rowdyharbor15 said:I have no idea how you interpreted that.
I’ve written my own piece, and let me tell you, I know I’m working with eight even eyes while most people are stuck with just two. It isn't exactly rocket science—having only two eyes makes it obvious that reaching for something low to the ground is easy, whereas grabbing something up high is a struggle. But at the end of the day, it's all the same logic.
Look, I’m not even questioning that part, but honestly? I think people put way more value on the things that are actually hard to achieve. You know what I mean? That second option you mentioned—it's fine, sure, but everyone knows exactly what it's good for: it’s basically a one-and-done deal. It lacks any real staying power. 😳 What’s actually great about everyone wanting you just because you're easy to get to and they don't have to lift a finger? Honestly, nothing. It's a joke. People aren't actually drawn to you; they're just drawn to the path of least resistance. They want the reward without ever having to put in the work, and that's not "being wanted"—that's being used as a convenience. It's pathetic.
And honestly, why would anyone even bother chasing something that’s just sitting there on every street corner? I mean, if everyone can have it, where's the point? Personally, I’m not interested in anything that common. I've always preferred things with a bit more substance and exclusivity—otherwise, what's even the draw?
rowdyharbor15 said:I have no idea how you interpreted that.
I’ve written my own piece, and let me tell you, I know I’m working with eight even eyes while most people are stuck with just two. It isn't exactly rocket science—having only two eyes makes it obvious that reaching for something low to the ground is easy, whereas grabbing something up high is a struggle. But at the end of the day, it's all the same logic.
Are you seriously trying to tell me that every single woman out there is exactly the same? Give me a break. Seriously? 😁 I mean, seriously, why bother putting in any actual effort when you can just get the same thing with a flick of your finger? At the end of the day, they’re all pretty much identical anyway, right? 😁
goldenbison31 said:There was a certain stretch of my life where I had a friend who was just objectively more striking than I was, so it seemed perfectly logical to me that guys would flock to her and turn their heads more often.
Fortunately, during most other phases of my life, I’ve been the one who is considered the better-looking friend.
I think men just intuitively recognize when someone is more symmetrical, or perhaps just more objectively beautiful and alluring, and I don't think there's much need to overanalyze that.
People generally know what they find beautiful or captivating.
It seems a bit puzzling to me why some women, who might not be particularly striking or polished, lack that sense of femininity or awareness of their own allure, yet act so utterly shocked by all of this.
I suppose it’s just human nature to give more attention to someone who meets more of the standard criteria for attractiveness than to someone who doesn't.
Then again, it isn't strictly about physical looks alone; other elements come into play too. For instance, the way someone carries themselves—you can tell almost instantly if someone is awkward, insecure, or truly self-assured.
That sense of ease in how one moves, exists, and communicates is actually quite vital. You can feel the tension when someone is stiff, and even when people try to look casual or "messy," you can sometimes sense they are working hard to maintain that image just to mask certain insecurities.
Sometimes, women who struggle with things like an unconventional nose or thin lips, or perhaps a less curvy silhouette, try so hard to be perceived as interesting, but a certain bitterness tends to seep through, which means the classic, effortless blonde with a soft smile will likely still come out on top. 😁
For the most part, I’m on board with your post, but let me push back on the bolded parts—it’s really not all as black and white as you’re making it out to be. You wouldn’t believe how many guys—girls, whatever—actually find that specific kind of awkwardness or clumsiness totally adorable and charming. Honestly, that’s often the very first thing they fall for.
As for self-confidence, it isn't quite the ultimate dealbreaker people claim it is. Everyone loves to preach that confidence is the single most important trait and that without it, you’ll never be attractive, but there are way too many variables at play for that to be a rule...
Take my brother, for example. He used to go head-over-heels for these girls who were overflowing with confidence, totally full of themselves, basically "premium" types... but after a few of those, he got sick of them. He ended up falling hard for one of my friends who is actually incredibly insecure, but she's sincere, down-to-earth, and selfless. There are so few guys like that left today, so you know it's rare 🙂 and her insecurity might have actually been what drew him in rather than pushing him away; he told me, "She's just so different from anyone else I've met." 🙂
Regarding what you said about having an easy gait or a relaxed presence—sure, it’s great when someone is totally unburdened and radiates positive energy. But that’s not what everyone is looking for. Some people might actually be drawn to that slight "twitchiness" in someone's movements or speech. They might find it fascinating to peel back the layers and figure out what’s behind that "mask"—why someone is hesitant or shy. It can actually drive you to get to know a person on a deeper level, whereas with those people who are always bubbly and open, all your cards are already on the table. One person will be attracted to that positivity, while another might find it completely boring and won't see any potential for something more.
At the end of the day, I think we fall in love with someone's virtues, but we stay because of their flaws—those imperfections that make them feel unique and different from everyone else.
And I don't see why the "victory" always has to go to some quintessential blonde bombshell. I'm not one of those people who thinks every single woman is beautiful (though I do think everyone is beautiful to *someone* 😁), but beauty can't be shoved into such narrow little boxes. There are so many different "types" of beauty. If a woman is gorgeous, she could be a petite, delicate blonde or a striking redhead 😁, just as much as those same types can also be unattractive.
