Missing Word

*** Missing Word ***

Missing Word *** Last Night When i told you All that stuff , About The way things ara , you didn ’ t understand a Word,
About how things actually work,
But you acted like you followed me,
Even though you didn't.
Look, I'm not some saint,
But I'm done dealing with the nonsense,
It's late, I'm exhausted, and your excuses are just static on the line.

You're in deep now, babe (you're in trouble)
It's finished (it's all over)
You thought you were winning,
But it's done, it's done, it's done,
Missing Word, Missing Word it's just,
Missing Word, Missing Word it's just,
Missing Word, Missing Word it's just,
Missing Word, Missing Word it's just,
Missing Word.

The way you handled things just doesn't add up,
Everything you pulled,
You probably figured I was clueless,
But I see everything clearly now,
The game is over, so just go, leave me alone,
And I honestly wonder if any of it was even real.

Missing Word, Missing Word it's just,

So;

The song is just the intro to the actual topic.

Here’s what I’m getting at:

It's this whole phenomenon of unspoken words. You know, things that feel totally unnecessary to actually say out loud because they should be obvious. Something so clear, yet somehow...

Has it ever happened to you? Where you kept something from someone, or they kept something from you, and it ended up completely wrecking the relationship later on?

Like, "I love you," or "I hate you," or even just "You're really getting on my nerves," because you assumed it was already understood and didn't need to be voiced?

Personally, I'm terrible at body language. My gestures are basically just visual noise; they don't actually mean anything. I'm just not built for those subtle little social games.

Sometimes I'll go digging through my own head trying to find those hidden signs, and then I just end up shooting myself in the foot once I realize what an idiot I was being.

Backroom politics are a slippery slope... don't go feeling sorry for yourself just because you lack the skill set. It's better to stay quiet and leave things unsaid... especially when some two-faced snake is telling you how it is.😬

Look, I know how to play the game and look out for number one when I need to, but if I actually care about someone—whether I love them, hate them, or feel like punching them—I’m just going to say it straight.

I have this feeling that sometimes I stay quiet just to let things reach a breaking point.

Well, it’s not terrible... just maybe show a little more consideration for how other people feel. You really don't seem to grasp the kind of lasting damage you can cause someone, it's just unnecessary... honest enough, nice name, but nobody actually uses it...🙂

It hurts way more if I just stay quiet and pretend everything is fine.

If I hate someone, I hate them. If I love someone, God help them. Because they’re getting absolutely everything I have to give.

In those moments, I just surrender completely.

Honestly, I’m usually an open book. I love being upfront about everything.

Back when I was seeing this guy—we’d only been dating for a few months—I felt this huge urge to tell him I loved him. But then I overthought it. I thought, "This is stupid. We haven't even been together long enough for me to actually love him."
So I just kept my mouth shut.

Fast forward to later on, after we had already stopped seeing each other, and it finally hit me: I really did love him. I ended up telling him, but by then, the spark was gone. It just wasn't the same.

I should have just said it right then and there.
Maybe things would have turned out differently.

Yeah, those kinds of situations.

Or when people just assume you’re going to do something for them, even though they never actually asked.

That kind of stuff drives me absolutely nuts. I try, really, but I only put in the effort when I actually care about the person. Otherwise, my reaction is basically like that guy in a commercial where he walks through the door soaking wet and exhausted, and his wife just looks up and goes, "Wait, did you forget the apples?"

God, I just want to scream... what a mess.

A super smart professor I know—definitely not me!—once mentioned that most arguments between two people really boil down to a power struggle. After looking at all the drama around us through that lens, it seems like a recipe for a total meltdown only needs a couple more ingredients:
a) assuming someone already knows you love them, so you just don't say it
b) constantly nitpicking and pointing out exactly why you like someone a little less (or even hate them)

I guess you could say we have a habit of staying silent on what matters and making a huge deal out of what doesn't.

The absolute lamest thing I’ve ever heard is when someone claims they stopped saying "I love you" just because the phrase feels too cliché or overused now.

Look, if you actually love someone and they feel the same way about you, saying those three words should feel incredible every single time. It’s just how it works.

But once you stop saying it.....

David Vaughn4 said:Yeah, those kinds of situations.

Or when people just assume you’re going to do something for them, even though they never actually asked.

That kind of stuff drives me absolutely nuts. I try, really, but I only put in the effort when I actually care about the person. Otherwise, my reaction is basically like that guy in a commercial where he walks through the door soaking wet and exhausted, and his wife just looks up and goes, "Wait, did you forget the apples?"

God, I just want to scream... what a mess.

Oh my gosh, I absolutely love that commercial! 😍

It's like I was the one filming it! And I'm always telling myself, man, if only I had someone like that in my life so I wouldn't have to get worked up over every little thing!

OT—but honestly, that’s actually such a wonderful quality, even if it doesn't seem that way, and I’m exactly the same way with the people I love, so I never feel an ounce of guilt about it.
It’s true that some people will definitely take advantage of you, but I prefer to live my life being honest and sincere, if only for my own peace of mind.

So don't sweat it, you're doing fine!

Yeah, I agree—it’s bad, seriously bad... but still. Look, I’m not just talking about romantic relationships here. I mean the general human psyche, how we tend to sweep certain things under the rug just because that feeling has become our "new normal." Whether it’s toward a partner, a parent, a sibling, or a friend.

silverscout15 said:Yeah, I agree—it’s bad, seriously bad... but still. Look, I’m not just talking about romantic relationships here. I mean the general human psyche, how we tend to sweep certain things under the rug just because that feeling has become our "new normal." Whether it’s toward a partner, a parent, a sibling, or a friend.

I'm on the same page. It’s all about human connection.

Especially with friends. Those unspoken pacts and all that kind of thing..

And honestly, every single relationship involves emotion. You can't really have a connection without bringing some level of feeling into it (maybe I'm exaggerating a bit, but still).👍

Well, there’s definitely room for debate there, but I wouldn't say I pour massive amounts of emotion into every single connection I make. My coworkers or my friends' friends—people I see all the time—are technically relationships, sure, but they aren't exactly deep.
I meant romantic relationships, just to be clear. 🙂
A good friend actually shared the whole point of this story with me last summer. We were hanging out at the beach, and he was with his girlfriend—who, let's be honest, can be a total handful. She really knows how to push his buttons! During one of those heated moments, I noticed him just sitting there in silence, aggressively puffing on a cigarette. At first, I thought he was counting to ten so he wouldn't 🙂 her. But when we talked about it later, he told me he could have easily listed a hundred things that were driving him crazy in that moment. Instead, this guy (some might call him a pushover!) was intensely focused on the hundred different reasons why he loves her. Even when she's testing his patience.
Man, if only we could shift our perspective like that all the time! 🙂

Emotional connections are on a whole different level. You can't just sweep things under the rug forever; if you do, eventually everything is going to explode like a Big Bang.

When you're in a relationship, you're right—you take the good along with the bad. But if you aren't at least trying to work on your own flaws and theirs, then there's really no path toward growing together.

I have a tendency to hold back too often... and yeah, I know, it’s not a great habit. Not in the short term, and certainly not in the long run.

There was a time when I used to swallow my positive emotions instead of sharing them. Honestly, finding the right words to tell someone exactly how much they meant to me felt incredibly daunting. Eventually, I managed to move past that phase.

But lately, I’ve started doing the opposite—bottling up the negative stuff. It’s this misguided impulse where I think, "I don't want to hurt their feelings," which is just plain foolish. At the end of the day, keeping quiet doesn't actually do anyone any favors.

If we’re being honest here... just tell me...

I've started overthinking everything lately... thinking, "maybe I shouldn't say this so I don't hurt their feelings." What a joke! Honestly, keeping things bottled up doesn't help anyone.

I feel the exact same way. It’s like, I try to convince myself it isn't lying, just "humanitarian withholding." I even came up with my own little term for it: 🙂
But for me, it usually happens when my filter just snaps because I'm feeling so overwhelmed by bitterness...

silverscout15 said:

I've started overthinking everything lately... thinking, "maybe I shouldn't say this so I don't hurt their feelings." What a joke! Honestly, keeping things bottled up doesn't help anyone.

I feel the exact same way. It’s like, I try to convince myself it isn't lying, just "humanitarian withholding." I even came up with my own little term for it: 🙂
But for me, it usually happens when my filter just snaps because I'm feeling so overwhelmed by bitterness...

🤣 You're a good soul!

I haven't actually coined a term for it yet, but I also find that when I finally snap—which, let's face it, is once in a blue moon—things come out that I wasn't even aware I was feeling. It's that "Wait, who actually said that?" moment where everything hits at once.😲

The other person ends up getting hurt even worse than if I had just been brutally honest from the jump..

No, no... that's definitely not a winning strategy.

Hey, that strategy works great if it only happens once in a blue moon, major props! 🙂

But what if it’s happening every single week?
😁