How to change your perspective?

Can we actually link this back to that old... saying:

be careful what you wish for, lest you actually get it😉?

Sam Hayes, if you don't mind me asking—what year were you born, or basically, how old are you?
Thanks 🙂

Of course, I'm 22 years old 🙂—did you honestly think I was a minor? 😕

Sam Hayes said:Of course, I'm 22 years old 🙂—did you honestly think I was a minor? 😕

I was pretty much convinced you were pushing fifty—honestly, I had it all mapped out—but I can finally breathe a little easier now that I realize your situation is actually totally normal for someone your age. It’s a relief, really. And since you've already figured out how to get everything back on track yourself, I’m feeling pretty chill about it... I have a feeling things are going to click into place for you sooner rather than later.

P.S.—since you’re still pretty young, do you have any real sense of how much the demographic landscape—you know, the actual adult population—is going to shift by the time you reach my age? 😉You really have to step back and look at things from their perspective—with that specific lens they’re using—to actually realize how much you've got going for you. It kind of puts things in focus, seeing where you're standing right now and just how many doors are actually open to you. Honestly, it makes you appreciate your own position a whole lot more.

Alright, here’s a little something for everyone:

Isn't the whole foundation for shifting how we see things just being open to new ideas—basically, checking that ego at the door and moving past this constant, nagging feeling that we’re the only ones who actually have it right while everyone else is just fundamentally wrong?

It’s funny how things change as you get older—I honestly can’t tell if I should take that as a compliment or a bit of a critique 🤣
I mean, I know I’m still relatively young, but there’s no running away from who you are... not that I haven't tried, but I think I finally realize I don't want to run anymore...
And it’s largely because of my ego—I’m becoming very aware of how much it holds me back in so many areas of my life... which is exactly why I’m looking for a change, I suppose. I really don't want to hit 50 and find myself wondering how I even managed to live my life when I was younger... I don't regret anything I've done or haven't done in the past, truly, but sometimes I just get this wave of anxiety thinking about how much better life might actually be if I were just... more relaxed. It’s not like I’m aiming for some impossible, cinematic life where I’m constantly chasing mountains and valleys or trying to check off a billion once-in-a-lifetime experiences—that's not really me. I just want to learn how to unwind and actually enjoy the moment, to give my absolute best toward my goals without being so weighed down by my own ego...

Sam Hayes said:It’s funny how things change as you get older—I honestly can’t tell if I should take that as a compliment or a bit of a critique 🤣
I mean, I know I’m still relatively young, but there’s no running away from who you are... not that I haven't tried, but I think I finally realize I don't want to run anymore...
And it’s largely because of my ego—I’m becoming very aware of how much it holds me back in so many areas of my life... which is exactly why I’m looking for a change, I suppose. I really don't want to hit 50 and find myself wondering how I even managed to live my life when I was younger... I don't regret anything I've done or haven't done in the past, truly, but sometimes I just get this wave of anxiety thinking about how much better life might actually be if I were just... more relaxed. It’s not like I’m aiming for some impossible, cinematic life where I’m constantly chasing mountains and valleys or trying to check off a billion once-in-a-lifetime experiences—that's not really me. I just want to learn how to unwind and actually enjoy the moment, to give my absolute best toward my goals without being so weighed down by my own ego...

For me, acting a little crazy or hitting up an amusement park always does the trick. It helps me forget all that stuff that's weighing you down. Have you even been to a carnival lately? Just a thought...

Has anyone actually found a cure for changing your perspective? 🤣

Look. What can I even tell you.
It’s basically an act of will.

In the end, everything boils down to "practice."
Order, hard work, and discipline.

Everything else is just an illusion... let's call it that.

Nothing happens without effort... in this case, "working on yourself."
Working on order.
Putting things where they belong.

The problem is you have to force your thoughts toward the positive.

How do you think you get overwhelmed by negative thoughts?
That was also a process... a long, drawn-out process... that a person just gives in to.
Because it's easy.
Going downhill? Oh, there's nothing easier.
Just tumbling like a ball... 🤣 and rolling straight down.
Great!!! 🤣

That's just a pile of trash that builds up inside a person.

First, you have to purge it all out, then start building from the ground up.
Because how are you going to build on top of trash?
No chance.

I'm sorry I have to be blunt with you... but you have to fight.
That's the whole philosophy.
The struggle.
And it's hard... and that answer doesn't sit well with everyone.
It's easier to just pop some Zoloft, Xanax, or Prozac... 😍

But what does that get you? Eventually, you aren't even aware of your own personality... so what did you actually achieve?

What do you really have if you don't have yourself?

Today you look up at the sky and think it looks gloomy.
You tell yourself: "Gloomy sky. It's going to rain. Wonderful. Perfect! It's all part of nature. Man, I love life."

Besides, you mentioned you don't want to wake up at 50 and realize you wasted your entire self.

Isn't that enough motivation for you?

You won't be here forever.
This life might be the only one you get.
Learn to appreciate it.
It's short. You wouldn't believe how short.

Maybe you should start... not tomorrow... but... hm... right now? Right this second?

Just reading along, but I don't have much to add

I can say a little something based on my own experience, though. I’ve definitely been in that headspace before—and honestly, maybe I still am. Eeee, if only it were that easy to just tell you. But, well, that's just how things go, I suppose.

Alright, I’ve actually put in a bit more effort this time and sat down to read through everything (well, almost everything). I have to say, there are some genuinely good people here... though, honestly, I think everyone is fundamentally good, even if they don't quite realize it themselves. Now, I don't want to just spout nonsense without purpose, so why don't you tell me—what's on your mind? I see I've got 23 posts under my belt, which I'm starting to realize carries some weight around here in terms of reputation. So, technically, I'm still a newcomer to the Google community, but I truly believe I can be of some help during times like these.

Let me know

Kevin Bailey2 said:Has anyone actually found a cure for changing your perspective? 🤣

Look. What can I even tell you.
It’s basically an act of will.

In the end, everything boils down to "practice."
Order, hard work, and discipline.

Everything else is just an illusion... let's call it that.

Nothing happens without effort... in this case, "working on yourself."
Working on order.
Putting things where they belong.

The problem is you have to force your thoughts toward the positive.

How do you think you get overwhelmed by negative thoughts?
That was also a process... a long, drawn-out process... that a person just gives in to.
Because it's easy.
Going downhill? Oh, there's nothing easier.
Just tumbling like a ball... 🤣 and rolling straight down.
Great!!! 🤣

That's just a pile of trash that builds up inside a person.

First, you have to purge it all out, then start building from the ground up.
Because how are you going to build on top of trash?
No chance.

I'm sorry I have to be blunt with you... but you have to fight.
That's the whole philosophy.
The struggle.
And it's hard... and that answer doesn't sit well with everyone.
It's easier to just pop some Zoloft, Xanax, or Prozac... 😍

But what does that get you? Eventually, you aren't even aware of your own personality... so what did you actually achieve?

What do you really have if you don't have yourself?

Today you look up at the sky and think it looks gloomy.
You tell yourself: "Gloomy sky. It's going to rain. Wonderful. Perfect! It's all part of nature. Man, I love life."

Besides, you mentioned you don't want to wake up at 50 and realize you wasted your entire self.

Isn't that enough motivation for you?

You won't be here forever.
This life might be the only one you get.
Learn to appreciate it.
It's short. You wouldn't believe how short.

Maybe you should start... not tomorrow... but... hm... right now? Right this second?

I honestly think that's where we go wrong. Not everything being perfect is the goal—that's kind of the whole point of life, isn't it? You have everything. I find myself wondering when someone is finally going to build a massive VR simulation where we can just live our lives. That seems straightforward enough. I mean, if we weren't constantly feeling down or moody, would we ever actually feel happy? We really are just big kids at heart, aren't we?

Kevin Bailey2 said:Has anyone actually found a cure for changing your perspective? 🤣

Look. What can I even tell you.
It’s basically an act of will.

In the end, everything boils down to "practice."
Order, hard work, and discipline.

Everything else is just an illusion... let's call it that.

Nothing happens without effort... in this case, "working on yourself."
Working on order.
Putting things where they belong.

The problem is you have to force your thoughts toward the positive.

How do you think you get overwhelmed by negative thoughts?
That was also a process... a long, drawn-out process... that a person just gives in to.
Because it's easy.
Going downhill? Oh, there's nothing easier.
Just tumbling like a ball... 🤣 and rolling straight down.
Great!!! 🤣

That's just a pile of trash that builds up inside a person.

First, you have to purge it all out, then start building from the ground up.
Because how are you going to build on top of trash?
No chance.

I'm sorry I have to be blunt with you... but you have to fight.
That's the whole philosophy.
The struggle.
And it's hard... and that answer doesn't sit well with everyone.
It's easier to just pop some Zoloft, Xanax, or Prozac... 😍

But what does that get you? Eventually, you aren't even aware of your own personality... so what did you actually achieve?

What do you really have if you don't have yourself?

Today you look up at the sky and think it looks gloomy.
You tell yourself: "Gloomy sky. It's going to rain. Wonderful. Perfect! It's all part of nature. Man, I love life."

Besides, you mentioned you don't want to wake up at 50 and realize you wasted your entire self.

Isn't that enough motivation for you?

You won't be here forever.
This life might be the only one you get.
Learn to appreciate it.
It's short. You wouldn't believe how short.

Maybe you should start... not tomorrow... but... hm... right now? Right this second?

Life is a struggle... I mean, that's one way to look at it, but there are other aspects too. Maybe "life is cooperation," or "life is administration," or even "life is love," I guess.

Humans are creatures driven by conflict, and sometimes you really do have to push for your own way, but then again, we also have reason and the ability to communicate. That allows us to understand, or maybe even internalize, someone else's perspective and adjust our own because of it.

Life is truly an art form...

Kevin Bailey2 said:Has anyone actually found a cure for changing your perspective? 🤣

Look. What can I even tell you.
It’s basically an act of will.

In the end, everything boils down to "practice."
Order, hard work, and discipline.

Everything else is just an illusion... let's call it that.

Nothing happens without effort... in this case, "working on yourself."
Working on order.
Putting things where they belong.

The problem is you have to force your thoughts toward the positive.

How do you think you get overwhelmed by negative thoughts?
That was also a process... a long, drawn-out process... that a person just gives in to.
Because it's easy.
Going downhill? Oh, there's nothing easier.
Just tumbling like a ball... 🤣 and rolling straight down.
Great!!! 🤣

That's just a pile of trash that builds up inside a person.

First, you have to purge it all out, then start building from the ground up.
Because how are you going to build on top of trash?
No chance.

I'm sorry I have to be blunt with you... but you have to fight.
That's the whole philosophy.
The struggle.
And it's hard... and that answer doesn't sit well with everyone.
It's easier to just pop some Zoloft, Xanax, or Prozac... 😍

But what does that get you? Eventually, you aren't even aware of your own personality... so what did you actually achieve?

What do you really have if you don't have yourself?

Today you look up at the sky and think it looks gloomy.
You tell yourself: "Gloomy sky. It's going to rain. Wonderful. Perfect! It's all part of nature. Man, I love life."

Besides, you mentioned you don't want to wake up at 50 and realize you wasted your entire self.

Isn't that enough motivation for you?

You won't be here forever.
This life might be the only one you get.
Learn to appreciate it.
It's short. You wouldn't believe how short.

Maybe you should start... not tomorrow... but... hm... right now? Right this second?

Well written, but...

Some people are always going to find it hard to accept that THEY are the ones who have to move themselves, because nobody else is going to do it for them. Also, I worry about how much self-pity plays a role in sinking deeper... and to change that, you really do need to shift your perception.

Maybe people like that should be faced with a truly serious problem, like... a shortage, hunger, or thirst... and once they’ve spent months struggling through the desert only to have clean water finally flow (which they’d now have constantly), maybe their perspective would shift toward gratitude, and with that, toward greater
life satisfaction.

What do you guys think?

Kevin Bailey2 said:Has anyone actually found a cure for changing your perspective? 🤣

Look. What can I even tell you.
It’s basically an act of will.

In the end, everything boils down to "practice."
Order, hard work, and discipline.

Everything else is just an illusion... let's call it that.

Nothing happens without effort... in this case, "working on yourself."
Working on order.
Putting things where they belong.

The problem is you have to force your thoughts toward the positive.

How do you think you get overwhelmed by negative thoughts?
That was also a process... a long, drawn-out process... that a person just gives in to.
Because it's easy.
Going downhill? Oh, there's nothing easier.
Just tumbling like a ball... 🤣 and rolling straight down.
Great!!! 🤣

That's just a pile of trash that builds up inside a person.

First, you have to purge it all out, then start building from the ground up.
Because how are you going to build on top of trash?
No chance.

I'm sorry I have to be blunt with you... but you have to fight.
That's the whole philosophy.
The struggle.
And it's hard... and that answer doesn't sit well with everyone.
It's easier to just pop some Zoloft, Xanax, or Prozac... 😍

But what does that get you? Eventually, you aren't even aware of your own personality... so what did you actually achieve?

What do you really have if you don't have yourself?

Today you look up at the sky and think it looks gloomy.
You tell yourself: "Gloomy sky. It's going to rain. Wonderful. Perfect! It's all part of nature. Man, I love life."

Besides, you mentioned you don't want to wake up at 50 and realize you wasted your entire self.

Isn't that enough motivation for you?

You won't be here forever.
This life might be the only one you get.
Learn to appreciate it.
It's short. You wouldn't believe how short.

Maybe you should start... not tomorrow... but... hm... right now? Right this second?

Yesterday, I set out to find a remedy for shifting one's perception, but I managed to gather nothing but some oyster mushrooms, chanterelles, and porcini. Adding sesame to my breading mix somehow altered my sense of taste, though not nearly enough to be spiritually profound.

Sam Hayes said:Life is truly an art form...

I mean, honestly—for me, life itself is the masterpiece.

Kevin Bailey2 said:Has anyone actually found a cure for changing your perspective? 🤣

Look. What can I even tell you.
It’s basically an act of will.

In the end, everything boils down to "practice."
Order, hard work, and discipline.

Everything else is just an illusion... let's call it that.

Nothing happens without effort... in this case, "working on yourself."
Working on order.
Putting things where they belong.

The problem is you have to force your thoughts toward the positive.

How do you think you get overwhelmed by negative thoughts?
That was also a process... a long, drawn-out process... that a person just gives in to.
Because it's easy.
Going downhill? Oh, there's nothing easier.
Just tumbling like a ball... 🤣 and rolling straight down.
Great!!! 🤣

That's just a pile of trash that builds up inside a person.

First, you have to purge it all out, then start building from the ground up.
Because how are you going to build on top of trash?
No chance.

I'm sorry I have to be blunt with you... but you have to fight.
That's the whole philosophy.
The struggle.
And it's hard... and that answer doesn't sit well with everyone.
It's easier to just pop some Zoloft, Xanax, or Prozac... 😍

But what does that get you? Eventually, you aren't even aware of your own personality... so what did you actually achieve?

What do you really have if you don't have yourself?

Today you look up at the sky and think it looks gloomy.
You tell yourself: "Gloomy sky. It's going to rain. Wonderful. Perfect! It's all part of nature. Man, I love life."

Besides, you mentioned you don't want to wake up at 50 and realize you wasted your entire self.

Isn't that enough motivation for you?

You won't be here forever.
This life might be the only one you get.
Learn to appreciate it.
It's short. You wouldn't believe how short.

Maybe you should start... not tomorrow... but... hm... right now? Right this second?

Maybe some hallucinogenic pill or powder to test out? 👍😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

😍

brisktiger56 said:I mean, honestly—for me, life itself is the masterpiece.

😍

So, anyway, did you ever end up making it out to the carnival?

🙂

Not at all—actually, I’m at the beach every single day right now, just soaking it all in 🙂 and honestly, I've been feeling so much better lately; I think I might finally be reaching a point where I truly believe real change is possible 🙂

Sam Hayes said:Not at all—actually, I’m at the beach every single day right now, just soaking it all in 🙂 and honestly, I've been feeling so much better lately; I think I might finally be reaching a point where I truly believe real change is possible 🙂

Oh, come on, don't be silly! You've already changed—you're just sitting there overthinking how you *might* change next... ah, get real!

If you thought you were just waking up as the exact same person every morning, well, you're mistaken. We're all shifting just a tiny fraction every single day—it’s just a matter of... which direction we're heading.

Enjoy being young while it lasts!!!

Honestly, sometimes we can be so incredibly blind that we fail to see what’s right under our own noses... I suppose I’ve certainly changed quite a bit 🙂
Well, I mean, I know I'm not exactly the same person every single day—that's just my nature, being somewhat flighty and unpredictable—but I was actually thinking more along the lines of a total, fundamental shift in my entire personality, haha