A few quick questions

Hey everyone! So, as you can probably tell, I’m pretty new here (and no, don’t let my username fool you, I’m actually a guy 🙂). I’ve got a few questions and I was hoping if there are any experts in the group, you could give me some straight answers—I’m definitely a novice when it comes to this stuff.

Question #1: Pain in the perineum area.

Sometimes after having sex with my girlfriend, I get this pain right between my anus and my testicles (I think I read somewhere that it has a specific name, but I can't remember). It doesn't happen every time—maybe once in every ten times or so—and the pain isn't intense; it usually clears up within about half an hour. I'm just wondering if this is something dangerous or if I should be worried.

Question #2: My girlfriend is on birth control pills, and every time we have sex, my fluids seem to "leak out" of her afterward. Again, I'm asking: is this normal? Shouldn't everything stay inside?🙂 Honestly, using a condom would be way easier because she feels bad that things keep "leaking" for an hour or two afterward. So, is this a standard thing, or is something wrong with her (or maybe me... leading into question #3)

Question #3: Following up on question #2 regarding whether something is wrong with me. Basically, when I ejaculate, it doesn't really "shoot" out; it just kind of flows out. Is that considered a problem, or is that totally normal?

Thanks in advance for any help. I really hope I don't get roasted too hard here; I'm genuinely concerned about these three things and I really don't know what I'm doing.

Thanks again, and sorry for the long vent.

I cannot say for certain regarding the first two points, but this notion of avoiding ejaculation isn't some sort of pathological issue. Of course, if your objective is to achieve a more powerful release, you really ought to be training the specific muscle groups responsible for that function. I find myself somewhat skeptical, however, that such a regimen would be easily tolerated by you. 😁