True, but your psychological makeup and how you actually interact with those around you are things only the people in your immediate circle can truly judge, since you aren't privy to how you come across to the rest of us... How you treat others and such... I am certainly not suggesting that you lack the ability to strip down, of course you can, but the real question is what kind of person you become once the clothes are off...
I find all these self-proclaimed altruists quite fascinating, especially those who seem to have absolutely no connection to actual experience or real-world events. For instance, if I were just spinning nonsense, there would be both a lioness here and brightridge59 has gone through something similar, so perhaps none of them lose their minds the way I do, though I could also certainly offer my own testimony regarding experiences with former addicts.
The absolute best advice I can offer you is this: fall out of love with him IMMEDIATELY. I mean, look, you’ve already fallen, and now the inevitable cycle begins... "Oh, but he’s different from 99% of other guys," "He’s actually sweet and soft-spoken," "Sure, his mood swings are more frequent than most people change their socks, but we're the exception..." You'll tell yourself that everyone else is just cynical and judgmental, and you'll keep living that delusion... right up until the moment you finally stop lying to yourself.
That guy doesn't love himself, he doesn't love you, and he certainly doesn't love anyone else! He is an emotional vampire who has likely sensed a soul in you that he can simply drain of every ounce of life energy. And honestly, there are probably others besides you... it's highly probable. If you also happen to have some rather well-founded suspicions that he's using drugs? Well, there it is.
Now, I am not suggesting that former addicts shouldn't be given a second chance—everyone deserves one, naturally. But you absolutely must maintain a massive distance from them, and ONLY when they PROVE themselves through consistent actions should you allow them even a tiny bit of proximity... because if you don't, he will utterly DESTROY you. I don't want it to seem like I'm just talking nonsense, so here is the reality: I've been tangled up with an ex-addict for three years now, and while miraculously he isn't using anymore, still... If he hasn't completely changed, please, just walk away for your own sake... for your future, your youth, and the possibility of finding actual love. Don't get me wrong, I understand perfectly what you saw in him; it is incredibly magnetic, but it is also damn dangerous. As I said before, if you truly cannot bring yourself to leave him, then keep him at a significant distance, and only once he has proven his worth through his deeds, let him draw a little closer.😉
On the other hand, you have to account for those people who walk in expecting miracles and leave looking like they were sculpted by Hollywood plastic surgeons like Charlize Theron. The most frustrating part is that these individuals tend to be the loudest voices in the room, spreading baseless misinformation and claiming they’re dissatisfied just for the sake of it... As for the swelling around the nose, that is perfectly standard; in my experience, it can persist for up to four months following the procedure. If they actually break the bones, I suppose the outcome is self-explanatory... though I still find it hard to believe that, for me, everything is finally settling into place. Your nose isn't simply going to shift in the wrong direction after surgery—I wouldn't agree with Susan Scott5 on that matter... The only way things would go sideways is if you ended up under some subpar surgeon, or if you suffered a significant impact or fall during that six-month recovery window. Immediately following the operation, before the swelling takes over and the splint is applied, the surgeon can clearly see the results of their work. Once the inflammation and swelling kick in, things look different, but no amount of swelling can disfigure the nose... only a complete amateur at the operating table could manage that...
Furthermore, I feel compelled to offer a bit of a defense for Smith... The only real flaw in his repertoire is those unfortunate lips of his. But he’s from the West Coast, and as far as I am aware, he specializes specifically in rhinoplasty. Kinčl, on the other hand—much like Zambelli—seems more focused on aesthetics, fillers, and silicone work. What I find truly fascinating, however, is that I’ve heard Glumičić claims to specialize in noses, yet everyone who has gone to him ended up with a disaster. Even celebrities, who really should be serving as walking advertisements, have been caught in the crossfire. Take, for instance, someone needing three procedures, or Ciganović-četiri requiring four... all under Glumičić's care. I can't say for certain, but I was also terrified that my nose would end up looking pig-like; in truth, my nose was actually quite lovely, just broken with a slight deviation, and I simply wanted to smooth out that one irregularity because, without it, I essentially have a beautiful nose. Well, I got exactly what I asked for. There aren't any unsightly nostrils, nor does my nose look like it belongs in the sky; I am completely, utterly satisfied! My advice to you is to simply go for a consultation with Borić, and then decide from there... Truly, believe me, the man knows exactly what he is doing. He is incredibly laid back, devoid of any melodrama or sycophancy.
Furthermore, Zambelli considers himself some kind of self-proclaimed "specialist."🙄 I’ve heard just about everything there is to hear regarding his reputation... Anyway, steelangler88, I completely understand how you're feeling. I actually put together a rather lengthy post detailing my own decision-making process, along with everything involving the surgery and the recovery period over at Cosmetic Center—it's under the Aesthetic Surgery topic, so feel free to head over there and have a read if you're interested!👍
I can say without any hesitation that Dr. Borić is my absolute recommendation. I haven’t heard a single negative thing about him, and personally, my own results have been nothing short of phenomenal. I realize that a lot of this depends on individual tissue response, but here I am just two weeks post-op and I am beyond thrilled with the outcome... my nose looks completely natural, even though I was told it usually takes at least two months before things really start to settle into place. He doesn't go around bragging or throwing his colleagues under the bus; he is a true professional through and through. I actually received my referral from someone who used to work in facial plastic surgery, so if you are unsure, I suppose it wouldn't hurt to at least schedule a consultation. To be honest, I have always steered clear of those surgeons who over-advertise or spend their time badmouthing everyone else in the field. My other piece of advice would be to see a few different specialists, so you can eventually just listen to your intuition...☕
Amanda Wilson45 said:Raymond Sanchez7 wrote: I mentioned that I can blow my nose normally now, but I’m still struggling with it. I don't blow it quite as "heroically" 😁 as I did before the surgery; instead, I just blow very gently and then clear things out with swabs. I constantly feel like there is something stuck inside, even though I feel like I’ve cleaned it out quite thoroughly. It actually feels like my nose is slightly swollen from all the constant cleaning and blowing. How is it going for you, considering we had our procedures only two days apart? I’m terrified something might happen to it 😢 I suppose I am being just as paranoiacan as you, worrying that it might develop a hump or heaven forbid, something else entirely... 😢
As for me, I’m blowing and sniffling quite normally. Though, I don't obsess over it too much, and even now, it feels a bit bothersome at times... I had some crusty buildup right at the tip of my nose during the initial stage, and I managed to clear it out, even if it was a little painful; my only lingering worry is whether I missed any of the sutures...🤣 I can't say for sure, but I was definitely the one whimpering the most in the beginning, yet now I am quite pleased with the results—it hasn't really changed much since then, except for the fact that, much like you, I jump at the slightest touch... A couple of times, I accidentally bumped the tip of my nose with my hand and immediately rushed to take a photo just to see if a hump had formed...😂 I find myself taking photos every single day to track the progress, and honestly...👍 I have a follow-up appointment today, so I will finally see if everything is looking okay... I suspect we are both being paranoiacan, but in all honesty, it feels completely justified... After everything involving the surgery, the packing, and having to breathe through your mouth for five days... I wouldn't dream of doing it all over again...😬
restlesshound41 As stated by: Everything you’ve laid out here is entirely accurate...🤷Well, looking back now, it has been nearly three years since my surgery took place...
Good grief... I suppose I can see where you're coming from on that... Look, hang in there... I am uncertain whether you are still weighing the possibility of that upcoming surgery, but I underwent my own procedure with Dr. Borić, and I must say... I am truly, deeply satisfied with the results thus far... To be perfectly honest, I’ve been feeling a bit unsettled by those minor, nagging bumps that seem to pop up in different spots every single day... but the swelling is finally subsiding, and I find myself quite satisfied with the results, especially considering it hasn't even been two full weeks since the surgery...
Chloe Cox90 said:True, though there's this idea that general anesthesia is harder to stomach...
Nonsense... People say things, but they aren't always telling the truth. It’s perfectly logical that if you overindulge the day before surgery, you'll be dealing with nausea for three days afterward. The entire point of going under general anesthesia is that you consume absolutely nothing—not even a drop of water—for twelve hours prior to the procedure. As for me, I simply drifted off, and then suddenly, it felt as though only a few seconds had passed since the mold was applied; there was no nausea, no dizziness, nothing at all... No nightmares, no complications... I just had this sensation that a single incision had been made, and then, quite suddenly, there I was, with the mold already on my nose...
Linda Hernandez15 said:Are you absolutely certain it’s actually that long? I used to hear two weeks... It seems far too delicate an operation to be dealing with facial swelling for two whole months...
The swelling around the eyes isn't the real issue—that usually clears up within two weeks at most—but the true challenge is that you won't see the final shape of your nose for at least a month. Between the swelling and the thickness, everything looks slightly distorted, and frankly, you end up looking a bit like a little piglet... That is precisely the point of the inflammation... at least in cases of septoplasty where the bones have to be broken...
If those little bumps were just some kind of stubborn skin texture at the bridge of my nose, I took matters into my own hands and just pulled them right off.😬 I haven't really noticed any side effects, though... The only thing is, I get this weird dizzy spell every single time I accidentally brush the tip of my nose with my hand... My doctor keeps lecturing me about not injuring myself and making sure the bump doesn't reappear...😢 I suppose I’ve become a bit paranoičan about it all...
restlesshound41 said:steelangler88's response: Hmm, how should I even begin to put this into words... I underwent a procedure with Smith, and I truly regret it. He himself avoids making any grand promises about the results, but I get the distinct impression he simply didn't put enough effort into my case—as if he were either overbooked or just cutting corners to save on costs. I spent months after the surgery trying to convince myself otherwise. You see, at first, you don't immediately grasp the consequences; you essentially gaslight yourself into believing his work is absolutely wonderful... and he goes out of his way to be incredibly polite, constantly insisting that everything turned out perfectly, while remaining utterly incapable of handling any criticism. So, you find yourself reassuring yourself that things will improve once the swelling subsides, telling yourself it’s just more inflammation. I must emphasize that he is exceptionally courteous, though I suspect his kindness stems from a genuine fear of being called out for a mistake. Essentially, my nose is too small, yet far too thick; it looks entirely out of place against my delicate features. Did he even consider the aesthetic balance of my face when he finished? He was so overly confident. My nose wasn't large to begin with, but I specifically wanted to address a hump. I told him clearly that I didn't want it to look upturned, yet the result is quite bizarre. It feels as though he lifted the outer edges of my nostrils, but left the middle section—where it meets the lip—exactly as it was, leaving it protruding awkwardly. From a profile view, the internal structure of my nose is painfully obvious. It looks deeply unnatural. It used to be straight, but now the tip tilts at an angle, likely because he failed to suture those outer edges evenly. Even my smile feels off now. It genuinely bothers me. And there is no corrective surgery offered... only endless reassurances that the nose is flawless. That is all. And one more thing... he never provided me with a receipt... and his hand wandered onto my knee while I was lying there during recovery. Well, if that's how they operate...
Look, I had my rhinoplasty on May 26th. Immediately after the surgery, once the packing and casts were removed, my nose looked like a caricature. It was thick, and frankly, I felt like a pig. Today, June 8th, my nose looks almost normal; I had some slight swelling in one spot, then a few days later in another, and even though I am thrilled with it personally, the process isn't over—you can't see the final shape for at least six months!! I went into a total panic, wondering what on earth I had done to myself, so I started taking calcium, drinking milk, using compresses, and massaging the tip... and well, today I am satisfied, and honestly, I am surprised by how quickly I "recovered." However, I know certain people whose noses remained swollen for up to five months, walking around looking like cartoons. Since I don't know exactly when your surgery was, I believe the swelling is perfectly normal! This will pass, so please, try to stay calm...
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Hello there. I pulled my referral on February 28th... I completely lost track of time regarding the appointment, and tomorrow is already March 28th. I wonder if the referral is still valid, or if I am going to have to go through the hassle of requesting a new one from my doctor...😢 Thanks.😳