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briskgull27 said:A really close friend just told me that listening to me talk about my illness is actually depressing for her, and she’d much rather we just chat about makeup instead.
What do you all think about that from a healthy perspective?😁 😁
briskgull27 said:A really close friend just told me that listening to me talk about my illness is actually depressing for her, and she’d much rather we just chat about makeup instead.
What do you all think about that from a healthy perspective?😁 😁
briskgull27 said:😁 😁 😁 I guess I just lost the race against time and officially transitioned into a full-time professional schizo.
Meanwhile, everyone else is just obsessing over designer heels and mascara.
Seriously, who cares about shoes? They're such a headache...
I'd much rather be deep in discussions about aliens and the mysteries of the universe, but I don't have anyone to talk to about it.🙂 🙂
It feels like everyone else is totally fine—working, spending money, living their lives—while I'm just stuck here on the sidelines.😲 😲 😲 😕
briskbison27 said:That isn't a friend. You're better off with us.
briskgull27 said:A really close friend just told me that listening to me talk about my illness is actually depressing for her, and she’d much rather we just chat about makeup instead.
What do you all think about that from a healthy perspective?😁 😁
Harold Anderson3 said:🤣 hehe, looks like we actually have something in common.😉 Honestly, I don't necessarily buy into the whole alien thing, but I absolutely love arguing about whether God exists, the mysteries of space, or if life even has any meaning at all. That’s why this forum is great; you're bound to find some crazies (or let's call them "eccentrics") who are obsessed with extraterrestrials... 😁
Money really does change people... that's probably why being broke makes us the best kind of people.😎
Man, thirteen images! Now there are only ten left.😁
Taylor Campbell4 said:In my book, hanging out with a friend in person beats talking through a screen a hundred times over. 🙂
I agree—if it bothers her that much, and since I don't feel the need to constantly bring it up anyway, I wouldn't force the conversation just to satisfy some obsessive loop. I've dealt with similar situations myself, though usually regarding different topics.
Some people I considered "friends" eventually ghosted me—just stopped reaching out—simply because we didn't see eye to eye. One guy actually had the decency to tell me straight up that he couldn't be friends with someone who held such opposing views; honestly, I respect that way more than those who just disappear without a word. 🙂 D
But hey, it's not for everyone... Some people can handle differing perspectives—even diametrically opposed ones—and I still stay in touch with them. We might hang out whenever we're in the same part of the country, even if we live on opposite coasts of America.
And about that whole paranoid thing—if a friend can't even handle you never mentioning it, then forget it. If she can handle me talking about it frequently, that's a completely different story.
briskgull27 said:The thing is, in my experience, once we drop that specific subject, there's nothing left to talk about.🤣 😁
Taylor Campbell4;7236122 said:Seeing a friend in person is a hundred times better than just hanging out online—that’s my take. 🙂
Obviously, an in-person connection beats digital interaction every single time... but what I was getting at before was just nonsense, pure fluff, whatever you want to call it. It seems to me, utterly that she just wanted to chat about some trivial little things today. You know how those Saturday nights go, and if you two end up talking until you're exhausted about your deep, soulful connections—how far she's willing to dive into those depths with you—then maybe we can get back to having some actual, vivid conversations again...
briskbison27;7236410 said:Taylor Campbell4 said:In my book, hanging out with a friend in person beats talking through a screen a hundred times over. 🙂
I agree—if it bothers her that much, and since I don't feel the need to constantly bring it up anyway, I wouldn't force the conversation just to satisfy some obsessive loop. I've dealt with similar situations myself, though usually regarding different topics.
Some people I considered "friends" eventually ghosted me—just stopped reaching out—simply because we didn't see eye to eye. One guy actually had the decency to tell me straight up that he couldn't be friends with someone who held such opposing views; honestly, I respect that way more than those who just disappear without a word. 🙂 D
But hey, it's not for everyone... Some people can handle differing perspectives—even diametrically opposed ones—and I still stay in touch with them. We might hang out whenever we're in the same part of the country, even if we live on opposite coasts of America.
And about that whole paranoid thing—if a friend can't even handle you never mentioning it, then forget it. If she can handle me talking about it frequently, that's a completely different story.
Spot on.-- I can spend all day getting my life together, everything all polished and perfect, and I've been doing this my whole life, but if she only sees me once a month, she just can't handle listening to it all, you know?😵 😵 🙂
She wouldn't even go swimming if she had the choice! Honestly, life is just a rough ride sometimes, and honestly, that's exactly how I like it!
Taylor Campbell4 said:It’s the same story whenever a conflict or issue arises in a relationship—it is never just one person's fault. Not ever. Responsibility is always shared between both parties.
There really needs to be more tolerance and a willingness to compromise from both sides!
briskgull27;7236449 said:briskbison27 said:Spot on. I spend my whole life getting everything ready—the perfect outfit, the mood, the whole nine yards—only for her to show up once a month and completely kill the vibe. It’s just constant chaos.😵 😵 🙂
Then you can just cut her loose. Someone who shows up once a month is too much of a headache to actually be considered a real friend. I have plenty of people like that in my life, but I can only tolerate them once or twice a month, and even then, only if they bring along some well-behaved kids for mine to play with. A true, one-of-a-kind friend is someone who shows up on their own terms, whether we're laughing our heads off or I'm crying on her shoulder. This one you're talking about? She isn't worth the effort.
briskgull27 said:Do you really think it’s always a perfect 50:50 split? 😵 😵 😵
briskgull27 said:I really am quite sensitive.
It feels like once you receive a diagnosis, you somehow lose the right to be sensitive—as if people start assuming you’re just making it all up.
While "normal" people are allowed to be sensitive, or even highly emotional, because their reactions are seen as standard, mine are suddenly labeled as abnormal.
