What were your biggest pregnancy surprises and pet peeves?

electricpilot4, just imagine all these comments—plus the fact that you can't even have kids without IVF! 🙄

I'm telling you though, you'll probably be back on this thread soon enough. Once you're visibly pregnant in a week or so, everyone will jump back in to give unsolicited advice, comment on how you look or how big your belly is, and start sharing their own birth horror stories—not to mention the people who act shocked if you don't want to know the gender or if you keep your baby's name private!

Man, for some reason, pregnancy just becomes public property!

coastalowl212 said:electricpilot4, just imagine all these comments—plus the fact that you can't even have kids without IVF! 🙄

I'm telling you though, you'll probably be back on this thread soon enough. Once you're visibly pregnant in a week or so, everyone will jump back in to give unsolicited advice, comment on how you look or how big your belly is, and start sharing their own birth horror stories—not to mention the people who act shocked if you don't want to know the gender or if you keep your baby's name private!

Man, for some reason, pregnancy just becomes public property!

Same goes for weddings or pretty much anything else.
There's always gonna be people sticking their noses where they don't belong. Honestly, if you can, just ignore them and their comments entirely.

Honestly, I’m just getting so incredibly frustrated by how limited my mobility feels right now, plus this heat is absolutely brutal,
on top of everything else, it’s not usually an issue to hop in the shower, but lately,
it’s just been so tough,
and part of me wants to get this baby out as soon as possible just so I can move freely again, but then there's this fear of labor, so I end up not wanting to go through with it anytime soon either...

Anthony Watson35 said:Right this second:
The phone rings—good afternoon, this is so-and-so from [redacted] Corp, we’re calling to let you know you've won a free gift bundle featuring a magnetic bracelet that helps with... ughhhhhh... (wasn't really listening) and some "French women's perfume" (absolute riiiiiiiip 🤣 🤣 🤣); everything is totally free, delivered right to your door, all you gotta do is cover the shipping fee of $31.
🤦
Alright, starting a contest here—anyone want to guess how I responded? ☕
Seriously though, are there actually people out there where this kind of scam works?! 🤷

😂😂 my husband's friend actually replied, "Awesome, but don't bother mailing it, I'll just come pick up the perfume myself, distance isn't an issue," and they just hung up on him...😂😂😂

Honestly, I’m just kicking myself because I feel so incredibly naive. I try so hard to be fair and accommodate everyone, but I end up just catering to a bunch of ungrateful, spoiled brats😠😠
It’s infuriating because I can never seem to find the backbone to actually confront them and tell them exactly where they stand😠
I’ll spend all this time mentally rehearsing what I want to say, getting everything perfectly lined up in my head, but the second I’m standing right in front of them, I just freeze up and can't get a single word out🤷
I am seriously at my breaking point with this whole situation. My husband is barely even around because he’s working himself to death at some other job just to make sure we have enough cushion to quit, and he has to grind through it until the end of summer (it sounds silly, but when we first jumped into this business, we had no clue if the revenue would actually let him walk away from his old gig). Meanwhile, my clueless servers are basically doing whatever the hell they want because I’m too much of a pushover to call them out. So then I’m stuck waiting for my husband to get home so he can deal with them, but sometimes things need to be handled right now, not three hours later
Like, the other day one of my waiters asks me if he can head out early because his wife drove all the way from out of town to see him and he hasn't seen her in days. I desperately wanted to tell him "no," mostly because I was thinking how I wish my own husband could just catch the last flight home to be with me, but he's got a boss who would absolutely lose his mind if he even dared to ask for an early exit🙄
I know deep down that I'm the one responsible for this mess, and I know nobody is going to swoop in and fix it for me—it has to come from within😢

My morning’s been a total shitshow—sorry for the language—but what’s really getting under my skin is this whole Bambie’s Mom Syndrome thing. MAGA will know exactly what I’m talking about, and for everyone else... well, look it up if you need to.

Jonathan Grant2 said:Honestly, I’m just kicking myself because I feel so incredibly naive. I try so hard to be fair and accommodate everyone, but I end up just catering to a bunch of ungrateful, spoiled brats😠😠
It’s infuriating because I can never seem to find the backbone to actually confront them and tell them exactly where they stand😠
I’ll spend all this time mentally rehearsing what I want to say, getting everything perfectly lined up in my head, but the second I’m standing right in front of them, I just freeze up and can't get a single word out🤷
I am seriously at my breaking point with this whole situation. My husband is barely even around because he’s working himself to death at some other job just to make sure we have enough cushion to quit, and he has to grind through it until the end of summer (it sounds silly, but when we first jumped into this business, we had no clue if the revenue would actually let him walk away from his old gig). Meanwhile, my clueless servers are basically doing whatever the hell they want because I’m too much of a pushover to call them out. So then I’m stuck waiting for my husband to get home so he can deal with them, but sometimes things need to be handled right now, not three hours later
Like, the other day one of my waiters asks me if he can head out early because his wife drove all the way from out of town to see him and he hasn't seen her in days. I desperately wanted to tell him "no," mostly because I was thinking how I wish my own husband could just catch the last flight home to be with me, but he's got a boss who would absolutely lose his mind if he even dared to ask for an early exit🙄
I know deep down that I'm the one responsible for this mess, and I know nobody is going to swoop in and fix it for me—it has to come from within😢

I totally get it. I'm dealing with something similar (though my mom keeps telling me I'd be a total powerhouse if I actually had some grit)☕. My boyfriend runs a company, and we work together setting up high-end gallery exhibits. We have a crew for the installations, and about a year ago, he hired a buddy from his old neighborhood. I told him straight up it was a bad move, but he wanted to help the guy out with some cash. Well, big mistake. This guy is incredibly laid back—which is just code for lazy. He doesn't listen, doesn't care, and treats everything like a joke. They’re supposed to be at an installation first thing in the morning, and this guy will sleep through his alarm three days in a row. Then he shows up an hour late, leaving my boyfriend stranded on the side of the road waiting in the van. We gave him a company phone with unlimited minutes to reach us, but then his charger "disappears" at home and he goes radio silent all weekend right when we need to coordinate Monday's schedule. He just gives my boyfriend the usual "man, I'll deal with it" excuses.🤣

The problem is, these guys don't know when to shut up, especially the "dear" ones. Work should be the priority, but he keeps leaning on me, asking if we should fire him. What am I supposed to say? On one hand, I feel for him because I know his finances are tight, but on the other hand, the business is suffering, and since we live off this, our lives are suffering too. A week ago, I told him I'm done participating in these discussions—especially during Sunday lunch when the whole family is gathered and they start picking on the guy.🙄 I told him to handle it himself; I can't do it. It would be the same if we had an employee at a corner grocery store.🤷

Anthony Watson35 said:My morning’s been a total shitshow—sorry for the language—but what’s really getting under my skin is this whole Bambie’s Mom Syndrome thing. MAGA will know exactly what I’m talking about, and for everyone else... well, look it up if you need to.

Tell me about it! 😛

I have to admit, the whole idea of having to sit around at the hospital just waiting for labor to progress—waiting for contractions to pick up or for dilation to happen—really gets under my skin. It’s a bit frustrating thinking that I won't be able to stay comfortable at home until things truly start moving; instead, I'll probably just be stuck there, idling away the hours in a hospital room.

Ran into an old neighbor today—haven't seen her in ages. She gives me this long, judging look and asks, "So, what's new with you?" I tell her there's plenty... and she just goes, "Oh, I see you've put on some weight... so, are you married yet?"

🤦

Do I seriously look like some prize-winning heifer to her? Is this what happens when you spend 40 years being swallowed up by life in a big city like Chicago?

Honestly, the comments about my body really get under my skin. People saying things like, "Oh, you’re just a strong woman, so you won't even show until month seven," or commenting on my build... it's exhausting. And don't even get me started on the constant scrutiny of my stomach. Is it too big? Too small? Is it round? They start guessing if it's a boy or a girl just because my skin isn't clearing up. Just back off, seriously.
And to the next person who asks what I'm going to do with my dog after the baby arrives: you can find my dog tied up on my doorstep the very next morning, complete with a little bow and all the accessories he needs.
What is your problem? Why do you care what I do with my dog when you clearly aren't offering to take him in yourself? :2up::2up:

My godmother really got on my nerves last night... It’s not my fault her marriage is hitting the rocks. And it's certainly not my fault her husband was all over me. She spent the whole evening in a foul mood because of it, then had the audacity to tell me I’m going to gain 20 pounds by the end of this pregnancy. Honestly, screw her and her 20 pounds. Even while pregnant, I weigh less than she does, and I look better after a month of barely leaving the couch than she does after hitting the gym every single day! :2up:
I'm pissed—but I just want to see how she handles it when she's stuck on bed rest for three months with nothing to do but go from the bed to the bathroom. Then we'll see if she gains 2 pounds or 10. :2up:

Jason Lee2 said:My godmother really got on my nerves last night... It’s not my fault her marriage is hitting the rocks. And it's certainly not my fault her husband was all over me. She spent the whole evening in a foul mood because of it, then had the audacity to tell me I’m going to gain 20 pounds by the end of this pregnancy. Honestly, screw her and her 20 pounds. Even while pregnant, I weigh less than she does, and I look better after a month of barely leaving the couch than she does after hitting the gym every single day! :2up:
I'm pissed—but I just want to see how she handles it when she's stuck on bed rest for three months with nothing to do but go from the bed to the bathroom. Then we'll see if she gains 2 pounds or 10. :2up:

Well, you definitely sound a bit cranky! 🙄

OT:
It really bugs me when a woman—especially one who's pregnant herself—can say something like that to someone else, particularly with all that talk about weight gain. 🙄

coastalowl212 said:Well, you definitely sound a bit cranky! 🙄

OT:
It really bugs me when a woman—especially one who's pregnant herself—can say something like that to someone else, particularly with all that talk about weight gain. 🙄

You have a point. 🙄

OT:
It irritates me when people decide to act all holier-than-thou in a thread meant for venting frustrations. 🙄

I am seriously losing my mind over this hair. My hair.
Look, normally I’m totally fine getting waxed every couple of months when I'm not pregnant. It's a reasonable schedule. But since I've been pregnant? Waxing is officially out of the question for me. I went for a session exactly 18 days ago, and honestly, I feel like I could go back right now...😠

dustysurfer68 said:I am seriously losing my mind over this hair. My hair.
Look, normally I’m totally fine getting waxed every couple of months when I'm not pregnant. It's a reasonable schedule. But since I've been pregnant? Waxing is officially out of the question for me. I went for a session exactly 18 days ago, and honestly, I feel like I could go back right now...😠

Just more proof that we’re all wired differently—even when it comes to this stuff.
Don't even try to lecture me 🤣—I haven't had a single stray hair since I found out I was pregnant. I shave my legs maybe once a week just to feel somewhat human. As for the bikini area? Barely touched. And my underarms? Haven't seen a razor in at least two weeks... 🤷
Changing gears: it's not just the hair, this heat outside is actually making me lose my mind!!! I'm dying here, and I don't know what to do because the humidity is absolutely wrecking my sinuses... 😢

Man, I just don't get it... 🤷
If there's some unhinged comment about weight gain and the options are:
a) saying that just lying around is the easiest way to pack on pounds (I mean, isn't that common sense at this point?) and
b) the idea that any sane person would actually *want* pregnancy complications;
how on earth does a comment about gaining weight turn into this?
What happened to reading comprehension? Did it just die out somewhere? 🤷

I might just throw my two cents in here... Honestly, I have my doubts about whether MAGA actually meant everything they wrote to their godmother, but when emotions run high, people tend to say things they don't really mean.

It’s the same for me—I wasn't exactly losing my mind at my mother-in-law this morning, but yesterday? I felt like I could have ripped her head off. So, yeah... sometimes your fingers move a lot faster than your actual thoughts.

Sean Long4 said:I might just throw my two cents in here... Honestly, I have my doubts about whether MAGA actually meant everything they wrote to their godmother, but when emotions run high, people tend to say things they don't really mean.

It’s the same for me—I wasn't exactly losing my mind at my mother-in-law this morning, but yesterday? I felt like I could have ripped her head off. So, yeah... sometimes your fingers move a lot faster than your actual thoughts.

Honestly? My gut tells me she was low-key wishing her every extra pound in the world 🤣 —and let’s be real, doing absolutely nothing is the fastest way to get there.😁
I wouldn't mind it myself; plus, it might stop them from leaving right after the baby comes.😛
Michelle, you better find me a reliable recipe for getting rid of these bugs before I go into labor... 🙂

Sean Long4 said:I might just throw my two cents in here... Honestly, I have my doubts about whether MAGA actually meant everything they wrote to their godmother, but when emotions run high, people tend to say things they don't really mean.

It’s the same for me—I wasn't exactly losing my mind at my mother-in-law this morning, but yesterday? I felt like I could have ripped her head off. So, yeah... sometimes your fingers move a lot faster than your actual thoughts.

I'm with you on that.
She wrote what she wrote, but whether she truly meant it—well, that's between her and God.

I'm pretty sensitive about this kind of stuff, so I definitely have a right to be annoyed by a comment like that.

coastalowl212, come on, it’s a forum after all... We're all entitled to our own perspectives. Even today, when the girls were giving me a hard time in line, I managed to make it through unscathed. What one person experiences one way, someone else will see entirely differently, and that's the whole
problem