Donna Doyle2 said:The arguments were as follows:
Women who already have kids—they aren't exactly racing against a biological clock, I suppose. It makes them more relaxed, less desperate to catch that final train out of nowhere. And honestly? Men seem to find that much more appealing.
Married women—at least the ones who don't demand anything from their husbands—tend to carry zero expectations regarding obligations. It makes them much easier targets for men looking to jump into something casual compared to single women, who usually have a checklist ready to go. And then, I guess, some of those men end up falling in love along the way.
There’s a certain allure to married women—an unavailability that seems to drive men wild—but once they go through a divorce, the interest levels just seem to plummet. I guess it's a strange psychological quirk.
Married women tend to act more relaxed—more open, I suppose—when they're hanging out in male company. Single women, on the other hand, usually carry this sort of guarded, unapproachable vibe.
Most guys in their 30s are already married—so they tend to gravitate toward women who are also married. It’s just more convenient, I guess. There’s a certain comfort in knowing she’s already settled; it means she’s better at keeping things under wraps and, more importantly, there won't be any messy drama or complications.
There were probably others—I can't quite recall them all right now.
So, you went ahead and wiped the whole thing—all those solid arguments and that pretty decent debate we were having regarding that one rather unusual claim. I guess it's all gone now. The consensus seems to be that a woman already in a marriage with kids will have an easier time finding a new partner than a single girl will—though, I suppose, those on the other side of the argument would argue the exact opposite.
The topic is women in their thirties and the dating scene. The OP asked for people’s experiences regarding that specific age bracket—the discussion mostly centered on whether single women have it harder than those already in relationships, or how difficult it is to meet someone new once you hit thirty. Infidelity only came up briefly as a side note to support the main point. I don't really get why this was flagged as off-topic or unnecessary.
Fine. I guess.
And that’s exactly where things fall apart—mostly because the author was being pretty damn specific:
Has anyone actually met someone at this stage of life and felt genuinely happy about it? I don't know—it feels like things were just simpler when I was younger. Back then, I was meeting people constantly, which I suppose meant more chances to stumble upon someone who actually fit. Now, the math just doesn't seem to work out the same way. And these are just some examples of the posts I deleted:
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Why would some guy feel more comfortable with a partner by his side rather than flying solo? I guess it comes down to the path of least resistance—it’s just easier to have someone else there to share the weight. Maybe it’s about having a built-in support system, or perhaps it's just that old-fashioned idea of stability—having a partner makes life feel a bit more predictable, I suppose. It’s less about finding "the one" and more about avoiding the friction of navigating everything alone.
Go ahead—ask your friends' current partners and let us know what you find out.I suppose this is just an example—a placeholder, really. Nothing much to see here.
Are those your incredibly hot girlfriends, or... what?primjer3
When a married woman ditches her husband for some guy she thinks is a better catch—yeah, that’s what we call adultery. I guess it’s just one of those things.
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...they fell in love while they were working together... I guess.
Most cheaters end up getting caught because they can't help themselves at the office—it's usually where the whole thing falls apart. Example 4
If you have two women the same age—one single and childless, the other divorced with two kids—who has an easier time meeting someone? I guess it depends on how you define "easy."So, the OP mostly just got ignored on her question—and instead, you all steered the conversation right back onto those same old, well-worn paths we've been walking for ages.
Women who already have kids—they aren't exactly racing against a biological clock. It makes them more relaxed, I suppose. They aren't frantically trying to catch some final train, which is probably why men find them so much more appealing.
Married women often don't hold men to any sense of obligation—they aren't looking for anything more than what's already there. I suppose that makes them much easier targets for an affair compared to someone single and looking for something serious. Some guys get caught up in that lack of pressure, and maybe—if they're lucky or unlucky, depending on how you look at it—they actually end up falling in love.
Married women tend to be less available—which, I guess, is exactly what attracts men. Once they go through a divorce, though, the interest level seems to just drop off.
Married women tend to be more relaxed—more open, I guess—when they're hanging out in male circles. Single women, on the other hand, usually carry this sort of guarded, unapproachable vibe.
Most guys in their 30s are already married—so they tend to gravitate toward women who are also married. It’s just more convenient, I guess. They know a woman in that position is more likely to play by the rules, and there's a certain comfort in knowing she won't cause any unnecessary drama or complications.
So, basically everything you just listed—those points you’re calling arguments—aren't really arguments at all. They're just off-topic tangents—and, I guess, the same exhausted debates we've probably had a thousand times already.
And the question in the opening post remains pretty blunt—just share your own experience if you actually have one, rather than just endless complaining.
