How to stay spiritually strong?

electrictinker26 said:I honestly don't know if it exists. In my own experience, I've noticed that when I do something good without even thinking about getting something in return, things tend to work out exactly as expected. But when I act because I feel I *deserve* a reward for being "good," that's usually when nothing happens.

I just wanted to offer a small reminder that there's no need to carry around guilt.

It’s true—the question of what defines good and evil is eternal. Without the bad, we wouldn't have the concept of good at all...

As I mentioned before, the sun shines just as brightly on everyone, regardless of whether they are considered "good" or "bad." That helped me realize why guilt is misplaced. If God is love—or if love itself is the ultimate force—then He cannot be anything other than love. He can't suddenly shift from love to something else just to punish us for our "sins" as we imagine it. He remains constant; we just need to tune ourselves to His frequency to align with that. If God were to punish us, He wouldn't be love anymore, and we would become something else entirely.

You can find the answer to this in Transurfing.😉

Michelle Sanchez2 said:You can find the answer to this in Transurfing.😉

How exactly did Transurfing work for you? I’m considering diving into all those books. I’ve read Louis Hay before and they seem to share some similarities—the idea that you shape your future by using your own vibrations to attract people. Her positive affirmations worked for me for a while, but then I hit a wall and nothing happened. In her book, she talks about how life is wonderful and that if you maintain that mindset, it will be so. She emphasizes forgetting the past and forgiving both yourself and others.

vivideagle8 said:How exactly did Transurfing work for you? I’m considering diving into all those books. I’ve read Louis Hay before and they seem to share some similarities—the idea that you shape your future by using your own vibrations to attract people. Her positive affirmations worked for me for a while, but then I hit a wall and nothing happened. In her book, she talks about how life is wonderful and that if you maintain that mindset, it will be so. She emphasizes forgetting the past and forgiving both yourself and others.

That’s the gist of it, though calling them comparable is a stretch; Transurfing is an extensive series spanning about 1,400 pages, which is quite a leap from the Louis Hay approach, even if they share similar philosophies.
As for why things stalled for you—it's obvious you either lost momentum or hit a mental roadblock. You likely encountered some internal friction in the process that you haven't quite identified yet.

For me, it was incredibly transformative, but trying to recount every single specific instance would be an endless saga. It’s better if you just dive in and experience it firsthand. Beyond that, we have a dedicated Transurfing sub-forum here where you can read through everyone else's experiences; honestly, it's easily the most uplifting corner of this entire site.😁

rustymaker5 said:Man, seriously guys, just give the feeling some space and write with the letter, it honestly breaks my heart seeing how you all just crush it with that little checkmark...🙂

If you’re aiming that at me, then fair enough—I didn't grow up here. I can handle German grammar perfectly, but when it comes to American English, I tend to go more by instinct...

Michelle Sanchez2 said:You can find the answer to this in Transurfing.😉

I went through the first book and about half of the second before I eventually gave up. I have nothing against the concept, but I tend to stick to my own philosophy. It isn't that the material is bad—I wouldn't say that—it just didn't resonate enough for me to keep going. Lately, I've been leaning more toward audiobooks; I've gotten a bit lazy when it comes to sitting down with a physical book.

Michelle Sanchez2 said:That’s the gist of it, though calling them comparable is a stretch; Transurfing is an extensive series spanning about 1,400 pages, which is quite a leap from the Louis Hay approach, even if they share similar philosophies.
As for why things stalled for you—it's obvious you either lost momentum or hit a mental roadblock. You likely encountered some internal friction in the process that you haven't quite identified yet.

For me, it was incredibly transformative, but trying to recount every single specific instance would be an endless saga. It’s better if you just dive in and experience it firsthand. Beyond that, we have a dedicated Transurfing sub-forum here where you can read through everyone else's experiences; honestly, it's easily the most uplifting corner of this entire site.😁

Fair enough, I'll give it a read. 🙂

Elizabeth Castillo87 said:Forgive who? And for what, exactly? Look, vivideagle8, at the end of the day, words are just vibrations in the air—they don't mean anything until you decide they do. You're the one handing them all that weight. That's why what Henry Kim3 said about guilt is actually spot on. It eats at you, sure, but it’ll keep gnawing at your soul as long as you believe there’s actually something to be forgiven. Because if you're looking for forgiveness, you're basically admitting someone had the power to hurt you in the first place. Why give them that much control?

Honestly, I think the real question isn't what happened or why... it’s more like, WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU? Seriously, where have you been hiding? I can't even begin to wrap my head around this one. Seriously, where do we even start? It feels like we’re just spinning our wheels in the sand at this point, doesn't it? Everything is just... messy. I mean, honestly, how did we get here? Is anyone actually paying attention, or are we all just collectively deciding to close our eyes and hope for the best? Because from where I'm sitting, it looks like a total train wreck in slow motion. Does that make sense? Or am I just shouting into the void again? Probably both. Definitely both. Stuck? Feeling like you’re hitting a wall? Look, I guarantee there’s an angel hovering nearby whispering, "Hey, this isn't on you. Let it go. You’re worthy of better than this." But then—bam!—that other voice kicks in. That nasty, intrusive little voice that screams, "Are you kidding me? How can you be so naive? You *are* to blame! It’s all your fault!" And just like that, you crumble. You break down, the tears start flowing, your heart just shatters, and it feels like game over. Your angel is sitting right there, totally helpless, because you aren't listening to the light—you're tuned into some spiritual fraud that’s busy tearing you apart. Listen, life is tough. You have to walk through the fire and gain some actual wisdom just to figure out which voice is telling the truth. Every single soul is fighting a spiritual war, and let's be real: you HAVE to learn how to fight. You are standing right in the middle of the battlefield every single day, and your only job is to come out on top. So, stop asking, "Where did my angel go?" Instead, try asking, "Where am I getting stuck?" Give that angel a chance to actually reach you. If you let them in, nothing can touch you. Their whole damn purpose is to protect you, heal you, guide you, and eventually lead you home to that eternal joy in the presence of Jesus. 🙂

Henry Kim3, where exactly is this "spiritual warfare" supposed to be happening?

And so, I suppose you're trying to tell her that forgiveness isn't necessary?

Elizabeth Castillo87 said:Forgive who? And for what, exactly? Look, vivideagle8, at the end of the day, words are just vibrations in the air—they don't mean anything until you decide they do. You're the one handing them all that weight. That's why what Henry Kim3 said about guilt is actually spot on. It eats at you, sure, but it’ll keep gnawing at your soul as long as you believe there’s actually something to be forgiven. Because if you're looking for forgiveness, you're basically admitting someone had the power to hurt you in the first place. Why give them that much control?

Honestly, I think the real question isn't what happened or why... it’s more like, WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU? Seriously, where have you been hiding? I can't even begin to wrap my head around this one. Seriously, where do we even start? It feels like we’re just spinning our wheels in the sand at this point, doesn't it? Everything is just... messy. I mean, honestly, how did we get here? Is anyone actually paying attention, or are we all just collectively deciding to close our eyes and hope for the best? Because from where I'm sitting, it looks like a total train wreck in slow motion. Does that make sense? Or am I just shouting into the void again? Probably both. Definitely both. Stuck? Feeling like you’re hitting a wall? Look, I guarantee there’s an angel hovering nearby whispering, "Hey, this isn't on you. Let it go. You’re worthy of better than this." But then—bam!—that other voice kicks in. That nasty, intrusive little voice that screams, "Are you kidding me? How can you be so naive? You *are* to blame! It’s all your fault!" And just like that, you crumble. You break down, the tears start flowing, your heart just shatters, and it feels like game over. Your angel is sitting right there, totally helpless, because you aren't listening to the light—you're tuned into some spiritual fraud that’s busy tearing you apart. Listen, life is tough. You have to walk through the fire and gain some actual wisdom just to figure out which voice is telling the truth. Every single soul is fighting a spiritual war, and let's be real: you HAVE to learn how to fight. You are standing right in the middle of the battlefield every single day, and your only job is to come out on top. So, stop asking, "Where did my angel go?" Instead, try asking, "Where am I getting stuck?" Give that angel a chance to actually reach you. If you let them in, nothing can touch you. Their whole damn purpose is to protect you, heal you, guide you, and eventually lead you home to that eternal joy in the presence of Jesus. 🙂

Henry Kim3, where exactly is this "spiritual warfare" supposed to be happening?

Forgive me, but I detect an overwhelming amount of sarcasm and condescension in that question. I don't really feel any inclination to answer it, especially since it seems like it wouldn't be understood anyway... 😉

vivideagle8 said:Yeah, I know that this lack of self-belief triggers all the other problems in life. This constant self-guilt happens because I haven't found myself yet and I don't love who I am. I constantly put myself down and let others walk over me. Life is a struggle, and you're on your own. I'll listen to the advice; there are good people out there who want to help, even if it's just virtually. I just know the theory perfectly, but in practice, I'm a total mess.

You have to let go of that guilt, because it is absolutely destroying you...! Life IS a struggle, despite what some of these lifestyle pages claim about it being nothing but fun and games...! Try "having fun" for a while and see how life really goes... It's easy to enjoy yourself when someone else is doing all the heavy lifting for you... 😉

Stop belittling yourself. Nobody is more valuable than you are, so just get that through your head...! Don't let others walk all over you, because if you respect yourself, then other people will follow suit...!

vivideagle8 said:How exactly did Transurfing work for you? I’m considering diving into all those books. I’ve read Louis Hay before and they seem to share some similarities—the idea that you shape your future by using your own vibrations to attract people. Her positive affirmations worked for me for a while, but then I hit a wall and nothing happened. In her book, she talks about how life is wonderful and that if you maintain that mindset, it will be so. She emphasizes forgetting the past and forgiving both yourself and others.

Look, I know plenty of people who are absolute saints—super kind, incredibly gentle, and perpetually optimistic. And what happens? They end up attracting all kinds of absolute garbage into their lives through no fault of their own.
Then, on the flip side, I know people who don't visualize a single thing, don't touch Transurfing, don't even try—and yet, everything just seems to fall perfectly into place for them.

electrictinker26 said:I went through the first book and about half of the second before I eventually gave up. I have nothing against the concept, but I tend to stick to my own philosophy. It isn't that the material is bad—I wouldn't say that—it just didn't resonate enough for me to keep going. Lately, I've been leaning more toward audiobooks; I've gotten a bit lazy when it comes to sitting down with a physical book.

You aren't the only one who has abandoned a book mid-way, but ultimately, whether you stop reading or not is entirely your prerogative. Beyond that, Transurfing isn't merely some academic philosophy; it's intended to be a way of life.

Benjamin Taylor6 said:Look, I know plenty of people who are absolute saints—super kind, incredibly gentle, and perpetually optimistic. And what happens? They end up attracting all kinds of absolute garbage into their lives through no fault of their own.
Then, on the flip side, I know people who don't visualize a single thing, don't touch Transurfing, don't even try—and yet, everything just seems to fall perfectly into place for them.

The reality is, they are practicing Transurfing without even realizing it.
If you take a close look at how they actually live, think, and navigate the world, you'll find their behavior aligns perfectly with the core principles of Transurfing techniques.

Benjamin Taylor6 said:Look, I know plenty of people who are absolute saints—super kind, incredibly gentle, and perpetually optimistic. And what happens? They end up attracting all kinds of absolute garbage into their lives through no fault of their own.
Then, on the flip side, I know people who don't visualize a single thing, don't touch Transurfing, don't even try—and yet, everything just seems to fall perfectly into place for them.

Maybe they’re just putting on an act, pretending to be these sweet, optimistic souls while secretly seething inside because life feels so unfair... you know, because they’re being so obedient, so good, working so hard and playing by the rules, only for life to throw nothing but garbage at them! Meanwhile, look at the neighbors—they haven't lifted a finger, they don't even seem to care, and yet everything just works out perfectly for them... they must be crooks, honestly...🙄 😁

It’s actually pretty fascinating how the universe always knows exactly what we're actually thinking, even when we manage to pull the wool over everyone else's eyes, or even our own... 😍

And then there are those people who have plenty, the high rollers, the types where having a massive pile of cash doesn't hurt one bit; they view money as a friend, as something positive they truly deserve to possess, so they simply do... 🤷
If you spend your whole life thinking about money as something dirty, or something that leads to sin, or just some necessary evil, you can't really expect it to just rain down from the sky. 😛 And when it doesn't happen (because, let's face it, the universe always knows the truth! 😉), you just sit there complaining about your bad luck and how you've been screwed over your entire life. 😁

So, tell me again that we aren't all constantly "transurfing" without even realizing it, just drifting through life on autopilot. Wouldn't it be better to actually take charge of your mind and consciously cultivate good, positive thoughts? You know, actually taking responsibility for the way we design our own lives... 😉

frozengull2 said:Man, sorry you feel that way.

I get the vibe that you just can't stand Christianity—like, any time I mention it in a good light, it totally rubs you the wrong way.

Whatever the reason is, it really sucks that it's like that.

It feels like because I've taken a positive stance on Christianity, I've somehow become the black sheep of the spiritual crowd.
Suddenly I'm "less spiritual" or whatever.

Such a shame... I actually thought you were a cool guy.

Probably.
Living out a Christian faith isn't easy. It's much simpler to just dismiss it, mock it, or write it off as myth—then cherry-pick whatever parts of modern "spirituality" feel logical or convenient.

steelharbor942 said:Probably.
Living out a Christian faith isn't easy. It's much simpler to just dismiss it, mock it, or write it off as myth—then cherry-pick whatever parts of modern "spirituality" feel logical or convenient.

I've touched on this before.

To repeat myself: true spirituality comes from within—your own morals, your instincts, your common sense.

Religion is just dead letters on a page. Nothing more.

Want an example? Take the Ten Commandments. Tell me, do you actually need to memorize every single one, or does your own conscience tell you the exact same thing without even knowing they exist?

urbanmoose2 said:I've touched on this before.

To repeat myself: true spirituality comes from within—your own morals, your instincts, your common sense.

Religion is just dead letters on a page. Nothing more.

Want an example? Take the Ten Commandments. Tell me, do you actually need to memorize every single one, or does your own conscience tell you the exact same thing without even knowing they exist?

Seriously. I think it's coming from Mars!🙂

What religion offers is just dead letters on a page and nothing more.

Let's start by defining religion. Latin *re-ligare*, to reconnect. It means restoring the broken connection between God and man.
The Bible definitely isn't just dead ink on paper.

Want an example? We have the Ten Commandments. Tell me, do you actually need to memorize every single one, or does your own sense of morality tell you the same thing without even knowing them?

So tell me then, where does your morality come from? How do you know what's right and what's wrong?
Don't bother answering, though. We're way off topic anyway.🙂

Just wanted to say I’m slowly getting back to my old self, working on clearing my head and finding some peace. I've been reading quite a bit, praying a lot, and just holding onto the hope that things will improve. They have to. It is high time I start practicing some self-love and actually live life on my own terms. Thanks to everyone for the advice; I was in a really, really dark place for a while, but 🙂 happens. Finding inner peace and happiness is what matters most. There are still plenty of good, kind people out there 🙂

Henry Kim3 said:And so, I suppose you're trying to tell her that forgiveness isn't necessary?

Forgive me, but I detect an overwhelming amount of sarcasm and condescension in that question. I don't really feel any inclination to answer it, especially since it seems like it wouldn't be understood anyway... 😉

Nah, I'm saying there’s nothing to even forgive if you don't let it get under your skin in the first place. Look, holding a grudge isn't actually about what someone else did—it's entirely about how we choose to react to their nonsense.

Let the judges handle the sentencing; we should just focus on mastering our own reactions.

vivideagle8 said:Everything is just falling apart right now. Every single part of my life—no matter what I try, nothing sticks. I feel terrible. I truly, deeply want to believe that things will get better and that I can stay spiritually fulfilled, but it feels like I’m losing ground. I'm starting to burn out. 😢 Today has been especially brutal. So much has piled up over these last two years, and after finally letting myself cry it all out, I came here to post this. Maybe someone else will find it helpful one day...

I want to ask: how do you all manage to keep your faith strong when life reaches a point where nothing seems to make sense anymore? How do you maintain your spirituality and inner peace when everything is pushing you toward total hopelessness?

Look, spirituality isn't something dictated by what's happening around us. It's an internal state—it *can* be tied to external stuff, sure, but it doesn't have to be. That's a choice we make ourselves. Every situation you face can be viewed as a Problem, a Challenge, or an Opportunity. It all boils down to your perspective and how you decide to react.

We can't always control the hand we're dealt, but we've got full control over our reaction to it. We could spend our lives trembling at future hardships, panicking when they arrive, fighting them tooth and nail, and then wallowing in self-pity once they pass. Or, on the flip side, we can actually live in the present, accept the tough stuff, handle it as best we can, and learn something useful from the wreckage.

Despair is just a mental construct—it's built from the way you've been looking at reality and reacting to it up until now. Fortunately, we always have the power to change ourselves. 🙂

vivideagle8 said:Everything is just falling apart right now. Every single part of my life—no matter what I try, nothing sticks. I feel terrible. I truly, deeply want to believe that things will get better and that I can stay spiritually fulfilled, but it feels like I’m losing ground. I'm starting to burn out. 😢 Today has been especially brutal. So much has piled up over these last two years, and after finally letting myself cry it all out, I came here to post this. Maybe someone else will find it helpful one day...

I want to ask: how do you all manage to keep your faith strong when life reaches a point where nothing seems to make sense anymore? How do you maintain your spirituality and inner peace when everything is pushing you toward total hopelessness?

You don't have to carry any kind of cross. Jesus made a conscious choice to do that; you have your own choices, and you can choose to live according to those instead.

vivideagle8 said:Everything is just falling apart right now. Every single part of my life—no matter what I try, nothing sticks. I feel terrible. I truly, deeply want to believe that things will get better and that I can stay spiritually fulfilled, but it feels like I’m losing ground. I'm starting to burn out. 😢 Today has been especially brutal. So much has piled up over these last two years, and after finally letting myself cry it all out, I came here to post this. Maybe someone else will find it helpful one day...

I want to ask: how do you all manage to keep your faith strong when life reaches a point where nothing seems to make sense anymore? How do you maintain your spirituality and inner peace when everything is pushing you toward total hopelessness?

All these problems you're facing are temporary—everything can change. And please, stop telling yourself that nothing you do is good enough. Whatever you do, even if you make terrible decisions, they serve as incredible lessons. Some of the strongest, smartest people I know have completely broken down at some point, only to come out the other side stronger, better, and happier than most. That's exactly how it's going to be for you, too.🙂 You really ought to be grateful for every single thing that happens to you—seriously, because any situation can be turned into fuel if you play your cards right. It’s all about choice, and honestly? I think you’re already heading in the right direction 🙂

What do you mean nobody understands you? Just look at how many comments you’ve picked up here from total strangers. We’ve all consciously carved out our own time and energy just to try and lend you a hand. I’m positive most people in your actual life would do the exact same thing—if you just gave them a shot. Not everyone, obviously, but most definitely.

Astralica said:"If you're 98% happy in life but 2% miserable, and you focus 100% of your attention on that 2%, your life will feel miserable. But if you're 98% miserable and only 2% happy, and you fixate 100% on that tiny 2% slice, your life will be happy!"

That’s exactly it 🙂 Plus, let's be real—life usually offers us way more than just a measly 2% of happiness. We just have to get better at spotting it when it shows up.

vivideagle8 said:I’m a deeply sensitive person by nature, even though I don't act like it—people usually just see me as cold or stuck-up. It is incredibly hard navigating life when you're this sensitive; everything hits you so hard that you lose your sense of self. Everyone just tells me, "That's just life," or "People are going to screw you over," and I really don't want to believe that's the reality. I chose the wrong major in college, which led to nothing, and I’ve just soaked up so much negative energy from it. Job interviews go one way—they tell me they'll call me back, and then... silence. And don't even get me started on love; right now, I'm seriously lacking any kind of self-love. I'm just miserable. I never imagined I could sink this low. I know there are people out there dealing with actual tragedies while I'm sitting here venting, and I don't mean to be selfish, but I just really need some kind words—even if it's just through a screen. I'm reading books on staying positive, but sometimes it feels impossible.

Just keep diving into those books on positivity and mindset. Every book you pick up is going to expand your perspective, and that shift is going to hit your life hard. Even if your external circumstances stay exactly the same, the internal transformation will be massive. You'll actually start enjoying things again 🙂 You can learn from documentaries, educational YouTube videos, your own mistakes, other people's experiences, or just by talking to folks.

Honestly, take a page out of a kid's book. They are incredibly emotional, too, but they don't dwell on anything. They trip, they cry, they get back up, and two seconds later they're laughing again. Someone snaps at them? Sure, they'll get mad for a moment, but within seconds, they've forgotten the whole thing and are back to enjoying themselves.

vivideagle8 said:I agree there’s a connection, it’s just that he phrased it in a way where I couldn't see any link at all to what I was talking about. What I need is control—a total overhaul of everything. Especially my mindset. I get that things need to change, and I really wish I could approach life with more optimism. Seeing situations differently and reacting differently... man, if I could just stop taking things so personally, life would be a whole lot easier. But that takes some seriously gritty, persistent self-work—learning how to actually steer your own thoughts and emotions.

Look, controlling your thoughts and feelings isn't actually the hard part. The problem is that most people think exactly like you do. They convince themselves that this requires some massive, Herculean effort and endless "self-help" labor, so they overcomplicate it, and then—surprise, surprise—it feels even harder than it actually is.

Thoughts drive emotions. Period. Think of your emotions as a GPS indicator showing you which direction your thoughts are heading. If you generate five positive thoughts and three negative ones, you're going to feel good. It works the exact same way in reverse. There are basically two main directions—two core emotions—that everything else stems from: love and fear. Everything else is just a subset of those. Get a grip on your thoughts, and you'll have a grip on your emotions too.

So, how do you actually control your mind? For starters, stop living on autopilot. People spend half their lives daydreaming about the past or stressing about the future while simultaneously stumbling through the present like zombies. You have to stay conscious of every single thought, feeling, and action.

If a thought pops up that you don't like—don't fight it. Don't wrestle with it. For example, you might think, "Everything is going wrong," and then the internal monologue kicks in: "But I don't want this, I can do better. But how? I don't know, I'm lost and miserable. If only I could just move past this state, and..." And it just keeps spiraling until someone snaps you out of it.

On the flip side, try this: "Everything is going wrong, but I..." Just stop right there in the middle of the sentence and let that internal chatter die out. Once it's quiet, start a different story: "Okay, things haven't been great, but starting today, the script changes. Every day, I'm going to take a few steps toward a better life. Life might knock me down ten times, but I'm getting back up every single time, and on the eleventh attempt, I'll win. Nothing and nobody can stop me except my own decision to quit, and I'm not doing that. Every setback is just making me smarter and tougher—success and happiness are inevitable 🙂 "

vivideagle8 said:I'm not turning away advice; honestly, that's why I even started this thread. I know we're all the architects of our own fate, and I realize I've messed up enough to find myself staring at a brick wall. Crying and complaining doesn't get anything done. I've read plenty of books about how people attract certain people and circumstances through their thoughts and vibes, but when I open my heart and try to connect with someone, I often don't get that same energy back. I end up being too naive—trusting people because I believe everyone has good in them—but lately, I'm starting to wonder if that's actually true. I'm no saint, obviously, but I make a point not to hurt anyone, and if I do, I always try to apologize immediately. Last night I was thinking: if it's true that you attract what you think, am I just a ball of negativity? Is that why I attract men who leave me, or people who belittle me? Or maybe my smile is fake and that's why it happens?

Don't go around judging others for what they do. Respect their free will, regardless of the choices they make. We all want to be happy, but let's face it—most of us are just wandering aimlessly trying to find the path. Sometimes we even end up hurting ourselves and the people around us in the process.

Look, nobody can actually hurt you—not really. The only thing that causes real pain is your own set of unmet expectations. We all do it, right? We walk around expecting people to give back what we give, expecting them to act a certain way, or waiting for some kind of "thank you." But why? It’s such a trap. If you just decide to give your love and attention unconditionally, without looking for a receipt, then you become bulletproof. You won't deal with that bitterness, jealousy, or anger because you aren't tied to the outcome. Sure, some people won't reciprocate—that's just life—but others will. Just embrace the ones who fit in your world and let the rest drift away. It’s honestly that simple. There’s zero point in mourning people who exit your life; it's much better to be grateful for the good times you had and stay excited about the new, interesting people you haven't even met yet.

You clearly understand the Law of Attraction, you just haven't mastered how to steer it yet. When you live in fear, you basically act as a magnet for everything you're afraid of. If you doubt yourself, those doubts become self-fulfilling prophecies. If you're convinced nothing is going your way, guess what? Nothing will go your way. Luckily, the whole thing works in reverse, too. 🙂

Your thoughts set the direction, but your emotions? They're the fuel. I want, so I attract more wanting. I am, I have, I become—those are the building blocks for the reality you're trying to build. If you spend all your mental energy obsessing over what you *don't* want, that's exactly what you'll end up with. Keep your eyes on the prize. And once you finally pull an opportunity toward you, don't just sit there—get out there and grab it! 🙂

By the way, you should definitely check out the Transfuring book series. It'll help clear up a lot of this fog.

vivideagle8 said:I'm eating myself alive because I have no self-confidence, I can't find a job, I picked a major I hate and failed at it, and there's just no love in my life... As for where I see myself in five years, I have no clue because I'm totally lost ... Everything is just gnawing at me, and I feel like such a weakling, which makes me so miserable. I don't look forward to tomorrow, and I can't see any point in existing.

Just let the past go. You aren't the first person to mess up a college major, and you certainly won't be the last. Back when I was at my university, nearly 60% of the students dropped out before their sophomore year. I was one of them, but honestly, it doesn't bother me one bit. If I hadn't tried, I'd still be sitting around wondering "what if" and feeling like I was missing out. If you hate what you're studying, quit. Why grind away for a degree just to land a career you'll despise anyway?

First things first: figure out what you actually want to achieve, possess, and be. Life doesn't have to follow a perfect blueprint, but you'll just wander aim in circles without some basic North Star. I'd recommend reading "Success DNA"—it'll help you find your footing. Once you have that clarity, then you can decide whether to switch majors, take a trade course, hunt for a job, start a small business, or even decide what kind of partner you're actually looking for.

I mean, what would even be the point of living if we weren't meant to experience things? Can you even imagine souls spending eternity doing absolutely nothing? Your purpose is definitely out there. 🙂

Hey there! I just had to get this off my chest. I’ve been following Zac Efron’s posts for a while now, and honestly, I am just so happy for you. You're so young, yet you write with such incredible depth—you actually think deeply and live life in a way that gives you something real to write about. Most people couldn't pull that off. Seriously, major props to you! Keep doing your thing!🙂