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"A true friend is one who doesn't leave you when things go south..."
That’s what they taught me growing up. Whenever I found myself in a jam—and believe me, I could find trouble if I tried—people would show up. Once, maybe twice... then they’d vanish. By the third or fourth time, they were gone. I suppose people don't really want to be tethered to someone who constantly attracts chaos. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be that person either. But still, those people left right when I needed them most... it isn't all black and white, mind you... no sweeping generalizations here... they just left, and once they were gone, they stayed gone.
On second thought, I think this other saying hits much closer to home:
"A true friend is one who gets stuck in the trenches right alongside you..."
For months, I was her rock. There were times she nearly drove me to the brink of insanity, too. I actually posted about it once or twice on Reddit. But then, all that effort finally paid off. One Saturday night, I ended up wrecking my car, and she was right there by my side. I had to tell my parents, and God, it was the first time in my life I felt completely out of control. I just broke down; I was sobbing, totally losing it in that moment. She just held me. She stayed through the whole thing, even when I had to face my parents and admit I'd totaled the car. In that moment, I knew none of my devotion had been in vain. I knew I could count on her. We've had plenty of happy moments since then, too... so the investment wasn't wasted after all.
Usually, people come to places like this just to vent about their struggles. I've done that myself a few times. But today, I’m writing because I want to say that every relationship has its bright spots. I'm not living in fear anymore, wondering how my relationship will end or if it will last. You have to cherish every single moment and every experience. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, it isn't a tragedy. As long as we learn something from it, we walk away a little richer in life experience.
Best to you all.
Walter Brooks3
👍
That’s what they taught me growing up. Whenever I found myself in a jam—and believe me, I could find trouble if I tried—people would show up. Once, maybe twice... then they’d vanish. By the third or fourth time, they were gone. I suppose people don't really want to be tethered to someone who constantly attracts chaos. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be that person either. But still, those people left right when I needed them most... it isn't all black and white, mind you... no sweeping generalizations here... they just left, and once they were gone, they stayed gone.
On second thought, I think this other saying hits much closer to home:
"A true friend is one who gets stuck in the trenches right alongside you..."
For months, I was her rock. There were times she nearly drove me to the brink of insanity, too. I actually posted about it once or twice on Reddit. But then, all that effort finally paid off. One Saturday night, I ended up wrecking my car, and she was right there by my side. I had to tell my parents, and God, it was the first time in my life I felt completely out of control. I just broke down; I was sobbing, totally losing it in that moment. She just held me. She stayed through the whole thing, even when I had to face my parents and admit I'd totaled the car. In that moment, I knew none of my devotion had been in vain. I knew I could count on her. We've had plenty of happy moments since then, too... so the investment wasn't wasted after all.
Usually, people come to places like this just to vent about their struggles. I've done that myself a few times. But today, I’m writing because I want to say that every relationship has its bright spots. I'm not living in fear anymore, wondering how my relationship will end or if it will last. You have to cherish every single moment and every experience. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, it isn't a tragedy. As long as we learn something from it, we walk away a little richer in life experience.
Best to you all.
Walter Brooks3
👍