I can't stop peeing!

I've dealt with bladder infections a few times before, and after taking some Cystex, things cleared right up—so medically speaking, I think I'm in the clear. But honestly? My bladder is just acting totally unpredictable lately, and I could really use some advice from anyone who's been through something similar! 😕

I try my best to stay hydrated, so obviously I'm hitting the restroom way more than everyone else. But get this: when I'm out grabbing drinks with my girlfriends, we all drink about the same amount, yet I’m running to the bathroom literally five times as often! By the second round of beers, I’m basically living in the stall while they pass me another drink through the door 😁

Or here's another thing. I won't touch any liquids for at least an hour before bed, and I try everything to stay relaxed in the evening. I go right before putting on my pajamas. Then I go one more time right as I'm drifting off, just hoping it keeps me asleep. Nope! It still wakes me up mid-night. And then in the morning, I can barely make it to the bathroom, and sometimes even 😠 jolts me awake an hour before my alarm goes off.

Some people have suggested "bladder training." Does that actually work? Or does anyone know any other tricks or techniques? Any advice or experiences you can share? Help!

It’s getting so frustrating—I can’t even finish half a bottle of water on a long road trip without feeling like I'll be forcing our driver to pull over onto the shoulder every thirty minutes... 🙄

Anyone else? 😲

Seriously, please tell me I'm not the only one dealing with this... 😢

I dealt with similar issues back in the day... you're stuck in a vicious cycle right now 🙂 🙂 🙂 mental health is a nasty business!!! And the more you obsess over it, the more you're going to feel the urge to go 🙂 I had this happen during road trips once... when I traveled with my family, my dad absolutely hated stopping along the way, so my mom would always pressure me—"just pee before we leave," you know how he is—and it WOULD always happen that I'd have to go while we were driving because I was constantly worrying about whether I could hold it... but seriously, first rule: rule out any kidney issues, okay? If you're chugging massive amounts of water, obviously you'll be peeing, but the fact that it's waking you up in the middle of the night is weird.... that shouldn't normally be happening.

It’s not like I’m dealing with a massive issue or anything, but I definitely feel like I’m running to the bathroom way more often than everyone else.🤣 I don't even drink that much water—it's mostly just constant coffee. And as far as I know, caffeine is a diuretic.🤷

I’m dealing with a very similar situation myself, though I can really only offer my empathy since I don't have any profound solutions to suggest at this stage.
If I only have to get up once during the night, I honestly consider that a huge win. During the day, things are mostly normal, though yesterday I actually thought twice about going out for a walk because of how I was feeling. I don't think it's an infection, especially since I just had a urinalysis done a few days ago to check on some sharp pains I was having in my lower left abdomen.
Historically, I've always had a pretty resilient bladder, so I never felt the need to rush to the restroom constantly, even when I was drinking a lot of fluids.
During the daytime, it fluctuates a bit—sometimes it's perfectly fine, and other times I feel like I don't even need to leave my bedroom.

Ugh, so basically just shut up and deal with it, right? That’s the only way. 😢
It’s not like it’s ruining my entire life or anything, I’ve just gotten used to it. But honestly, during the night, I barely even wake up when I have to run to the bathroom. I can talk to my roommate or my mom while it's happening, but once morning hits, I don't remember a thing... 😁

Lately, though, my girlfriends have been totally on my case! They're like, "Girl, what is wrong with you? This isn't normal!" They kept telling me I need to see a doctor, try bladder training, or check if something is actually broken. They really spooked me, 🤷

Plus, there’s this other annoying issue. If I really have to pee, I can't enjoy sex at all because I feel like I'm going to leak mid-act... which means I always have to go to the bathroom beforehand. But if I accidentally grab a coffee or some tea first? It means we have to stop everything for a second so I can dash to the restroom, then get back to it. Trust me, it gets exhausting... 😢 😢

Mechanical friction during sex can actually trigger cystitis even without any bacterial contamination, bringing on all those same annoying symptoms you’d usually expect...

Kevin Garcia12 said:Mechanical friction during sex can actually trigger cystitis even without any bacterial contamination, bringing on all those same annoying symptoms you’d usually expect...

Hmm, well, that’s just how I’ve been since forever...
Everywhere you read online, they say cystitis gets worse—it starts stinging, then hurts, and eventually turns into a total nightmare with blood or kidney pain—but I’ve checked everything down there several times in my life and my tests always come back perfectly fine!

Maybe you’re just one of those women who squirts during sex?
Try going "all the way" once—just make sure you prep a waterproof pad first—without running to the bathroom halfway through. If you can actually manage to relax properly, maybe you'll worry less about the mess and discover a bit more pleasure.
And regarding the everyday stuff, have you ever tried Kegel exercises?

Nope, first time I'm hearing about that! Honestly, I'm running around like crazy right now so I don't have a second to Google it—I'll check later—but could you give me the quick rundown on what it actually is?

Squirting—or female ejaculation—is usually triggered by stimulating the G-spot.
A lot of people think it’s just peeing since it comes out through the urethra, but that's not really it. That fluid is clear, not yellow, and actually has a slightly sweet taste because it's loaded with sugar...

The fluid is actually produced by Skenov glands (paraurethral glands) located right where the G-spot is. They sit between the vagina and the urethra, just below the bladder. Because they're so close to the bladder, I guess it makes sense why women often feel like they have to pee when their G-spot is being stimulated.

Oh, thanks for explaining, but that’s not quite what I meant... 🤦

I was actually talking about Kegel exercises... 😬

Long story short:

Kegel exercises. They’re basically meant to strengthen those bladder muscles so you can actually control when you go. The whole point is to stop accidental leaks and beef up a weak pelvic floor. I guess that's the idea, anyway.

Maybe give me a bit more detail. Check out http://www.healthcenter.com. It’s probably worth a look, I guess.:

Stop-and-go.

Try this: when you're peeing, try stopping and starting the flow about four or five times. Just, I guess, make sure you're actually using your pelvic floor muscles for this beginner stuff. Don't go overdoing it by tensing up your hips or your lower abs. That probably won't help much.

2. Repetition

Just squeeze and release those pelvic floor muscles. Start with maybe ten reps, four times a day, then slowly work your way up to fifty reps, four times a day. I guess you could even do this while watching TV or reading a book. It’s pretty easy to sneak in.

3. Holding back

Squeeze those pelvic floor muscles and hold them while you count to five. Then let go. Do that ten times. Maybe try holding it longer as you get used to it.

4. Lift

This exercise takes some serious focus, but man, the results are worth it. Think of your vaginal canal like a stack of rings. The whole point here is to squeeze them one by one, starting from the bottom and working your way up—sort of like riding an elevator from the lobby to the penthouse. Start slow. Squeeze the very bottom part, hold it for a second, then move up to the next ring, and the next, until you hit the top. Hold that final squeeze. Once you’re there, reverse it. Release each section one at a time, moving from top to bottom, letting everything relax after each step. When you're done, just let the whole pelvic floor area go completely limp. It works. I guess.

5. Val

Some of your pelvic floor muscles basically look like a stretched-out number 8—more like an 8 with three loops instead of two, I guess. The first loop wraps around the urethra, the second goes around the vagina, and the third circles the anus. For this Kegel exercise, you just squeeze those muscles from the first loop all the way to the last, then release them one by one. Simple enough, maybe.

6. Different body positions

Once you actually get the hang of those Kegel exercises, don't just stick to one position. It gets boring. I guess you should try switching it up—maybe try doing them while lying down, sitting, squatting, cross-legged, or even on all fours. Just experiment, I suppose.

Did anything actually work?

I’m dealing with almost the exact same thing. I’ve been forcing myself to drink more fluids over the last week, but even before that, I was struggling with urinary retention. It really started after an ER visit for some intense pain in my right kidney area. Turns out it was a bladder infection, so they put me on a course of antibiotics.

Ever since then, it feels like my bladder just doesn't have its full capacity anymore. On top of that, I’ve had this dull kidney ache for a few days now—not sharp, just a nagging discomfort, so I'm not entirely sure what's going on. When I'm in the bathroom, I often find myself having to physically press on my lower abdomen just to get things moving. Without that pressure, it feels like nothing would happen at all.