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Jacob Turner5 said:Who are these "unavailable" people? Do they actually have some hidden vampire streak that eventually turns them off? Is it just their way of sucking your energy dry? Maybe they just crave that attention—makes life simpler, right? And honestly, is anyone even obligated to hang out with anyone else anymore? That’s the question of the day... though why am I even asking?! If this is all just one big joke, then fine, it's easy and fun, but these draining types are starting to amuse me more than they bother me—I'm taking them less seriously lately. I have this chill philosophy where I slowed my whole life down, which will probably be my undoing. If you truly want someone by your side, you have to be ruthless. Only those kinds of people really make it in this world. Jesus Fucking Christ. I wish I could just draw it for you—some people simply aren't good for you, and some people just click perfectly, and it might surprise you how weird those pairings can be. Don't romanticize it; if someone feels distant or unavailable, there's usually a reason.
Does that make things easier for you?
Anyway... the catch is... by running away... YOU'RE WASTING TIME. What if nobody helped you when you were wasting yours? Would you still try to help that person avoid wasting theirs just to watch them fall apart? A million questions. Does it make sense to be "better," and will it hurt too much? When is the best time to just give up? We're all just sinking under the weight of Time...
I don't see this as some game or a joke—God forbid, these are peo-ple, you should understand that. Once you actually look at the situation, you get it.
It's all crystal clear.
I know I probably annoy you just as much as I annoy myself, but that's just how it is.
Do something.
Just be happy with who you are right now, even if someone is being distant.
If you haven't climbed the Himalayas yet, does that mean it's a recipe for everyone's happiness?
Should it be?
Maybe these unavailable people are just unhappy. Maybe they don't get why you need them as friends. Maybe that's just how they are, and maybe (definitely) we should love them exactly as they are.
Get up if you've fallen; we've all been miserable or had crazy thoughts at some point. Maybe you're the one avoiding them, not the other way around. Hmm... maybe you just don't know what to say to them. Or maybe you don't even really know them. Honestly, it might be impossible to fully know someone because perfection doesn't exist. Everyone changes; nobody stays static. I wish I could.
Maybe you're avoiding them because you're insecure, or you feel unattractive, or mean, or whatever. Or maybe you just don't need someone like me—someone who can sit here and write something like this. It's all pretty confusing, isn't it?
Doubts HAPPEN, but should you build your entire life around them?
Maybe you only want to see these people when they're happy and it suits you, so you keep a polite distance. Who is happy, who is miserable, who only acts caring when it's convenient—just to wrap a big success in a layer of performative kindness—that's the ultimate question. You can't trample over someone and then act super cool the next day. Is that the detail you missed? Are you actually avoiding them because they have a trait that scares you?
We're all weak, isn't that funny? These unavailable people? Do news outlets or TV shows sell stories like that? People love watching it, but nobody actually believes it.
Maybe it's too late, but you probably thought that the moment you met them, didn't you? People are simple. Lately, I really hate the idea that we all have to look out only for ourselves and live like islands... Maybe they're distant because they aren't attracted to your misery or the vibe you put out.
I don't even believe people like this exist outside of myself, but hey.
Other people have always been... selfish at their core.
Just my humble experience. You'll definitely learn something... if you try.
What kind of run-in have you had with emotionally unavailable types to make you write all this out? ☕
