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Laura Murphy3 Laura Murphy3 MemberOP
16 messages
joined Aug 2010
#41 ·
Honestly, my biggest headache—the thing that really messes with my head—is dating. I just get bored with girls way too fast. It’s like I hit a wall almost immediately.

I’m pretty convinced it isn’t about failing to find "the one" or whatever. That whole concept doesn't even make sense to me.

The only time I was ever actually, truly obsessed with someone was when she was playing games with me. Leading me on, keeping me on a short leash, feeding me just enough attention to keep me hooked while treating me like an afterthought. That was the only time I felt "crazy" for someone.

The real problem is how I end up sabotaging every single relationship with some stupid mistake. I’ll have this massive outpouring of emotion, totally lose myself in it, and then the next day, I’ll say something shitty just to kill the vibe. Then I catch myself wondering if I ever actually cared about her in the first place... and that's when the panic sets in. Am I just playing her? Is this all a lie? Then the guilt kicks in... and it’s just the same damn cycle over and over.

Talking it out with women who actually get what I'm going through helps. It lets the steam out, and after we talk, I feel okay for a minute. Free. Like I can actually feel something again.

But still, some things are just hard to stomach. I don't know. My brain won't shut up—it's constantly running, never stopping for a second.

Maybe I’m just too young to be dealing with this much baggage. But then I meet someone incredible—someone older, more grounded, actually ready for something real—and I find myself pushing them away. Just like they do to me. And then, fuck, it’s so hard not to just wreck everything, and I don't even know why I do it.
John James2 John James2 Newcomer
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joined Aug 2010
#42 ·
Here’s a quick question for you—regarding those people you claim to be so attached to, specifically women. Do you feel a genuine need to be completely honest with them? I’m not asking if you actually share every little mood swing or dilemma with your current girlfriend, but do you feel that internal drive to be totally transparent?
Laura Murphy3 Laura Murphy3 MemberOP
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joined Aug 2010
#43 ·
I mean, yeah, I guess so, mostly just because it makes me feel slightly less miserable.

It’s usually how it goes—after everything hits the fan, I just kind of check out, and then my whole perspective shifts. It feels like life is just happening to everyone else while I’m sitting here watching from the sidelines, totally detached. Even my girlfriend seems different lately; I can tell she’s acting differently toward me, almost like I’m a burden or something. I’m trying to act like everything is fine, playing the part, but inside? I’m a wreck.

I definitely feel this pull, yeah...

If I’m reading myself right? There’s this intense, nagging need to share everything—all the chaos and the mess—with her when things go south. The answer is a hard yes. Honestly, if I don't, I just feel like a total fraud. Like I'm being fake.

And then, predictably, it all spirals into these dark thoughts where I just want to escape it all, and then... well, then I end up breaking down over some cheesy love song, staring at photos of her face and that smile of hers. And so on...

Life is just great, really. 🙂

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