Skincare routine help: What's working for you?

So, I’m 23 and my skin is honestly such a nightmare to deal with. I’ve been sticking to Aveeno products lately, but it’s just... frustrating. My skin gets incredibly oily, yet somehow it feels totally dehydrated at the same time—like, if I don't slather on moisturizer immediately, my face just feels painfully tight and parched. On top of that, I’m constantly struggling with blackheads and my pores feel pretty congested, even though I’m diligent about cleansing and using toner every single day. Whenever I go to get a professional facial, the congestion seems to come right back almost instantly. I’m kind of at a loss here; I don't really know what else I can do or which specific products might actually help. I did see a dermatologist, but she basically just told me that it's all just enlarged pores.
Thanks

Hey, please don't shout—no need for all the caps lock!

I bet you'll find way more helpful tips over in the beauty subforum.