What do you do when you're grabbing coffee alone at a bar?

Sarah Ward80 said:It’s not really "losing." You just sip your coffee, relax, scroll through your phone, read the news, or just people-watch.
That’s exactly how I do it, too. Honestly, I don't feel embarrassed at all. Going solo is actually a pretty great way to experience the world and meet new people on your own terms.

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I personally can't stand doing that.

Plus, I could never bring myself to eat alone in a restaurant.

Sarah Ward80 said:It’s not "losing." You just sip your coffee, enjoy the moment, scroll through your phone, read the paper, or just observe the world passing by.
That’s exactly how I handle it. And honestly? There is zero shame in it. Reddit soloing is actually a fantastic way to experience the world and the people in it.

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Soloing is great, provided you are actually at peace with yourself.

quietviper20 said:So we're basically the same age. Except I don't really speak "Instagram" or act all soft and bubbly.
I am a cheerful person, though, so I guess I'll probably have to start getting better at using emojis just to prove that point.

But anyway, what’s the hardest part for you when you're out grabbing coffee by yourself? Is it just the boredom, or is it something else?

yeah, you definitely come across as cheerful and open-minded🤣

wiredfox said:you messed up, I'm just not used to acting like that, whatever

I always feel like I lack self-confidence, yet there were plenty of times back when I was in college—and even later—where I'd head out to a club alone, or grab coffee by myself, or even travel solo without needing someone waiting for me at the destination... 😵

Look, if you're noticing that you actually want to hook up with some guy you aren't even into, you might want to start digging a hole and burying your head in it. 🐔 😬

I’m honestly more surprised that anyone is still hanging out at a Doberman this late in the game.😁
Usually, while I'm having my coffee, I'll spend the time mulling over things I need to settle—tasks, projects, work, etc.—and occasionally I might play a hand of poker. But if I'm being completely honest, coffee or a beer are my absolute favorite ways to unwind.

hiddenmarlin14 said:I always walk away feeling like I just don't have enough self-confidence, even though there were plenty of times back when I was in college—and even later on—where I’d head out to a club all by myself, or grab coffee alone, or even travel to a new city without having anyone waiting for me at the destination... 😵

I mean, honestly... if you find yourself actually considering picking up some guy who you aren't even remotely interested in, maybe you could just start digging through your nose instead. 🐔 😬

I really don't see how confidence plays into this at all.

I'm a total social butterfly and I love hanging out with people at the local pub.

It isn't weird one bit! 🤷‍♀️

Later on, I'll probably hit up McDonald's and take some photos for Instagram.

wiredfox said:I'm really not a fan of that!

I honestly could never bring myself to eat at a restaurant all by myself!

I don't mind it at all. Honestly, I’ve gotten used to traveling on my own. There's something nice about just being responsible for yourself without having to worry about dragging someone else along for the ride. Plus, if I happen to meet someone cool, we can just head home together—and if not, everyone just goes their own way. No big deal!

quietviper20 said:Reddit soloing is actually pretty great if you’re at peace with yourself.

If you’re used to letting people walk all over you... hey, be my guest. Me? I’m doing my own thing. I actually enjoy the peace and quiet. Even when I'm waiting around for someone, there's zero drama. Why bother? Just because they're running late? Please.

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wiredfox said:I don't see what self-confidence has to do with this.

I'm a social creature and I love being out with people at the pub.

It’s not weird at all. 🤷‍♀️

Later, I'm hitting up McDonald's to take some photos for Insta.

I don't know, I think there's definitely a connection. 🤔 Fine, maybe I just look at things differently. 🤔

And you're going to McDonald's alone? 😲

Morgan Campbell4 said:I’m actually more surprised that anyone is even hanging out in a Doberman at this hour.😁
To be completely honest, when I’m sitting there with my coffee, I usually find myself spiraling into thoughts about things I need to tackle, stuff I have to get done, work, or whatever—sometimes I’ll even lose myself in a few hands of poker. But if I’m being totally real with you, solo coffee or beer sessions are definitely my favorite way to unwind.

There are tons of people on here.

hiddenmarlin14 said:I've always had this nagging feeling that I lack self-confidence, yet there were countless times during college and even later when I'd just head out to a club on my own, or grab coffee alone, or even travel solo without needing some familiar face waiting for me at the destination... 😵

Look, if you're actually noticing that you feel the urge to latch onto some guy you aren't even interested in, then you might want to consider picking up a hobby or just digging a hole in your backyard instead. 🐔 😬

You can always just grab a decent book and use that to pass the time.

Let's say, Cyclops 🤣

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Sarah Ward80 said:Let's just say, Cyclops 🤣

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Cyclops by Rank Marinković? Honestly, I'm quite surprised by the choice, though I have my doubts it could ever truly compete with Instagram.

wiredfox said:I don't see what confidence has to do with any of this.

I'm a social creature. I actually enjoy being out with people at a bar.

It's not weird at all. 🤷‍♀️

Later, I'll hit up McDonald's and take some photos for Instagram.

🤣

Drinking coffee alone isn't such a crisis that I'd start a thread about it. 😁
Grabbing a coffee by myself in the morning while running errands around town is perfectly fine.

I honestly just love having a coffee all by myself. Whether I'm chilling at home or hitting up a local cafe, it’s my time. 😁
This whole thing feels a bit "influencer" and soft... sounds more like something a teenager would post than a typical comment from Kiran. But hey, I'll leave room for the possibility that I'm just getting old. 😁

I’ve never been a big coffee shop person—honestly, I can't stand cafe coffee—so I only really drag myself into one when I absolutely have to.

Look, that doesn't exactly answer the question, but hey, at least now you guys know this incredibly vital piece of information about me 🥳

So, I'm basically just playing pocket billiards and picking my nose—sometimes I make little balls out of it to aim at people, and other times I just eat them like candy alongside my coffee. 🍿

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quietviper20 said:A Cyclops by Rank Marinković? Honestly, I'm surprised by the choice, though I highly doubt it could ever compete with Instagram.

It wasn't random. Now that I'm reading it, it’s actually a much smoother read than Philip Latinovicz. Still, it hits you right in the gut like a heavy stone.

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There’s just something about a morning coffee at my favorite local diner that feeds the soul—just me, my thoughts, and zero unnecessary distractions...

Sarah Ward80 said:It isn't accidental. I'm reading him now, and honestly, he's a much easier read than Philip Latinovicz. Still, his work sits in my gut like a heavy stone.

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It's a solid choice regardless, even if things feel a bit heavy right now. I'm with you on that.

Carl Mitchell31 said:Having a morning coffee at my favorite local pub is pure soul food—just me, my thoughts, and zero unnecessary distractions.

I make it a point to carve out some time every single day just to be alone with my own head; it doesn't always have to involve a cup of coffee.

The book is just something I always keep in my bag, I guess.