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I honestly don't even know where to start with this, but I'll give you the short version—I am completely fed up with Zlee and her moderation. I’m just totally over how she runs things over at John Doe and the way she keeps personally targeting me.
Alright, now that we’ve finally settled on the reasoning behind why we broke everything down like that:
Look, everything the entire admin team and all those mods who banned me already know—and honestly? I’m not even going to sit here and complain about getting banned. It is what it is.
Whether I agree with them or not isn't really my main concern. Honestly, I don't spend much time complaining about it because I get that sometimes you just catch a bad break. One day the call goes your way, the next day it doesn't. It’s like when you’re watching a game and someone makes a clear play that should be a penalty, but the ref lets it slide—and then later, they call a foul on a totally clean move. You just have to accept that there's a certain kind of cosmic balance at play. Everything eventually levels out. 😁
At the end of the day, this is just a damn forum—a place to hang out, debate stuff, and basically just socialize. I really don't feel like wasting my time or ruining the vibe of this space by getting into petty arguments over some cardboard.
And just to be crystal clear—this isn't some petty complaint about someone getting a card or a ban. It’s really more about the way this mod is actually handling things and how they conduct themselves on the job.
I haven't even bothered complaining about those boxes from Zlee... honestly, I just couldn't care less about her or her packaging. Especially those first few shipments.
Just so everyone can get a clear picture of what I’m actually talking about, I figured I should show you the nonsense my wife has been throwing at me lately:
12.04. Cardboard. Insulting other forum members - 45 points
30.04. Cardboard. Rule violation—that's a 25-point deduction.
02.09. Cardboard. Insulting other forum members - 45 points
04.09. Cardboard. Insulting other forum members - 45 points
It looks like there’s more than one version floating around—they've got stuff from her and some from the Cats too. It's like two of the exact same thing just showed up at once.
I figured I’d just put these out there so everyone can see exactly why I ended up getting flagged for "insults." Honestly, I mostly wanted to show how some woman just keeps coming at me out of nowhere—it feels like she’s got some personal vendetta against me that nobody else even understands.
So, my wife managed to rack up four full boxes of points in just five months—that's 160 points total—all thanks to my constant posting over on John Doe.
So, after that red card on April 30th, I honestly just lost my cool. I ended up snapping at her, telling her she needs to go find somewhere else to work through her frustrations, and then I just walked away. I haven't typed a single word on John Doe or Gossip for months now.
Just to clear things up regarding why there’s such a massive gap in her posting history during that period—I haven't actually written a single post on that moderation board in months.
It looks like she was a bit distracted by her summer vacation, which I suppose makes sense, but the second she got back to reality, she immediately started getting under my skin again. It’s like she didn't even need a transition period; one minute she's relaxing, and the next, she's right back to being a total headache.
Look, let's get one thing straight—I’m not about to deny Zlee her right to think I'm an idiot, a nuisance, or just plain simple-minded. She can wrap her head around whatever version of me she wants; honestly, she's more than entitled to her own opinion.
Honestly, why should I even care what she thinks of me? It’s really not my problem.
Look, I’m not really here to post for the sake of posting. The way I write and the stuff I share—it's not about performing for an audience. Honestly, if I were trying to impress her, or someone like her, I'd be acting a lot different. But truth be told? I couldn't care less if she likes me or falls for me or whatever. It just doesn't move the needle for me.
Honestly, they’re just a non-factor in my life. Not even worth a second thought.
Until they start jumping down my throat.
Look, if Zlee is having a hard time separating her own personal likes and dislikes from her actual moderation duties, then she really shouldn't be stepping up to do the job. It’s just not fair to anyone else. And honestly, if she only decided to take on a moderator role because she thought it would give her some kind of status or make her feel important, then those are pretty shaky motivations to start with.
I mostly spend my time over on the politics boards, where it’s basically constant warfare over different topics every single day. Because things can spiral out of control in a split second, there are always at least two moderators on duty at any given moment to keep an eye on things. It's pretty intense, but I never deal with any disciplinary action there—the moderation style is actually quite professional and structured. But here? It feels like some random user is just using me as a punching bag to vent their own personal frustrations.
Don't even go there...
What actually leads to her getting moderated over on John Doe and Gossip...
I remember back in the day, maybe ten years ago, we were practically tearing each other apart right here over that exact same PDF. It was intense. For weeks—honestly, months—it was just constant fighting, heated arguments, people throwing insults around, and getting banned left and right. It all boiled down to the moderation issues.
It’s honestly because every once in a while, some high-and-mighty woman shows up on this John Doe thread, convinced she’s the absolute center of the universe. She acts like she’s going to totally reshape the whole sub-forum, thinking hundreds or thousands of us ladies hang out here just for her. She thinks she can dictate what we can say, what we should talk about, or what topics are "appropriate"—as if we all live by her personal set of rules and whims.
..we've dealt with all sorts of eccentrics over the years—one lady who would shut down threads just because she couldn't stand people mentioning kids, another who took offense at something else entirely, a third who thought a certain topic was just "tacky," and so on... she wants us to chat one way, then turns around and demands we talk another way. Why do some people write certain things, or why do others use words she finds "unpleasant"? (Good grief, when I remember the names you all used to throw at the moderators... honestly, it felt like we were living in an outpatient ward at a mental hospital 🤦)..
...the bottom line of the story —after all those endless arguments and clashes that even someone like Anderson had to step into, it was decided that moderation on the John Doe thread would be much more relaxed compared to the rest of the forum.
Not exactly without any rules or boundaries, but meant to be a "light" version.
Over the years, that has included everything from "you idiot" and "get lost" (copyright ☕) to "screw you"... basically, typical lady behavior, right?
People would fight, make up, apologize, and everything would just work...
..at least until last year, when Cats showed up and, thank heaven, told everyone to back off and took over moderating the front end of ZK. Then we were left with Zlee, who has just kept riding our backs with that condescending tone of hers.
The woman actually banned a user on the John Doe thread just because she mentioned wanting to charm a celebrity like Julia Roberts 🙏
Simps, I’m talking to you—I’m fighting for you and for your freedom 😳
She gives me a warning because she doesn't like how I "jump in" to reply to another user and says she won't permit it; she gives me a strike for "insulting a member" simply because I said I was going to stir the pot regarding "ofarban Lujka."
...she ruins the Gossip for us every few days, constantly splitting things up or shutting them down because "it's not the topic" or we went "off-topic."
And this is on a thread where the subtitle literally says "Irrelevant and chatty topics" !!!
For crying out loud.
In short—please, I am asking you, get her off our backs. Not only is she destroying the vibe and the whole point of this thread, but she’s also clearly enjoying picking on the women here, using her moderator powers to vent her own personal frustrations. I highly doubt that's what anyone looks for in a moderator.
Thanks in advance.
Alright, now that we’ve finally settled on the reasoning behind why we broke everything down like that:
Look, everything the entire admin team and all those mods who banned me already know—and honestly? I’m not even going to sit here and complain about getting banned. It is what it is.
Whether I agree with them or not isn't really my main concern. Honestly, I don't spend much time complaining about it because I get that sometimes you just catch a bad break. One day the call goes your way, the next day it doesn't. It’s like when you’re watching a game and someone makes a clear play that should be a penalty, but the ref lets it slide—and then later, they call a foul on a totally clean move. You just have to accept that there's a certain kind of cosmic balance at play. Everything eventually levels out. 😁
At the end of the day, this is just a damn forum—a place to hang out, debate stuff, and basically just socialize. I really don't feel like wasting my time or ruining the vibe of this space by getting into petty arguments over some cardboard.
And just to be crystal clear—this isn't some petty complaint about someone getting a card or a ban. It’s really more about the way this mod is actually handling things and how they conduct themselves on the job.
I haven't even bothered complaining about those boxes from Zlee... honestly, I just couldn't care less about her or her packaging. Especially those first few shipments.
Just so everyone can get a clear picture of what I’m actually talking about, I figured I should show you the nonsense my wife has been throwing at me lately:
12.04. Cardboard. Insulting other forum members - 45 points
30.04. Cardboard. Rule violation—that's a 25-point deduction.
02.09. Cardboard. Insulting other forum members - 45 points
04.09. Cardboard. Insulting other forum members - 45 points
It looks like there’s more than one version floating around—they've got stuff from her and some from the Cats too. It's like two of the exact same thing just showed up at once.
I figured I’d just put these out there so everyone can see exactly why I ended up getting flagged for "insults." Honestly, I mostly wanted to show how some woman just keeps coming at me out of nowhere—it feels like she’s got some personal vendetta against me that nobody else even understands.
So, my wife managed to rack up four full boxes of points in just five months—that's 160 points total—all thanks to my constant posting over on John Doe.
So, after that red card on April 30th, I honestly just lost my cool. I ended up snapping at her, telling her she needs to go find somewhere else to work through her frustrations, and then I just walked away. I haven't typed a single word on John Doe or Gossip for months now.
Just to clear things up regarding why there’s such a massive gap in her posting history during that period—I haven't actually written a single post on that moderation board in months.
It looks like she was a bit distracted by her summer vacation, which I suppose makes sense, but the second she got back to reality, she immediately started getting under my skin again. It’s like she didn't even need a transition period; one minute she's relaxing, and the next, she's right back to being a total headache.
Look, let's get one thing straight—I’m not about to deny Zlee her right to think I'm an idiot, a nuisance, or just plain simple-minded. She can wrap her head around whatever version of me she wants; honestly, she's more than entitled to her own opinion.
Honestly, why should I even care what she thinks of me? It’s really not my problem.
Look, I’m not really here to post for the sake of posting. The way I write and the stuff I share—it's not about performing for an audience. Honestly, if I were trying to impress her, or someone like her, I'd be acting a lot different. But truth be told? I couldn't care less if she likes me or falls for me or whatever. It just doesn't move the needle for me.
Honestly, they’re just a non-factor in my life. Not even worth a second thought.
Until they start jumping down my throat.
Look, if Zlee is having a hard time separating her own personal likes and dislikes from her actual moderation duties, then she really shouldn't be stepping up to do the job. It’s just not fair to anyone else. And honestly, if she only decided to take on a moderator role because she thought it would give her some kind of status or make her feel important, then those are pretty shaky motivations to start with.
I mostly spend my time over on the politics boards, where it’s basically constant warfare over different topics every single day. Because things can spiral out of control in a split second, there are always at least two moderators on duty at any given moment to keep an eye on things. It's pretty intense, but I never deal with any disciplinary action there—the moderation style is actually quite professional and structured. But here? It feels like some random user is just using me as a punching bag to vent their own personal frustrations.
Don't even go there...
What actually leads to her getting moderated over on John Doe and Gossip...
I remember back in the day, maybe ten years ago, we were practically tearing each other apart right here over that exact same PDF. It was intense. For weeks—honestly, months—it was just constant fighting, heated arguments, people throwing insults around, and getting banned left and right. It all boiled down to the moderation issues.
It’s honestly because every once in a while, some high-and-mighty woman shows up on this John Doe thread, convinced she’s the absolute center of the universe. She acts like she’s going to totally reshape the whole sub-forum, thinking hundreds or thousands of us ladies hang out here just for her. She thinks she can dictate what we can say, what we should talk about, or what topics are "appropriate"—as if we all live by her personal set of rules and whims.
..we've dealt with all sorts of eccentrics over the years—one lady who would shut down threads just because she couldn't stand people mentioning kids, another who took offense at something else entirely, a third who thought a certain topic was just "tacky," and so on... she wants us to chat one way, then turns around and demands we talk another way. Why do some people write certain things, or why do others use words she finds "unpleasant"? (Good grief, when I remember the names you all used to throw at the moderators... honestly, it felt like we were living in an outpatient ward at a mental hospital 🤦)..
...the bottom line of the story —after all those endless arguments and clashes that even someone like Anderson had to step into, it was decided that moderation on the John Doe thread would be much more relaxed compared to the rest of the forum.
Not exactly without any rules or boundaries, but meant to be a "light" version.
Over the years, that has included everything from "you idiot" and "get lost" (copyright ☕) to "screw you"... basically, typical lady behavior, right?
People would fight, make up, apologize, and everything would just work...
..at least until last year, when Cats showed up and, thank heaven, told everyone to back off and took over moderating the front end of ZK. Then we were left with Zlee, who has just kept riding our backs with that condescending tone of hers.
The woman actually banned a user on the John Doe thread just because she mentioned wanting to charm a celebrity like Julia Roberts 🙏
Simps, I’m talking to you—I’m fighting for you and for your freedom 😳
She gives me a warning because she doesn't like how I "jump in" to reply to another user and says she won't permit it; she gives me a strike for "insulting a member" simply because I said I was going to stir the pot regarding "ofarban Lujka."
...she ruins the Gossip for us every few days, constantly splitting things up or shutting them down because "it's not the topic" or we went "off-topic."
And this is on a thread where the subtitle literally says "Irrelevant and chatty topics" !!!
For crying out loud.
In short—please, I am asking you, get her off our backs. Not only is she destroying the vibe and the whole point of this thread, but she’s also clearly enjoying picking on the women here, using her moderator powers to vent her own personal frustrations. I highly doubt that's what anyone looks for in a moderator.
Thanks in advance.
