mistyseal11 said:Honestly, life is just getting way too monotonous and I’ve got zero motivation to actually get moving.
I’m basically living in total isolation here.
I find myself walking out onto the balcony—since I can still move around, at least—just threatening to jump.
I just need something, anything, to spark some kind of reaction, and I’m dying to know what that might be.
Look, I don't actually want to die; I’d just be faking it. I just really need someone to look out for me, to show even a tiny bit of care and for something, I don't know, to actually fucking happen...
Will I just get wiped out, or will I actually get a little attention and maybe some various pills?
edit: I've got good health insurance.🙂
but wait, do you even give enough attention to yourself? like, do you actually love yourself?
vividbear4 said:People love using "fate" as a convenient excuse to stay unengaged. They use it to justify things they can't wrap their heads around, or just to make dealing with life's highs and lows a little easier.
Sure, some things are just weird coincidences or outcomes with insanely low odds. But even if everything really is predestined, I guess that’s still no excuse to just sit there like a passive observer in your own life, right?
Quentin Tarantino
Ronald Rogers27 said:Yeah, I definitely feel it. And I let my gut lead the way. That doesn't mean I'm just sitting on my couch waiting for a meteor to hit me in the face, though. I play these weird, complicated little games with life that most people wouldn't understand if I tried to explain them... 😬
Everything is set in stone, unless we decide to change our own Destiny...
And honestly, you need (and only have) that invisible force to make that happen... 👍
Ronald Rogers27
Yeah, exactly... but I don't know, I just see this invisible force as something totally overwhelming. Like, if something is actually gonna happen, it’s just gonna happen, regardless of how much we wish it wouldn't. You could spend your whole life being super careful, you know? Like, avoiding all that junk food, staying away from carcinogens, doing everything by the book... and then one day you're just walking down a street in Chicago or something, and some random guy just comes out of nowhere and takes you out. It's heavy. You could have spent your entire existence fighting every single battle just to have it all wiped out in a second. Maybe it sounds a bit bleak, and I'm not saying we should just roll over and let life happen to us, but from that perspective... man, it kind of feels like it's all for nothing. Just an uphill battle against something way bigger than us.
Jeremy Alvarez5 said:The formula basically goes like this:
1. Just never stop working on yourself. I mean, really dive into learning and taking care of your mind, your body, even just keeping your room or your house in order. It’s about improving your immediate surroundings and your inner world—your psyche and your consciousness—so you can actually feel good about who you are. When you're content, people around you are going to pick up on that vibe, too.
2. You’ve gotta keep meeting new people and making new friends while holding onto the old ones. Maybe let everyone you meet kind of act as a little bit of a therapist for you, but—and this is important—don't be that person who only talks about themselves. If you dominate every conversation with your own life story, you'll kill the relationship. Try to value logic and empathy instead; listen more, learn from what others have been through, and honestly? Don't look down on anyone's experience, whether they're a CEO at a Fortune 500 company or someone just struggling on the street.
3. Always be fighting against your own biases. Especially those rigid, preconceived notions about culture or "how things should be" based on some outdated social system. Work on keeping your mind calm, open, and flexible.
4. Toss out the self-pity, the constant suffering, and that nagging disbelief in yourself or in what tomorrow might bring. Try not to let your mind drift off into endless fantasies; just stay present and focus on what's right in front of you. Your subconscious is already doing enough worrying about the future for both of you. I guess you could say most mental struggles come from that desperate, fearful way we view the future—basically, losing faith in things. Pessimism is pretty much the root of all psychological trouble.
5. Learn as much as you can about how nature works. Instead of trying to fight against the grain, maybe try cooperating with the world around you to find your own sense of freedom. And hey, try to conserve your energy. Like, it's obviously much easier to get stuff done during the day than to try forcing it in the middle of the night...
Is it, like, totally crazy to look at life as this constant battle against fate? You know, like we're just playing out some script that's already been written? No matter how hard you grind, things don't always go your way, but there’s always that feeling like... I don't know, "if this hadn't happened, then *that* wouldn't have happened," right? So I end up spiraling into this whole apocalyptic thought process where I'm wondering what I'm even fighting for. But then again, maybe fate is just us sitting on the couch, waiting for life to happen to us? Like, just idling? What do you guys think about all this? Do you actually feel that invisible force pulling your strings through life—guiding you toward some ultimate goal that makes zero sense while it's happening, but somehow works out in the end?!
Maria Sanchez59 said:Honestly, the only way out of this seems to be working on my self-esteem. Everything you just laid out—that awkward vibe when you're in a big group or somewhere totally new, that constant fear that everyone's laughing at you... it all stems from having low self-confidence. And stuff like being super jittery or getting aggressive? That’s just a side effect of the confidence thing. So, yeah, don't waste time fixing the symptoms; go straight for the root cause.
I get it, I'm like, ultra-sensitive myself. This is how I deal with it.👍
Ugh, yeah, so I’ve got those annoying prominent ears, and, like, I’m turning 18 soon, and right now I can't even tie my hair up properly. My hair is super thick and long, which is already a total nightmare in this summer heat, but my ears still poke through the hair, and it feels just... gross. Honestly, I've decided I'm going to get surgery. I've done all my research, but you wouldn't believe it—the older folks in my family are totally blocking me from doing it. It's so frustrating because I remember being such a little kid, coming home crying so many times because other kids were being mean to me about it. I have so many emotional scars from it, like, zero self-confidence left, and yet they still won't let me do it or pay for it. I seriously cannot believe it. Would you guys really deny your own kid something that is literally destroying their mental health? 😠 Does anyone have advice on how I can scrape together enough money to cover this myself? I really don't want to go through any public assistance programs because, honestly, I'm terrified they'll just mess it up, and since you only get one shot at this, I want it done perfectly. Any ideas on costs? Doctors? Personal experiences?