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Started by Maria Hughes25 · Aug 18, 2013 · 👁 5 views · 55 replies

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Morgan Cooper34 Member

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#41 · Jan 29, 2014

My uncle went through quite a phase with a string of supermodels back in his younger days, but eventually, he settled down and married this incredibly kind, curvy woman.😍 I know it sent shockwaves through the whole family at the time—given his track record, everyone was blindsided—but he actually owned up to it. He admitted he was just plain exhausted by nothing but pretty faces and empty heads. As he put it back then, he traded in that flashy Italian flair for some solid German engineering. 😁

Rebecca Williams11 Member

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#42 · Jan 29, 2014

Dana Ortiz2 said:Alright, what’s the deal with this whole obsession with blonde hair lately? Blondes just aren't the vibe anymore.😁 Everyone knows that, except apparently for you people on this forum 🤔
If you ask guys, most will tell you hair color doesn't really matter, though they definitely lean toward brunettes more often.
Boys like blondes, but MEN like brunettes 😳

As for the topic at hand, sure, maybe she was prettier before, but it could also just be that she had better game—maybe she carried herself with more confidence or seemed way more approachable, and so on. It isn't always about looks; I once had this friend who was totally average-looking, yet she cycled through boyfriends (who were actually way hotter than her) like they were nothing.😁

Are you still dealing with this kind of stuff, or what? Honestly, I highly doubt you started this thread because of some deep-seated issue you had back when you were fifteen or sixteen.🤣

hm, you're wrong. maybe brunettes are trending right now, but like sailor said in Wild at Heart, "gentlemen prefer blondes" 😉

I haven't read the whole thread, but the exact same thing happened to me back in the day when I was a mess and didn't know how to work my assets. My friend who got all the attention had short black hair and wore tons of makeup 🙂

rowdyharbor15 Active Member

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#43 · Feb 3, 2014

Donna James4 said:What a pointless thread

If this is "pointless,"

then you clearly haven't stepped foot in a single nightclub in the last decade.

I’m out there every single day, night and day, so I know exactly what we're talking about.

What I don't understand is people who constantly try to correct me based on their own narrow little perspectives—perspectives I couldn't care less about.

Lawrence Wells Regular

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#44 · Feb 4, 2014

Good looks can be pretty deceiving sometimes.

Jose Carter2 Member

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#45 · Feb 4, 2014

Maria Hughes25 said:Have you ever experienced that awkward situation where you’re out hanging with a girlfriend and you realize everyone is staring at her instead of actually engaging with you? Looking back to when I was just a teenager, maybe fifteen or sixteen, it felt like the entire world was obsessed with my friend; she had that classic look with blonde hair, green eyes, a great tan, and a more developed figure. Even when we hit the beach, every single head turned toward her, and while I can’t say I’m unattractive—people have definitely told me I’m good-looking—it felt like I was practically invisible whenever she was around. 😁

So, what’s the secret formula here? Is it just that perfectly styled blonde hair?
And do you honestly think being sidelined like that can take a real toll on someone's self-esteem during those formative teenage years?
It was like if we were both walking down the street, guys would constantly try to pull her into their circle and say, "Hey, come hang out with us over here."

I had another friend who figured this out too; she’d just put on some bright red lipstick, let her hair fall naturally, and suddenly she was getting VIP treatment and front-row seats to a Los Angeles Dodgers game.

At the end of the day, it really goes to show that physical beauty carries a massive amount of weight. ☕

Of course beauty matters. ☕

There are plenty of girls who are aesthetically pleasing to look at, but they are totally unattractive.

Attractiveness isn't just about looks; your speech, posture, movement, facial expressions, scent, your voice... all of that is incredibly important.

That second part can actually compensate for a less perfect physical appearance to some extent.

So much happens subconsciously. For instance, if I see a girl wearing glasses, I often instinctively think she's some stuck-up prep who thinks she knows everything, or maybe just some silly hipster... when in reality, she's probably just wearing them because she needs vision correction.

darkgull932 Newcomer

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#46 · Feb 5, 2014

Morgan Cooper34 said:My uncle went through quite a phase with a string of supermodels back in his younger days, but eventually, he settled down and married this incredibly kind, curvy woman.😍 I know it sent shockwaves through the whole family at the time—given his track record, everyone was blindsided—but he actually owned up to it. He admitted he was just plain exhausted by nothing but pretty faces and empty heads. As he put it back then, he traded in that flashy Italian flair for some solid German engineering. 😁

My father was absolutely relentless when he was courting my mother; he wouldn't take no for an answer until she finally agreed to marry him. She is an incredibly stunning woman—truly breathtaking—and even though there is a massive twenty-five-year age gap between them, you honestly wouldn't even notice it if you saw them out together today. 😁

But honestly, that didn't stop him from continuing to drop those absolute gems of wisdom while operating under the radar of his own "activities." It just goes to show that having a beautiful body, a great spirit, or even a soulful disposition isn't some kind of ironclad guarantee of loyalty or devotion in love. In my view, physical beauty is really just the initial trigger—it’s what makes someone view a person as the ultimate prize, a high-value asset to be captured and placed on a pedestal. It's the motivation to, say, marry someone like that, or at the very least, have a go with them. 😁

Regarding that whole "run away" thing—you know, gravitating toward whatever feels comfortable—it’s honestly just basic human nature. I’ll be the first to admit it: I’m certainly not some relentless hunter, but as a woman, I can't deny that I enjoy looking at an attractive man when he happens to be around. It's perfectly natural to seek out what catches your eye.

As for the author’s point, I honestly believe it all boils down to mindset—it’s about your own energy and whether you have that certain ability to command a room and just radiate attraction. That is a much broader and far more significant factor than physical beauty alone; let’s be real, looks matter, sure, but they aren't everything, nor are they some kind of guaranteed ticket to success.

You really need to figure out who you actually are, even if that means accepting that you’re nothing more than a dull, grayish shade of khaki. Once you embrace that, you can start "dyeing" the rest of the world to see your true colors—making them crave those exact nuances that make you unique. That’s the whole secret to life, I suppose: just being unapologetically yourself instead of constantly cowering behind a shadow of your own insecurities. 😉

Samuel Harris10 Newcomer

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#47 · Feb 5, 2014

Honestly, you’d have to be completely devoid of imagination to crave being so attractive that every single head turns when you walk by. I just don't get it—what kind of satisfaction are people actually deriving from that? It all strikes me as though looking the part has become far more important than actually being—well, happy, or fulfilled, or whatever else matters.

Maybe stop obsessing over those trivial little things—like chasing after some superficial nonsense—and try dedicating yourself to something that actually fulfills you, rather than something that just feeds your insecurities.

Amanda Gonzalez66 Newcomer

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#48 · Feb 5, 2014

Maria Hughes25 said:Have you ever experienced that awkward situation where you’re out hanging with a girlfriend and you realize everyone is staring at her instead of actually engaging with you? Looking back to when I was just a teenager, maybe fifteen or sixteen, it felt like the entire world was obsessed with my friend; she had that classic look with blonde hair, green eyes, a great tan, and a more developed figure. Even when we hit the beach, every single head turned toward her, and while I can’t say I’m unattractive—people have definitely told me I’m good-looking—it felt like I was practically invisible whenever she was around. 😁

So, what’s the secret formula here? Is it just that perfectly styled blonde hair?
And do you honestly think being sidelined like that can take a real toll on someone's self-esteem during those formative teenage years?
It was like if we were both walking down the street, guys would constantly try to pull her into their circle and say, "Hey, come hang out with us over here."

I had another friend who figured this out too; she’d just put on some bright red lipstick, let her hair fall naturally, and suddenly she was getting VIP treatment and front-row seats to a Los Angeles Dodgers game.

At the end of the day, it really goes to show that physical beauty carries a massive amount of weight. ☕

It's all about confidence. Nothing else. Is she like a femme fatale? 😉
Does she carry herself like this smiley face 🙂 ? Untouchable. I'm joking a little.

I want to tell you that attractiveness doesn't have anything to do with beauty.

That's just my personal take!
Some advice on how you can work on yourself (though it's much easier to say than to actually do, and I find it pretty tough myself):
This is just my own perspective.

-Try thinking positively. Even though it sounds like a cliché—totally worn out—there's no harm in trying.

-You know how you can get a real idea of what a fatal woman looks like:
:Read the short story "The Beautiful Tan" (just read the beginning while she's still in her prime, just don't end up getting caught up in promiscuity like she did 😉. IT'S VERY SHORT).
:Watch "The Registry" (about the beautiful Laura, who in my opinion is the most fatal female character in any literature I've read. It's a bit hard to quote, but there's a series on YouTube. Watch that).....

There are plenty of them.

Actually, you don't need to cite anything specific; just remember to read that book when you have it for school assignments later. 😉

I also struggled with low self-esteem regarding my physical appearance. But that was back when I was in elementary school.
Now, I have confidence, and you won't believe it, but I honestly don't even know why I used to think I wasn't attractive, because I really wasn't. Not even a little bit. You'll see it for yourself in a few years, and then you'll realize. 🙂

Brenda Edwards6 Newcomer

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#49 · Feb 5, 2014

I have to admit that I am definitely a physical guy, and I tend to be pretty picky about almost everything. 🙂Beauty is always the first thing I notice in a woman, but if that stunning exterior comes packaged with a slimy personality, an inflated ego, or just someone who acts totally wild and reckless, then there’s a hard limit for me—that person is strictly for casual hookups and nothing more; I could never see myself in a serious relationship or marriage with them.
To be fair, those "wild" types can sometimes be even more exciting and sexy than the "sweet and quiet" girls depending on the situation, but regardless, they still hit a ceiling for me because anything beyond just sex is unimaginable without a character that I actually find acceptable.
I think there is a massive divide among men between those who are just looking for fun and those who are looking way past the initial hookup; naturally, their criteria aren't going to be the same.

I absolutely agree with the guy who mentioned that attractiveness isn't just about static looks; things like movement, the sound of a voice, personal style, facial expressions, and even coordination all play a role. At the end of the day, all of that is part of the overall physical package.

Blonde hair? 😁
It’s not that I have a specific preference for hair color, unlike my preference for skin tone (I really love a beautiful tan), but I would say that blonde hair tends to give off a slight vibe of being more playful and perhaps a bit less serious than darker shades at first glance.

Ultimately, you can't deny that beauty is a magnet, but life isn't just black and white. If it bothers you that your friend is constantly stealing the spotlight, you could always hang out with a different group of friends, though honestly, you might actually benefit from having an attractive friend nearby since some of her suitors might end up noticing you while you're out together. It really comes down to how you adapt and what you want out of life. You just have to accept that she will always draw more attention, but if you—even if you feel slightly less striking than her—can carry yourself with confidence and radiate pride, that will actually be a much bigger plus in the eyes of others than if you were just anyone else standing next to her.

Mark Moore4 Newcomer

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#50 · Feb 11, 2014

Honestly, if you actually put in the work to figure out what makes you awesome, you're gonna feel way better about yourself! 🙂 I mean, seriously—what does it even matter if a million random people are giving you or your friend a passing glance just because of looks? Thinking like that is a total trap—it’ll just tank your self-esteem even more or turn into this weird jealousy toward your friend, which, let's be real, isn't exactly a vibe anyone finds attractive...

Beauty is totally subjective, right? Like, maybe you have all these incredible details that aren't super obvious from a mile away, but they're exactly what helps you connect with someone on a much deeper level than just some shallow physical stuff. There is a whole universe of things regarding your personality and how you carry yourself that can make you radiate such a glow it actually changes how people see your whole look! 🙂

Richard Wells Active Member

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#51 · Feb 18, 2014

rowdyharbor15 said:Look, I’m a guy, but I have to tell you one thing—I’ve been through this scenario about 500 times.

I’ve never really stopped to wonder how that girl feels. I always go for the better option. Well, unless she’s already taken or just isn't much of a talker. But even then, I usually make the mistake of thinking they aren't on the same page. It seems like girls—aside from maybe some Mediterranean types—rarely coordinate to help one another out. Usually, one just pulls the other right along with her. It’s proof they don't have any backbone. They don't seem to believe in their own value or that they're capable of standing on their own two feet.

But at the same time, I have to tell you that guys mess up their choices quite often. Everyone falls for that flashy, high-energy bombardment, when in reality, the girl is just as attractive—she’s just waiting for someone to make a move, and she's more than willing to give more back.

My advice? Don't get distracted by someone who's prettier than you. Move past her and fight for what's yours. Think about how many times men pursue women every single day, yet women almost never do the same? Tell me again that it can't be done.

What’s the point of this friend of yours? Let her dump him, and then you take him for yourself... trust me, it doesn't matter how you end up getting him. Because of that basic human selfishness, and since you were looking out for your friend, I’m shutting the door on you right now.

Listen to me: a man heads toward the best one, but he ends up in bed with the easiest one.

I used to think that was just some cliché until I actually lived it. Honestly, guys would tell me all the time how much I value myself—that it's obvious I have high standards and that I give a lot in a relationship. But then, right off the bat, they’d still pick someone else who was just... there, because they didn't get that same "vibe" from me at first glance. I can honestly just laugh about it now. 😁

That said, every guy I've actually had in my life has confirmed that I left a massive impression on them as a person. They end up respecting me so much after everything. I wouldn't trade that for any kind of first impression, no matter what.

Benjamin King17 Member

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#52 · Feb 23, 2014

It’s a real phenomenon when a girl lets her looks go straight to her head—that classic princess complex kicks in. Maybe it isn't even a full-blown complex, but once she realizes she can have any guy she wants... well, that's where things get messy. If she's in a relationship, there will always be guys hovering around just to stroke her ego, which she’ll likely lean into. Usually, that leads to her neglecting everything else—friends, school, you name it. Personally, I’ve encountered plenty of examples like this, though I've also met the complete opposite—girls who are both kind and stunningly attractive, yet totally grounded and unbothered by the attention.

Author, aren't you perhaps a little jealous of your friends? 😁 Honestly, if your goal is to actually catch a guy, you're better off going solo... otherwise, you'll just spend your whole life living in their shadow.

brisksailor96 Newcomer

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#53 · Feb 25, 2014

Paul Thompson3 said:Google😁 I was actually thinking about this yesterday while walking through downtown—I have this little mental game where if two girls walk toward me and one is clearly the "stunning" type, I’ll intentionally make eye contact with the other one just to mess with the prettier girl's ego. 😁 Forget having a hot friend; sure, she might grab more attention at first glance, but it doesn't really matter. It's honestly just about how some women strategically play up a certain look to pull eyes their way—it isn't hard to do, and it doesn't carry much actual substance, even if most guys fall for it instantly.

That line brings to mind a specific image: two girls dressing provocatively just to hunt for attention, dragging along some plus-sized friend to make themselves look even more striking by comparison. Then that third girl gets an ego boost and starts dressing like a total slut too... It happens all the time. They all end up convinced they're some kind of untouchable bombshell. 😁
But fundamentally, there are also those petty tactics where someone intentionally brings along a less "sexy" friend—someone who doesn't put much effort into her looks—just to collect more stares. It's pathetic, but it's the reality. On top of that, it needlessly messes with women's self-esteem and rewards superficiality, which then becomes a hard factor to dismiss when discussing what actually defines a person's identity.

Jerry Jackson Newcomer

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#54 · Feb 26, 2014

I guess beauty matters more than anything else in today's world. I see these new "stars" in magazines all the time, and their talent doesn't even come close to the icons we considered legends fifty years ago. It seems everyone just wears more makeup than I've seen in my entire life, while their actual singing or acting skills take a backseat, which isn't right.

Also, just one more thing... a few years back, I read an article about whether men prefer blondes or brunettes. I have to say, even the guys who claimed they preferred brunettes found their eyes drifting toward the blondes first.

Nicholas Gonzalez8 Regular

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#55 · Feb 27, 2014

Jerry Jackson said:I guess beauty matters more than anything else in today's world. I see these new "stars" in magazines all the time, and their talent doesn't even come close to the icons we considered legends fifty years ago. It seems everyone just wears more makeup than I've seen in my entire life, while their actual singing or acting skills take a backseat, which isn't right.

Also, just one more thing... a few years back, I read an article about whether men prefer blondes or brunettes. I have to say, even the guys who claimed they preferred brunettes found their eyes drifting toward the blondes first.

Not even close. You see it in high school, sure—you see certain people getting all the attention on a college campus—but once most people hit the real world, their priorities shift. Beauty alone just doesn't cut it, and people eventually figure that out, one way or another. Besides, every girl is attractive in her own way, and there's always someone who's going to appreciate that. Personally, I think chasing those impossible magazine standards and piling on layers of makeup is just a total waste of time.

Richard Wells Active Member

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#56 · Feb 27, 2014

Nowadays, the media is constantly trying to nudge people into staying superficial—and that applies to how we view each other, too. It makes sense, though; if you aren't thinking critically, you're way easier to manipulate. But hey, there are still plenty of people out there who refuse to settle for the surface level.

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