!!).
mellowraven32 said:It won't really do you much good... honestly—it's mostly effective for menstrual cramps if you start taking it two days before your period hits and stick to it for three days, at least according to what the literature says. What are the alternatives? Thinking about Dexedrin, some Naproxen combo, maybe Analgin?? Or just standard 500mg Tylenol.
I don't really need those kinds of preparations—my pain isn't intense enough that I'd need to start prepping days in advance. Plus, when my period hits, if it's actually painful, it's usually just for the first day—so I'll just take maybe one or two Voltaren and call it a day.
mellowraven32 said:I'm over here in Canada, and it looks like Rapid isn't available anymore. It seems like Pfizer stopped making it—or maybe they're just running low and aren't shipping it out of the country. Is that actually true? Such a bummer!
Really? I picked some up just last month... I had no idea they might have stopped making it. As far as I know, you can still find it pretty easily here in the States. Does anyone actually know what's going on with this?
James Watson84 said:Rapid (50 mg) is meant for acute situations where you need relief fast—we're talking within 20 minutes—and comes in a pill form. It's great for things like sprains, post-op pain, migraines, or bad period cramps, etc.
What was everyone buzzing about regarding the risks of Voltaren about six months ago? Is there actually something to worry about? Personally, I use Voltaren Rapid for period cramps—not that mine are killer, just occasional—and I’m really happy with it... It kicks in fast and actually works. Is that okay, or am I going to get lectured by the self-proclaimed medical experts on this forum?
What would be a good alternative for cramps? A couple of times when I didn't have my Voltaren Rapid on hand, I took Advil, but it doesn't seem nearly as effective.
So, dustypuma4, how's everything going on your end? 😎 Have you done anything about "healing those wounds" yet? Let us know before you head off to graduation... 🙂
Did you actually disinfect that properly? I mean, did you give it a good wash and use an antiseptic spray like Octane or something similar? Honestly, just head to a drugstore, show the pharmacist what’s going on, and let them help you out. It would probably be a smart move to grab some Bivouac spray and maybe a healing ointment—whatever they recommend, maybe Neosporin or something along those lines. Of course, you really should have just seen a doctor right away to get it professionally cleaned up and prescribed the right stuff to use at home; if you had, it likely would've healed much better by now.
Seriously, get to a doctor or a pharmacy ASAP, and you'll be feeling like brand new in time for graduation in six days!!! 🙂 Safe travels, and try not to do anything stupid during your graduation festivities!
Grace Fisher31 said:I didn't even bother going to the Bilićka location because a friend warned me long ago to stay away from it (he works as a traveling sales rep for Ray-Ban)
So why'd he tell you to avoid her? Was it the prices?