What were your biggest pregnancy surprises and pet peeves?

Regarding the numbness in your fingers, if it helps, you can take solace in the fact that it usually clears up about two weeks postpartum. In my case, it started out milder—just a tingling sensation at night or in the mornings—but eventually, it progressed to total numbness. For about a month and a half, I couldn't feel anything at all. It was unsettling; it felt like my fingertips didn't even belong to me. It’s a terrible sensation, but eventually, the feeling returns along with the swelling subsiding.

So, I had this experience at the local Mayo Clinic just a few days ago...
-I showed up incredibly early—7:00 AM sharp, acting like a total grandma🙂—and there were already two pregnant women ahead of me at the intake desk. Even though the sign on booth #2 says "Pregnant Women Have Priority" in massive letters, a group of elderly ladies was already crowding that specific door while all the other booths sat empty. I asked the clerk if I absolutely had to use booth #2 or if I could just use any station to get my blood drawn—mostly because I was picturing the absolute chaos once three pregnant women finish using the restroom and try to squeeze through that one door at the same time. The woman behind the counter told me I could use another one, but she added—with a straight face—that I should probably hide my baby bump. 😕
By the time I got out of the restroom, some poor guy—who wasn't even old, just a dude in his 40s—was already mid-argument with those two pregnant women about who actually goes next in line. 🙂
I ended up just ducking into the booth next door, and the nurse drew my blood without a single issue (which is hilarious, considering when I first came in and tried to use a different booth, the nurse gave me such an attitude).

-After the clinic, I headed over to the Social Security office...
There was a line of at least ten people. A pregnant woman was at the front, followed by an elderly lady who looked like she could barely stay upright... and honestly, I felt terrible just cutting in front of them (even though usually I’d just walk away—you know how it is, the sheer embarrassment of someone saying, "Oh, I can stand, it's not like it's hard for me"). It was only 7:30 AM, too; I assumed everyone was rushing to get to work, and after that hospital nonsense, I was bracing myself for a huge scene if I dared to move forward... but then, to my complete shock😲, both the woman in front of me and the woman behind me were incredibly polite about it. They basically told me to just go ahead and skip the wait. 😲😲😲 ...So I went to the front, and not a single person muttered a word or gave me a dirty look. 😁 I have no idea where that sudden wave of kindness came from😁, especially from women—and older women, no less, who are usually the most cantankerous people on the planet. Either I happened to hit the jackpot that morning, or I just looked so exhausted and miserable that they took pity on me.

I haven't even had my first kid yet, and some lady already cornered me asking—so, when are you having the second one? Like, excuse me?? 🙂

What part of me looks like a breeding cow to her? Honestly, how does someone even let a question like that slip out?

So, I headed over to my stylist today for a little refresh... and honestly, I am just totally not feeling this new haircut at all 🙂

Ethan King75 said:I haven't even had my first kid yet, and some lady already cornered me asking—so, when are you having the second one? Like, excuse me?? 🙂

What part of me looks like a breeding cow to her? Honestly, how does someone even let a question like that slip out?

People just assume they have an all-access pass to your life. They think they’re entitled to weigh in on your plans, your beliefs, or your goals—usually while trying to shove some "helpful" advice down your throat.

I just don't get it. If people are so obsessed with asking when I'm having kids, why aren't they asking how often I'm sleeping with my partner so they can judge if we're doing it enough or at the right time?🤷

Sarah Johnson7 said:That reminds me, the same thing happened to me about eight days ago. My doctor was being covered by someone else, and when I went in for my 7-month paperwork, she told me I was TOO EARLY and to come back around the 30th (which is today!!!) 😕 But she handed everything out perfectly fine to her "own" patients—I saw it with my own eyes!! It was never "too early" for them.

Ugh, I swear, they can just swap people out whenever they feel like it. One time, I went in for maternity leave papers and there were like twelve women ahead of me, including pregnant ladies and stuff, so I just pulled a U-turn and headed straight home. Sent my mom instead the next day (she got there at 7 AM and knocked it all out in one go)... honestly, that local clinic is like a bunker. No AC, and those high ceilings make it feel like some old government building from the 70s. I was absolutely livid.

I honestly can't believe how much the cellulite caught me off guard during pregnancy. I’ve always been a curvy girl and never really had an issue—maybe just a tiny bit on my eyelids if I’m being picky—so I figured, hey, at least I won't have to stress about it once the baby arrives, right? Yeah, right. It can always get way worse 😲 Now my legs look like two bumpy tree trunks... they're all swollen and just covered in this crap, totally lost their shape 🙂

hollowmarlin49 said:I honestly can't believe how much the cellulite caught me off guard during pregnancy. I’ve always been a curvy girl and never really had an issue—maybe just a tiny bit on my eyelids if I’m being picky—so I figured, hey, at least I won't have to stress about it once the baby arrives, right? Yeah, right. It can always get way worse 😲 Now my legs look like two bumpy tree trunks... they're all swollen and just covered in this crap, totally lost their shape 🙂

I was reading online that it might just be all that extra water retention you get during pregnancy... and that once you actually give birth, it'll all just vanish... I am really, truly praying that's the case 🙂 because I didn't have any noticeable cellulite before I got pregnant, but now it has come out of nowhere and attacked me 🙄

So, I had this run-in yesterday with a friend's mom—I haven't seen her since I found out I was pregnant, and in the meantime, lo and behold, my little baby bump has decided to show up! And she just stares at me, eyes wide, and goes, "Wow, you've really packed on the weight in that belly area!" PACKED ON!!!! 😲😲😲
Look, I know I'm not tiny, but it's not like I'm huge either (my waist is about 32 inches, and I'm only about 22 weeks along—which I actually know because I went to go measure myself yesterday after gaining 9 pounds)
Seriously, she totally killed my vibe 😢

So, shortly after that, this other woman actually turns to me and asks how far along I am—I was totally floored! I had to double-check if I even heard her right. Like, she seriously asked me how "far along" I was!! 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲
I don’t even talk to my cats like that when they’re expecting 🤷

swiftmason4 said:So, shortly after that, this other woman actually turns to me and asks how far along I am—I was totally floored! I had to double-check if I even heard her right. Like, she seriously asked me how "far along" I was!! 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲
I don’t even talk to my cats like that when they’re expecting 🤷

God, someone asked me the exact same thing. I didn't catch the nuance of the question at first and just blurted out, "I've gained 20 pounds so far!"

Now I finally get why she made that face!! 😂

What an absolutely appalling question, honestly.

swiftmason4 said:So, I had this run-in yesterday with a friend's mom—I haven't seen her since I found out I was pregnant, and in the meantime, lo and behold, my little baby bump has decided to show up! And she just stares at me, eyes wide, and goes, "Wow, you've really packed on the weight in that belly area!" PACKED ON!!!! 😲😲😲
Look, I know I'm not tiny, but it's not like I'm huge either (my waist is about 32 inches, and I'm only about 22 weeks along—which I actually know because I went to go measure myself yesterday after gaining 9 pounds)
Seriously, she totally killed my vibe 😢

If you ask me, people like that are just shallow, zero class, and honestly? Just plain jealous. I don't even give them the time of day anymore; I just pretend I didn't hear a word they said. And when it comes to things like measurements, don't even get me started—they better stay in their own lane before they say something else they'll regret. 🙂

Alright, I gotta brag a little bit because I just had a major win today. So, I walk into a local CVS with my little one, who was absolutely parched, and I grab just two quick things from the aisle. But when I get to the checkout line, I see 😲 this massive, never-ending line 😢 and honestly, part of me just wanted to drop everything and bail right then and there. But you know how it goes, some stubborn part of my brain wouldn't let it go. 😁 So, I end up walking straight up to the cashier and telling her, "Look, I can't wait, I've only got these two items," and she was an absolute legend—she just took them without missing a beat, and not a single person in that line even dared to say a word. 😁

cosmicviper21 said:Alright, I gotta brag a little bit because I just had a major win today. So, I walk into a local CVS with my little one, who was absolutely parched, and I grab just two quick things from the aisle. But when I get to the checkout line, I see 😲 this massive, never-ending line 😢 and honestly, part of me just wanted to drop everything and bail right then and there. But you know how it goes, some stubborn part of my brain wouldn't let it go. 😁 So, I end up walking straight up to the cashier and telling her, "Look, I can't wait, I've only got these two items," and she was an absolute legend—she just took them without missing a beat, and not a single person in that line even dared to say a word. 😁

Exactly! Some lady tried to block me (she didn't say anything, but I could feel her judging me hard), but then this sweet older woman who looked twice her age stepped in and let me through. It totally embarrassed her, so... I hope so!

cosmicviper21 said:Alright, I gotta brag a little bit because I just had a major win today. So, I walk into a local CVS with my little one, who was absolutely parched, and I grab just two quick things from the aisle. But when I get to the checkout line, I see 😲 this massive, never-ending line 😢 and honestly, part of me just wanted to drop everything and bail right then and there. But you know how it goes, some stubborn part of my brain wouldn't let it go. 😁 So, I end up walking straight up to the cashier and telling her, "Look, I can't wait, I've only got these two items," and she was an absolute legend—she just took them without missing a beat, and not a single person in that line even dared to say a word. 😁

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Usually, I don't have any issues at all, really, people are actually super nice and polite most of the time... they'll let me slip ahead, or the ladies working the deli counter at Safeway will give me a little extra or let me jump the queue...
But today? Today was just something else... it was like I didn't exist to anyone, seriously 🤷 ...everyone just completely blanked me... at the IRS office, at the grocery store... it was like people were literally turning their heads away as if they couldn't see me standing right there...
🤷

Ugh, let me tell you about this absolute nightmare at the grocery store yesterday. My husband was busy watching a movie, so I just popped out real quick to grab some chips and crackers. I grabbed what I needed, but then I had to squeeze past the deli section, and the aisle was tiny because Diana had stocked it way too full. There’s this lady standing there waiting for her ham, so I politely asked if she could move just a bit so I could pass. And this woman—I kid you not—looks at me and goes, "Fine, I'll move, but look how 😲." Excuse me?!?!? Like, seriously? Will you please just step aside? Instead of being decent, she swings her backpack right at me and hits me in the stomach. Honestly, I can't even write down what I screamed at her without needing a drink, but let's just say I shoved both her and that bag right back... man, I was actually shaking. I mean, how much of an idiot do you have to be to act like that? Commenting on my size (when I'm literally due to give birth this month!) and then swinging a bag at me? If she had said anything after I shoved her away, I think my baby would've ended up being born in a county jail. Just thinking about it makes me so mad again, which is why I didn't want to post this, but I just couldn't let it go. Lady, rot in hell :2up:

EDIT: My husband won't even let me go back to the store now.

hollowmarlin49 said:I honestly can't believe how much the cellulite caught me off guard during pregnancy. I’ve always been a curvy girl and never really had an issue—maybe just a tiny bit on my eyelids if I’m being picky—so I figured, hey, at least I won't have to stress about it once the baby arrives, right? Yeah, right. It can always get way worse 😲 Now my legs look like two bumpy tree trunks... they're all swollen and just covered in this crap, totally lost their shape 🙂

That caught me off guard too.
I swear, my cellulite actually developed its own damn cellulite during pregnancy 😬

hollowmarlin49 said:Ugh, let me tell you about this absolute nightmare at the grocery store yesterday. My husband was busy watching a movie, so I just popped out real quick to grab some chips and crackers. I grabbed what I needed, but then I had to squeeze past the deli section, and the aisle was tiny because Diana had stocked it way too full. There’s this lady standing there waiting for her ham, so I politely asked if she could move just a bit so I could pass. And this woman—I kid you not—looks at me and goes, "Fine, I'll move, but look how 😲." Excuse me?!?!? Like, seriously? Will you please just step aside? Instead of being decent, she swings her backpack right at me and hits me in the stomach. Honestly, I can't even write down what I screamed at her without needing a drink, but let's just say I shoved both her and that bag right back... man, I was actually shaking. I mean, how much of an idiot do you have to be to act like that? Commenting on my size (when I'm literally due to give birth this month!) and then swinging a bag at me? If she had said anything after I shoved her away, I think my baby would've ended up being born in a county jail. Just thinking about it makes me so mad again, which is why I didn't want to post this, but I just couldn't let it go. Lady, rot in hell :2up:

EDIT: My husband won't even let me go back to the store now.

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Oh my goodness, I honestly didn't think people like that actually existed in the real world... yuck, what a nasty woman... if that were me, I would have straight up spit in her face 😠 and then hit her back with her own bag! Honestly, I am just sitting here in total shock...
..I am so incredibly sorry you had to deal with that... 🙂

miana2 said:omg, I can't even... what part? Such a total moron 😠
just zero class, was she blind or something???

Nah, she wasn't blind, just crazy. Or like how my mother-in-law would put it, she’s just not all there. Honestly, my husband was just staring at me while I was venting... he's so naive, still thinks everyone treats pregnant women like royalty...

hollowmarlin49 said:Ugh, let me tell you about this absolute nightmare at the grocery store yesterday. My husband was busy watching a movie, so I just popped out real quick to grab some chips and crackers. I grabbed what I needed, but then I had to squeeze past the deli section, and the aisle was tiny because Diana had stocked it way too full. There’s this lady standing there waiting for her ham, so I politely asked if she could move just a bit so I could pass. And this woman—I kid you not—looks at me and goes, "Fine, I'll move, but look how 😲." Excuse me?!?!? Like, seriously? Will you please just step aside? Instead of being decent, she swings her backpack right at me and hits me in the stomach. Honestly, I can't even write down what I screamed at her without needing a drink, but let's just say I shoved both her and that bag right back... man, I was actually shaking. I mean, how much of an idiot do you have to be to act like that? Commenting on my size (when I'm literally due to give birth this month!) and then swinging a bag at me? If she had said anything after I shoved her away, I think my baby would've ended up being born in a county jail. Just thinking about it makes me so mad again, which is why I didn't want to post this, but I just couldn't let it go. Lady, rot in hell :2up:

EDIT: My husband won't even let me go back to the store now.

this is absolute peak chaos👎
did anyone else in the store say anything?
whether she was crazy or not, I don't think she would have fared well