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fadedbear92 said:And I’ll tell you the same thing—you have to go through psychotherapy and do the work. There really isn't any other way. How else would you "try" differently? I mean, you can't just sit there repeating "I'm not afraid of people" to yourself forever and expect it to vanish; you have to actually dig up the root cause of that fear and deal with it—which is a joint effort between you and your therapist.
Look, I get what you're saying, but I think I already know exactly where my fear comes from. It was my father. Honestly, it’s hard to even put into words—it was that same kind of bone-deep, paralyzing terror you'd imagine someone feeling during the darkest days of World War II. But knowing the cause doesn't change the reality; just because I know why I'm terrified doesn't mean the fear has suddenly decided to leave me alone.