Irritated down there... wtf?

I’ve recently started seeing a new guy, and honestly, the sexual tension between us is off the charts. 😍 We’ve already moved past just kissing into more serious heavy petting and things like that, but since I was dealing with my period, we didn't actually do anything... 🙄
Well, I arrived at the post-period stage, he set the mood, everything was perfect—dinner, wine, the whole romantic setup, we were both totally keyed up—when suddenly he says (looking clearly embarrassed) that he can’t go any further because his skin has been irritated down there for a while, apparently because he was "dry" during his last relationship. I have never heard anything like that in my life (though I believe him, given how well-endowed he is, so anything is technically possible), so I bit back a laugh and decided to take his word for it. ☕
However, since I’ve genuinely never heard of someone having such significant issues just from skin irritation (he claims even the slightest touch hurts and that his doctor told him to use a specific cream), I figured I should ask: how common or even possible is this? Or am I just being naive and clearly more gullible than I look? 😕
Look, I’m not exactly someone who cycles through partners constantly, so I’m wondering if I should be suspicious that the cause of the pain is something else—not to say contagious—even though he swears up and down he’s perfectly healthy...
Also: how long does skin irritation in that area usually last? A week? Two? Three?
Thanks.

Ask which cream. 😁<

Hmm, when was the last time he was actually with someone before this? I mean, a buddy of mine once had a girlfriend living in a different city, and whenever they finally got together, they’d basically spend days on end inseparable. Well, one time she went so hard on him that he actually ended up with physical wounds—like, there was actual bleeding. It was honestly pretty gruesome.
My advice? You should probably get him to see a doctor. I remember my ex once developed these nasty little sores that turned out to be from sweat or friction, so he started carrying a bag around just to manage it. After that whole ordeal, I spent several years dealing with inflammation issues. By the way, we were extremely careful about protection back then.

Yeah, but what does it actually mean to be with someone "on dry land"? 😕 I mean, if things are bone-dry, you’d think you'd want to add some moisture, right? I honestly doubt they were particularly comfortable, and I imagine that kind of friction would sting like hell.

No doubt about it... she must have truly enjoyed his company 🤣 🙄

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Give me a break with the suspicion! You’re already overthinking everything... if he was holding a solid position, caught in that split-second "take it or leave it" moment on some field where they were supposed to be working, there's no way they wouldn't have noticed if things were bone dry. They couldn't have just sat around waiting, prepping, or playing games...
I mean, I doubt they were having much fun either, since the humidity would have hit them out of nowhere, but it's possible. And honestly? I don't see this lasting more than ten days... ¤

goldenjackal12 said:So I've been seeing this new guy lately, and the chemistry is just off the charts. 😍 We've done some heavy petting and stuff, but since I was on my period, we didn't actually do anything... 🙄
I ended up in the same boat after my period—he sets the mood, nice dinner, wine, everything's great, tension is building, then out of nowhere he tells me (looking super awkward) that he can't go any further because his skin is irritated down there, apparently from being "dry" too much with his ex. Never heard anything like that before (though I believe him since he's well-endowed, so anything goes), so I just bit my tongue and acted like it was fine. ☕
But honestly, I've never heard of someone having issues just because of skin irritation (he says even touching it hurts and his doctor prescribed cream), so I wanted to check if this is a thing or if I'm just being naive and totally clueless. 😕
I don't jump from partner to partner often, so I'm wondering if I should be suspicious that the pain might be caused by something else, maybe something contagious, even though he swears he's perfectly healthy...
Also: how long does skin irritation in that area usually last? A week or two?
Thanks.

Irritated skin?🤣

Never heard of that.
Maybe he's just a total metrosexual?

bluebadger24 said:I don't see this lasting longer than ten days...

That’s exactly where the suspicion kicks in—he claims he hasn't been with anyone for an entire month. 🙄 😠
And you? You're just sitting there believing every stranger who walks up to you on the first shot...

A buddy of mine is dealing with this "irritated" feeling... he described it like running your hand over sandpaper and feeling that sharp, stinging pain... just really uncomfortable... super irritated. But, unfortunately, my friend actually has chlamydia... and it’s pretty far along... He saw a doctor, but I guess he kind of stopped going to his appointments lately... Anyway... you should probably get your situation checked out by a doctor too... This stuff doesn't just happen for no reason... and it's not something that's just gonna last for years without help.

Maybe he picked up a yeast infection—nothing major, but the symptoms can definitely act like that. What kind of cream are we talking about? Either way, he really ought to see a urologist to figure out if it's just some harmless fungus or something more serious. If it is Candida, a couple to four weeks of using that cream should do the trick.

It’ll pass in no time... honestly, I've been there myself when things weren't exactly going smoothly with a partner. A little lube and you're good to go. If you're feeling really worked up, just shoot me a DM or grab some Vaseline and enjoy yourselves.

Perhaps you're overthinking it. Sure, condoms that feel a bit too tight can cause some irritation, but that usually settles down within a day or two...