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So, I decided to weigh in on Lone Heart. Because, honestly, I’m one of them. 😛
I really miss having someone by my side—specifically a boyfriend. I want to feel some romance again, kisses, intimacy... or if nothing else, just some casual flirting. There’s this guy I’m interested in; he’s three years older than me and we go to the same school. I want him. Or at least, I want to talk to him. I watch him every single day, but I can never find the nerve to actually approach him. I’m a coward, and I'm constantly worried he'll reject me or laugh in my face. It's not like I'm unattractive; I know I'm not. I think I'd have a shot with him, maybe even just for coffee, but my nature is to shrink away when things like this come up. How do I "break free" from this? I really need someone.
And I get the feeling guys never approach me. Which is true. But like I said, I'm not unattractive, so I don't see why. I'm not the type of girl who just throws herself at guys either—in fact, I can't stand girls like that. I'm an old-school romantic who expects the guy to make the first move. I know I should probably change and loosen up a bit.

Help me out here😢

Patrick Anderson3 said:So, I decided to weigh in on Lone Heart. Because, honestly, I’m one of them. 😛
I really miss having someone by my side—specifically a boyfriend. I want to feel some romance again, kisses, intimacy... or if nothing else, just some casual flirting. There’s this guy I’m interested in; he’s three years older than me and we go to the same school. I want him. Or at least, I want to talk to him. I watch him every single day, but I can never find the nerve to actually approach him. I’m a coward, and I'm constantly worried he'll reject me or laugh in my face. It's not like I'm unattractive; I know I'm not. I think I'd have a shot with him, maybe even just for coffee, but my nature is to shrink away when things like this come up. How do I "break free" from this? I really need someone.
And I get the feeling guys never approach me. Which is true. But like I said, I'm not unattractive, so I don't see why. I'm not the type of girl who just throws herself at guys either—in fact, I can't stand girls like that. I'm an old-school romantic who expects the guy to make the first move. I know I should probably change and loosen up a bit.

Today might just be your day, sweetie. You have to take that leap without letting fear or shame hold you back. I don't mean you should throw away your dignity, but you have to realize that if you want something, you have to go after it and reach for it.

Patrick Anderson3 said:Help me out here😢

You actually said it yourself: I really need to change things up and loosen up a bit when it comes to that stuff.

Look, if you don't feel like you have the energy to go out and approach someone, just focus on being approachable and easygoing. If you project that vibe, the guys will start coming to you instead. 🙂

Just dive right in and grab him.
I actually did exactly that with my current partner—I cornered him against the wall and just went for it. He didn't really have much of a choice in the matter, poor guy! 😁
Now he’s officially stuck with me, so I guess he’ll just have to deal with it. 😬

Patrick Anderson3 said:So, I decided to weigh in on Lone Heart. Because, honestly, I’m one of them. 😛
I really miss having someone by my side—specifically a boyfriend. I want to feel some romance again, kisses, intimacy... or if nothing else, just some casual flirting. There’s this guy I’m interested in; he’s three years older than me and we go to the same school. I want him. Or at least, I want to talk to him. I watch him every single day, but I can never find the nerve to actually approach him. I’m a coward, and I'm constantly worried he'll reject me or laugh in my face. It's not like I'm unattractive; I know I'm not. I think I'd have a shot with him, maybe even just for coffee, but my nature is to shrink away when things like this come up. How do I "break free" from this? I really need someone.
And I get the feeling guys never approach me. Which is true. But like I said, I'm not unattractive, so I don't see why. I'm not the type of girl who just throws herself at guys either—in fact, I can't stand girls like that. I'm an old-school romantic who expects the guy to make the first move. I know I should probably change and loosen up a bit.

Just please, don't go looking desperate for attention 😘 ...that's how inexperienced girls tend to act.
You don't need to aggressively "throw yourself" at guys—unless you want everyone to start labeling you as the girl who's easy
and I truly hope you aren't that kind of person 😕
Just act natural.
Don't be shy, but for heaven's sake, don't be shameless either. 😁

Terry Clark8 said:Just please, don't go looking desperate for attention 😘 ...that's how inexperienced girls tend to act.
You don't need to aggressively "throw yourself" at guys—unless you want everyone to start labeling you as the girl who's easy
and I truly hope you aren't that kind of person 😕
Just act natural.
Don't be shy, but for heaven's sake, don't be shameless either. 😁

I'm not like that. 👍 I just don't know how to approach this guy at high school.

...to's how unspeakable put it:

Kimberly Gomez28 said:You actually said it yourself: I really need to change things up and loosen up a bit when it comes to that stuff.

Look, if you don't feel like you have the energy to go out and approach someone, just focus on being approachable and easygoing. If you project that vibe, the guys will start coming to you instead. 🙂

Just be friendly and easygoing with his entire crew. Specifically—him—give him a smile here and there, or throw him a suggestive look (...just try not to stare him down, okay? 😲 )
That should give him enough of an opening to approach you 😉 ...assuming he's interested.