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Anonymous VeteranOP

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#1 · Jul 19, 2003

Giving up.

Is it time to throw in the towel when you feel like you’ve exhausted every single option left on the table?
When you’re completely running on empty?
What happens when the motivation is gone, the drive has vanished, and you’re staring down the barrel of your 1,000th failed attempt...

How do you actually decide whether to push through or just walk away?

Is there any point in fighting a battle you already know is lost?
Why bother?

Or is it better to just let it all go...

How do you find that line—that exact moment where you need to stop, drop everything, and just surrender to the flow?

And if we do give up, what comes next...?🙂 🙂 😕

Henry Barrett11 Member

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#2 · Jul 19, 2003

Someone phrased it like this:

God, give me the willpower to stick with the things I can actually change, the strength to stop stressing over the stuff I can't, and the damn wisdom to tell the difference between the two...

I’d love to figure that out myself...
Since there isn't a better way, I just follow my gut.

Ryan Wilson2 Regular

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#3 · Jul 19, 2003

There is certainly nothing wrong with following one's intuition, particularly if it has served you well in the past.

However, I am of the opinion that it is often wiser to simply cut your losses and redirect your focus elsewhere. There are far more profound mysteries in this world truly worthy of our mental energy.

Jack Harris3 Regular

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#4 · Jul 19, 2003

Are we talking about the struggle of life in general, or just one specific battle you're facing right now?

hiddenpuma75 Regular

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#5 · Jul 19, 2003

Solaris said:Giving up.

1) Is it time to throw in the towel when we feel like we’ve exhausted every possible avenue?
Is there any point in fighting a battle you already know is lost?
Why bother?

2) How do you actually recognize that line—that moment where you need to stop, let go, and just surrender to the flow?

3) And what happens after we give up? What comes next?.....?🙂 🙂 😕

1) I think the real question isn't whether one *should* give up, but rather WHO wants to give up,
and what exactly are they walking away from—is it the goal that was set for them in the first place?

My question is this: WHO set that goal?

2) Regarding that approach—viewing everything as part of a larger process—that's something we really should have embraced from the very beginning.
IN OTHER WORDS, WE SHOULD WORK WITH THE DRIVE OF AN AMBITIOUS PROFESSIONAL, while remaining completely indifferent to the final result of our efforts—since that outcome is ultimately out of our hands and belongs to whoever set the target.

3) Once we finally let go, we are left with reality as it truly is. And only then will what we actually need find its way to us.

THE BIGGEST ISSUE FOR 99.999% of people is their inability to accept reality. They refuse to embrace what is right in front of them in the here and now; instead, they are constantly chasing
what might happen tomorrow, things that don't exist yet but could, or simply what they wish were true (even when it clearly isn't).

Larry Fox5 Regular

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#6 · Jul 19, 2003

Solaris said:Giving up.
Do you just throw in the towel when you feel like every single option has been exhausted?
When you're completely drained--just empty?
When there's zero motivation left, after a thousand failed attempts...
How do you actually decide whether to quit or keep pushing?
Is it even worth fighting a battle you already know is lost?
Why bother?
Or should you just let everything go.....
How do you find that line where you have to stop, drop everything, and just surrender?
And if we do give up, what happens next.....?🙂 🙂 😕

You never, ever give up.
"Only a true Quincy fights for a cause that's already lost."
If you're tapped out, take a breather—get your head right—and then get back in for the final showdown.
"What doesn't kill us makes us stronger."

..... But if you do end up quitting....

then all that's left is resignation, emptiness, and—let's be real—despair. The only way you don't get swallowed by that void is if you know you gave it everything... otherwise, the doubt starts creeping in..... wondering if you actually did enough.....

Bradley Fisher20 Active Member

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#7 · Jul 19, 2003

Just breathe. Chill out. Put this whole thing on ice for a bit, so when you finally write back, we can actually tell if you’re just totally burnt out or if you're being objective...

Anyway, this ties right back into that whole thing about how you know, 🙂.

Quincy:

When there's zero motivation left, zero drive, after like a thousand failed attempts...

maybe you're just charging straight at the wall instead of looking for the door? step back from the edge a little...

Quincy:

Is it even worth fighting a battle that's already been lost?

Yeah, if you find it entertaining. If you actually care about the grind itself, rather than just the end result.

Roger Hall15 Active Member

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#8 · Jul 19, 2003

But what if you’re just plain wrong? What if you haven't actually exhausted every single avenue yet—what if instead of a thousand failed attempts, there were only 999? How can you be so certain the battle is already lost?
Maybe you've lost your drive, your passion, or your energy. Fine. Maybe you're just burnt out.

The boundary is really just that tiny flicker of hope, or maybe just a stubborn desire that something might actually happen. If you aren't absolutely certain—and let's face it, you can never be truly certain—that the flame has been extinguished, then you're still right on the edge. Do you even realize what that little spark is capable of doing down the road?

Giving up can lead to a sense of relief, I suppose. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, just making the decision to quit can feel like a weight being lifted.

But then, what happens to that flame? 😱

James Cruz6 Member

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#9 · Jul 19, 2003

I have this growing feeling that all the experiences we gather throughout our lives eventually bloom into a sort of wisdom, allowing us to discern that delicate moment when it is time to let go and when it is time to dig in our heels, even when the odds seem completely stacked against us.

Deciding whether to persevere or walk away really boils down to a deep internal assessment of whether the goal we are chasing, or perhaps the virtue we are defending, is truly worth the sheer amount of energy and persistence we are pouring into it...

More often than not, life itself and the circumstances we find ourselves in will step in to either clarify that judgment for us or make it intentionally difficult, simply because there is a lesson to be learned—if nothing else, we learn how to weigh a situation properly, even if we stumble at first by being too stubborn when we should quit, or too quick to give up when we should have stayed the course...
and as someone once quite brilliantly put it—if I may paraphrase: the forces of stagnation in this modern age are just far too heavy and constantly pulling us downward...it takes constant, purposeful movement to stay above them...so you should do the same...just keep moving, and the motivation for the right cause will find its way to you exactly when it needs to.🙂

Rachel Bishop Active Member

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#10 · Jul 19, 2003

Solaris said:Giving up.

Is it time to walk away once every option has been exhausted?
When all strength is spent?
Once motivation and desire vanish after a thousand failed attempts...

How does one decide whether to persist or let go?

Is there any point in fighting a battle already lost?
Why bother?

Or should everything just be released...

How do you recognize the limit where you must stop, leave it all behind, and simply surrender?

If we give up, what comes next...?🙂 🙂 😕

Well... after a thousand failures... hitting a brick wall... perhaps it is time to quit... and look for a door... or even just a window.😉

slyviper47 Active Member

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#11 · Jul 19, 2003

Giving up on banging your head against a wall usually starts getting easier as you get older.
At least, that’s how it feels to me. 🙂

Doesn't apply to trying new things, though. I've still got plenty of curiosity left in the tank! 😁

Rachel Bishop Active Member

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#12 · Jul 20, 2003

Simone said:Giving up on banging your head against a wall starts with getting older.
At least, that’s my experience. 🙂

It doesn't apply to seeking out new experiences. Curiosity hasn't left me yet. 😁

It isn't about hitting a wall... it's about trying to push through one. No one is immune to that, regardless of age.
We conjure up certain "solutions" and pursue them relentlessly until we fail, eventually realizing we need a different path entirely. That cycle is the root of most human misery—from heartbreak and failed marriages to business collapses and general life struggles. 😉

slyviper47 Active Member

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#13 · Jul 20, 2003

Rachel Bishop said:It’s not about banging your head against a wall... it’s about trying to force your way through one. And honestly? Nobody is immune to that, no matter how old they get.
Picture this: we dream up these "fixes," hammer away at them fruitlessly, until we finally realize we need a totally different approach. That right there? That’s the root of almost everything—from heartbreak and messy breakups to those dark marriage issues, business failures, and just general life chaos. 😉

Spot on.
That’s exactly my take. I actually ran into something recently where forcing my way through that "wall" just wasn't even an option, no matter how hard I tried.

Something happened deep down that just doesn't square with reality. There aren't any solutions out there, period. None exist.

The truth is, even if we weren't getting older, a solution wouldn't exist either. But hey, people love to lie to themselves, don't they?
That’s the kicker. Experience just helps you see the illusion for what it is... that "solution" isn't happening, at least not in this lifetime. 😛

Jack Harris3 Regular

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#14 · Jul 20, 2003

Sounds like you’ve fallen head over heels... 😁

slyviper47 Active Member

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#15 · Jul 20, 2003

Jack Harris3 said:Sounds like you've fallen head over heels. 😁

And why on earth would you think it’s unsolvable at my age? 😕 🙂

Jack Harris3 Regular

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#16 · Jul 20, 2003

And who says I actually feel that way? 😁
There’s always some kind of workaround out there...
Even if it's the wrong one. 🙂

Brandon Morris18 Newcomer

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#17 · Jul 21, 2003

Solaris said:Giving up.

Is it time to throw in the towel when you feel like you've exhausted every single option?
When you're completely running on empty?

That’s kind of like asking if you should pull over to the shoulder or just keep driving once your tank hits zero.

Like you even have a choice. 🙂

Roger Hall15 Active Member

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#18 · Jul 21, 2003

Solaris? 👋

Robin Rodriguez5 Active Member

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#19 · Jul 22, 2003

As a wise American once said: "Giving up is the only way to lose."
When even the theoretical chance of winning vanishes, that’s usually when the drive to keep fighting hits its peak (I can't quite place who said it, maybe I'm just pulling it from 😉 )

Personally, I've never lacked the stamina or grit for a fight; what I lack is the wisdom to know which battles are actually worth the effort. Because sometimes, after you finally cross the finish line, you look back at the wreckage of the path you took and realize it wasn't worth the cost. There are moments where the journey itself is more valuable than the prize, but there are plenty of others where you realize you just wasted precious time and energy that could have been spent elsewhere. Either way, you walk away with experience, and eventually, experience turns into wisdom. 🙂

brightcobra22 Newcomer

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#20 · Jul 23, 2003

Experience meets wisdom? 🙂
Man, I definitely need to pick up that trick myself.

I really dig what you wrote here.....................

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