Got a boyfriend, now he's gone ghost.

Donna Wood52 said:I’m sure most of you have been through this exact thing—a friend lands a new boyfriend and suddenly, she just... vanishes. You send her a text, maybe an invite, and nothing. Just radio silence.

What’s your take on this phenomenon? Personally, I find it pretty fascinating—if a bit irritating.

I wonder what the psychologists would say about the mechanics behind it.

I have one friend just like that. Or rather, I don't really "have" her anymore. 🤔

After three days of dating him, she realized she couldn't live without him. She basically blew us off.
Whenever she gets into a fight with him or is stuck at home, she calls us—her old group—simply because she has nowhere else to go.
Suddenly, we're the best friends in the world again... and then, silence for months on end.
I don't stand for it, and I told her exactly how I felt. Her response? She claimed she isn't the only one and that any girl in a relationship would act the same way.
Typical. The best defense is a good offense, right?

At the same time, I feel both angry and sad about it. Angry because she treats us like an afterthought, but sad because she was my closest friend for nearly my entire life, and now we have nothing left to talk about.
I'm honestly not even sure if I miss our friendship... but it’s clear that she needs us much more than we need her.

swifthawk23 said:Ever since I stepped into this new relationship, most of my girlfriends have drifted away—and it isn't because I’m suddenly too busy to hang out. It’s because they just can't stand my partner. Honestly, though, who knows what the real motive is? Maybe you don't actually care about his personality, and instead, you’re just eyeing her outfit or feeling a bit insecure because she's more attractive than you... maybe there's some jealousy at play? It could be anything, really.

🤣

If that’s actually what happened, then there wasn't even a shred of genuine friendship there to begin with.

coppernomad28 said:👍 Honestly, this is the exact same thought that crossed my mind when I stumbled upon yet another one of those endless threads started by the ever-prolific Donna Wood52.
I mean, it feels like she’s just rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic just to start a brand new conversation thread... ☕

Now that I think about it, I remember how stoked I was, calling up all my buddies once I finally hit it big at a blackjack table in Vegas and met my current wife... ever since then, I've stayed far away from any kind of gambling. No poker, no nothing.

haha

🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏

I have this one friend who, every single time she lands a boyfriend, completely ghosts everyone else in her life. It’s like she stops breathing and just exists solely for him. She recently went through a breakup, and now she’s finally crawling back to her old circle so we can all pick up the pieces. I’ve honestly never had a close friend act like this before. A few times, I was over at her place and her guy would call, and they’d spend the entire time talking on the phone right in front of me. I eventually had to call her out on it, and luckily, she stopped. I really believe you have to be blunt with people like that, especially if you actually care about them. Look, being in a relationship is great, but you shouldn't lose your entire identity—or your whole life—in the process.

silvereagle15 said:🤣

If that’s actually what happened, then there wasn't even a shred of genuine friendship there to begin with.

Well, it wasn't—but let's be honest, admitting that part is usually the hardest bit.

Ran into a couple today. 🤷

A huge chunk of those relationships were built on nothing but deep-seated insecurity... 🙄
They’re just fragile girls who lack any real substance on their own, so they latch onto someone else like Velcro and refuse to let go.