Dealing with resentment toward my parents

I wouldn't call it trolling. Honestly, I think the guy just finally realized how much of a moron she was being. Even if this whole thing turns out to be some made-up bullshit, we could still have a decent debate about why he'd even bother doing it in the first place.

Justin Morgan3 said:Man, it isn't even about the dishes. The real issue here is my mom's attitude toward me. Is it actually necessary to get insulted just because of a few dirty plates?

The plates are just the trigger, not the actual root cause here. If you just wash those five freaking plates, your bargaining position becomes significantly stronger—at least in theory. And honestly, I think I’d lose my mind too if I came home from work, only to find three bodies sprawled out in front of the TV and the house looking like a total pigsty. I suppose the fact that neither of your two sisters lifts a finger probably doesn't help matters either, but you really have to decide—do you want to actually solve your problem, or are you more interested in achieving world peace and universal justice for everyone?

James Ramirez10 said:Is this considered trolling? Or should we just let things cool off for a week or so?

It’s probably trolling—most likely. But honestly, I think that actually makes this thread even more appropriate for discussion. It might not be exactly how the original author intended things to go, but still...

cross_that_line said:Go back to where you came from.

Hilarious... though I'm already settled in my favorite armchair listening to this...

You claim this whole thing is made up... hm... how am I supposed to believe a word you say when you were lying just a second ago?!☕

Dana Morales64 said:I honestly feel like just giving up—I can't face life knowing the truth about who my parents actually are. Either I’m going to disappear somewhere far away where nobody knows my name or anything about my past, or maybe I'll just reinvent myself entirely. Because living like this? It’s just not sustainable anymore.

Are you seriously disowning your entire family over some damn car? Are you actually ashamed of the very people who raised you? I assume they are the ones who provided you with everything—the chance to move across the country, to become someone, to build a life better than the one they struggled through. You mentioned they have outstanding loans and aren't financially able to buy this vehicle. So, your brilliant solution is for them to drown in even more debt just so they can move you, all so you don't have to feel "embarrassed" in front of your friends?

In my opinion, you should be ashamed of having such a mindset in the first place. You are behaving like a spoiled brat.

And let’s be clear: a car isn't going to fix your deep-seated frustration or your sense of inferiority. For starters, try working on your self-esteem. It might also be helpful to reflect on everything they have provided for you and consider why they took out those loans in the first place—perhaps it was specifically to give you a better shot at life? Yet, you sit there assuming they didn't buy a car out of pure selfishness, ignoring the fact that they are barely scraping by. Do you think they don't wish they had it too? Do you think they're withholding it just to spite you? Does the world revolve around you? Try stepping into their shoes for once. Do you have any inkling of how difficult things are for them, or are you purely focused on yourself?

How old are you, for heaven's sake?

Thomas Moore6 said:Next time someone asks you about their car, just give them a straight answer: "They don't own one; they're committed to being eco-friendly." ☕ 😁😁

If this is really stressing you out, honestly, you’re being a bit of an idiot.

And regarding everything else—all this talk about people having "perfect" parents... 😂
I mean, I'll grant you there are exceptions, but I personally don't know a single soul who doesn't have at least a few grievances with their folks, nor do I know anyone who would actually want to turn out exactly like them.

So, instead of getting all worked up because they don't have a car, maybe try focusing on their actual character? I'm sure they have plenty of great qualities, and it's probably not the end of the world that they prefer riding bikes.

I couldn't agree more. 🙂

Dana Morales64 said:Look, I get all that—really, I do—but there’s a difference between acknowledging that worse situations exist and actually accepting your own. That’s where the breakdown happens for me. I struggle with acceptance. If I just "accept" things as they are, I feel weak, vulnerable... I don't want to be just another face in the crowd, you know? And I'm not some petulant teenager throwing a tantrum here; it's just that right now, I can barely focus enough to type straight because I'm not exactly in a great place mentally.

Well, you aren't! Most of them at least have their own cars! 🙂

Justin Morgan3 said:Man, it isn't even about the dishes. The real issue here is my mom's attitude toward me. Is it actually necessary to get insulted just because of a few dirty plates?

Just don't give her any reason to lash out!🙂

Olivia Reed3 said:Hilarious... though I'm already settled in my favorite armchair listening to this...

You claim this whole thing is made up... hm... how am I supposed to believe a word you say when you were lying just a second ago?!☕

He wasn't lying, he really wasn't... now he's just feeling a bit embarrassed about it...😉

Zachary Collins2 said:Well, you aren't! Most of them at least have their own cars! 🙂

🙏🙏

come on, don't be an idiot—the guy's actually going to kill you.😂😂

So, Matthew Hayes14 finally realized he looked like an idiot, and now he’s trying to backtrack?

Ashley Chase83 said:This whole mess just proves my point: either you discipline your kids with an iron fist, or you cut your losses and kick them to the curb when they start turning into complete losers.

👍😂

Internet tough guys. I’d love to meet you all in person just to see how much courage you have when we're actually talking face-to-face. I know your type well—people who act like geniuses behind a screen and jump on the bandwagon just to feel important, thinking their little comments actually hurt someone. It's pathetic.
Since neither of us knows anything about each other personally, a single topic isn't enough to form a real opinion. This is a virtual space, after all, so let's drop the insults so everyone can just enjoy themselves.

Discussion over. Case closed.

Henry Mitchell36 said:Internet tough guys. I’d love to meet you all in person just to see how much courage you have when we're actually talking face-to-face. I know your type well—people who act like geniuses behind a screen and jump on the bandwagon just to feel important, thinking their little comments actually hurt someone. It's pathetic.
Since neither of us knows anything about each other personally, a single topic isn't enough to form a real opinion. This is a virtual space, after all, so let's drop the insults so everyone can just enjoy themselves.

Discussion over. Case closed.

And here we go... yet another cyclist joins the fray!😁

Zachary Collins2 said:And here we go... yet another cyclist joins the fray!😁

🙄 isn't just another one. It's the exact same guy.

It's all just the same repetitive threads..

@Matthew Hayes14......I realized it was actually the same😉 but I honestly just thought it would be fun to leave the comment I did😉🤣

and thank you so much for pointing me toward this other (well, technically my first) thread about moving house and those oversized sneakers😂😂!!! I think I’ll have to start dropping by the psychology section a bit more often...🤣

I honestly don't get that feeling of hatred. It’s such a heavy, draining way to live. For me, it's always just been about contempt or pity. I don't even hold onto hate for my enemies.

Zachary Collins2 said:@Matthew Hayes14......I realized it was actually the same😉 but I honestly just thought it would be fun to leave the comment I did😉🤣

and thank you so much for pointing me toward this other (well, technically my first) thread about moving house and those oversized sneakers😂😂!!! I think I’ll have to start dropping by the psychology section a bit more often...🤣

For me, the psychology board is one of the better subforums—mostly because there aren't any rigid rules. You can write about practically anything. Not to mention when you start your own thread and then have to deal with the sheer density of people quoting your own comments back at you... priceless.🙂
It isn't that I hate my parents—heaven knows I love them—I just voiced a specific part of my frustration that most people wouldn't dare touch. Let's be honest: we all have flaws we'd rather keep under wraps. Human psychology is a messy, complicated thing; you can never truly be certain you know someone, because people are inherently fickle. Of course, it stings when you see someone else's parents being more successful than yours, but you don't get to choose your family. All you can really do is offer them your full support to keep improving, because let's face it—there's always room for growth.
I could go on forever, but what's the point? My only regret is seeing how many people on this platform—and honestly, everywhere else—just blindly follow the crowd. If they dared to stand up for someone being mocked, they'd end up being the next target. That’s the real issue with the world today; people are losing their sense of self. They have opinions, sure, but they’re too terrified to voice them publicly for fear of being ridiculed. It's easier, safer, to just parrot whatever the majority is saying.
Gentlemen, this isn't just some digital phenomenon; it's how people act in the real world, too. Nowadays, it's dangerous to be different because you already know what's coming for you. That's why I test things out—I test whether I can handle an opinion that differs from my own, and I test all of you, too. The result is always the same: people cling to the herd because they simply aren't built to handle criticism. It's just that simple.

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