What's been making you feel down lately?

rustymarlin16 said:Period. End of story.

+1 ☕
If they don't want kids, they should just go get a vasectomy. ☕

rapidtrucker78 said:I really don't care for this kind of gendered reasoning.😳

I think it's pretty silly to say girls specifically need their dad's attention, or vice versa.😳

Every kid, regardless of whether they're a boy or a girl, needs love from both their mother and father equally.😳

+1 😳

As for those two, there’s nothing worse than exes fighting with a child caught in the middle. ☕

Even if he wanted to later on, I wouldn't let him see her anyway.🙂
What's even the point of him being around🤷if he doesn't actually want to see her?🤷
Look, it's fine if he can't be a big part of her growing up. I know a guy who got married and was a father to a little girl, but he made sure to visit her every chance he got.🤷

I just can't wrap my head around my own father not wanting to see me.😕

Look, I might sound harsh here—but maybe it’s actually better for a woman to see just how much of a jerk some guys can be from an early age.
Builds some serious character.

Drew Ross2 said:Sure, you need love from both parents, but there's something special about that bond between a girl and her father. Having his approval and support while growing up makes a massive difference in how successful she becomes later in life.
I was just looking over some research. ☕

Send me the links to those studies. 😳
Something tells me they’re total bullshit. 😳

Kimberly Rodriguez51 said:+1 ☕
If someone really doesn't want kids, they should just go get a vasectomy ☕

🙄 I mean, even God didn't design nature with a built-in loophole for contraception ☕

Rachel Palmer56 said:Even if he actually wanted to—I don't know—I still wouldn't let her see him.🙂
What is she even going to end up with at this rate?🤷If he doesn't want to see her—well, that’s his call, I guess.🤷
Look, I get it—he might not be able to play a hands-on role in raising her. I know of a case where a married man was actually the father of a little girl, yet he still made sure to see her whenever the opportunity arose.🤷
I can't quite wrap my head around the idea—it’s hard to process, really—that my own father wouldn't even want to see me.😕

You don't really have much of a choice here—a child needs both a father and a mother. If the other parent happens to change their mind, maybe we should give that kid a chance to actually have a father in their life.

rapidtrucker78 said:Can you send over the links to those studies? 😳
Something tells me they’re just total bullshit. 😳

If you actually think it's all bullshit—then why are you even bothering to ask for links? 😳

Richard Sanders7 said:🙄 Not even God could justify why they had to design birth control with that tiny little hole. ☕

🤣🤣

Drew Ross2 said:If you think it's all bullshit, why are you even asking for links? 😳

So I can tear them apart. 😁

rapidtrucker78 said:so I have every right to complain about them. 😁

well, if that's the case, 😁 then you're basically asking for trouble yourself. 😁

I was actually feeling a little bummed out today because I ran into Lana Radeljak. Even though she’s totally fine legally now, I don't know... physically, she just seems a bit more underwhelming than before, I guess.

Drew Ross2 said:you don't really have a choice here. a kid needs both a mother and a father. if the guy actually changes his mind, you should give him a shot at being there for his child.

if you think it's all bullshit, why are you even asking for links? 😳

Honestly, if I were in this situation, there wouldn't even be anything to second-guess.🙂

An American mother who leaves her child has a certain window of time to change her mind—a reasonable timeframe—before the state steps in and takes custody.
A father like that isn't needed by anyone. It's better for the kid to grow up in peace with their mother. Or, if the dad is the one leaving, then just growing up without the mother.

Drew Ross2 said:That's how it goes. 😁 Then go find them yourself. 😁

🙂
Because they're total bullshit. 😁

briskbison55 said:It actually bummed me out today—ran into Lana Radjeljak. Even though she’s legally allowed now, she just looks... I don't know, underwhelming physically.

You didn't run into her; you were just scrolling through CNN.
The "underwhelming" part is probably just because she looks like a normal 18-year-old girl—no fake eyelashes, no drawn-on brows, tons of makeup, a nose thin as paper, or half a gallon of silicone in every curve.☕

Rachel Palmer56 said:I suppose if that happened to me, I wouldn't bother overthinking it.🙂

An American mother who abandons her child usually has a reasonable window of time to change her mind before the child is taken away.
A father like that isn't needed by anyone, I guess. It's better for the kid to grow up peacefully with their mother. Or, if it's the father's turn, without the mother.

Again, when a mother thinks like that, she's putting herself and her own hurt feelings first, rather than focusing on the child.
There are plenty of abandoned kids who have wonderful adoptive parents and still want to meet their biological ones eventually.
Similarly, you have parents who change their minds later and want more involvement in the child's life—and the other parent shouldn't block that, assuming the child actually wants that extra time too.

Drew Ross2 said:you didn't just stumble upon this, you've been reading about it for 24 hours straight.
it's honestly hilarious because she’s just a regular 18-year-old girl without fake lashes, drawn-on brows, heavy makeup, a nose thin as paper, or half a liter of silicone in every body part.☕

I'll say it again, when a mother thinks like this, she's putting herself and her own hurt feelings ahead of her child.
There are kids out there with amazing foster parents who still want to meet their biological parents regardless.
Same goes for parents who change their minds later and want more time with the kid; the other parent shouldn't block that, provided the extra time is what the child actually wants.

That's your take and I respect it, but I have mine too: a child isn't a toy you can pick up and put down whenever you feel like it. It's better for the kid if they never have to deal with that kind of inconsistency.
It's fine if the kid wants to see them once a year, but if they don't want to see them at all, then it's exactly like I said.🙂

briskbison55 said:it actually bummed me out today seeing Lana Radeljak—even if she's totally legal now, she just doesn't have that same physical presence anymore

Well, why act surprised? Her mother wasn't exactly a legend either—she only played nice with the right people, which is how she became an icon.

Drew Ross2 said:It’s not like you just stumbled upon this; you were clearly reading the New York Post.
I mean, she looks totally natural, right? Just your average 18-year-old girl without those fake eyelashes, drawn-on eyebrows, layers of makeup, a nose thin as a sheet of paper, or, you know, half a gallon of silicone in every single part of her body. ☕

I posted the link so people could actually see what I mean, but honestly, I see her out near Times Square almost every day... she's just small, kind of slouchy, short legs, a double chin—I mean, seriously, why is she not seeing a nutritionist? For crying out loud, what is she waiting for?

Rachel Palmer56 said:That's your opinion and I respect it—but I have mine. A child isn't some toy you can just pick up and put down whenever you feel like it; maybe it’s actually better for the kid if they don't have to deal with that kind of instability.
It’s fine if the kid wants to see them once a year, but if they don't want to, then my point stands—that's how it should be.🙂

True, but even that child has their own thoughts and desires. Parents tend to forget that far too often.

briskbison55 said:I posted the link so people could actually see her, but I spot her at the local Starbucks almost every day—short, slouching, tiny legs, double chin... she needs a nutritionist, seriously, what are you waiting for?

She's 18. Leave her alone, you creep.☕

Drew Ross2 said:Yeah, but that kid still has their own opinions and wants. Parents forget that way too often.

She's 18. Leave her alone, you creep.☕

In this case, the child's opinion would be my priority, but they also need to know the truth.😁

Michael Palmer3 said:Honestly—why act surprised? Her mom wasn't some total jerk either—she just gave her all to the right people, which is exactly how you become an icon.

Oh, please...
You sound like a total flirt, Hon...

18 is perfectly legal—I’m all for it. Honestly, way better than chasing some 30+ woman stuck in her ways😬