swiftowl7 said:Personally, I find it hard to believe that in over 5,000 posts you haven't dropped a hint about what you do for a living somewhere, or maybe you shared that info in a private message and then someone just happened to mention it...
And regarding public figures, people generally know where they reside; if it’s a small town, it’s incredibly easy to track someone down, especially if they use their last name as their handle and happen to be a woman. 🙂
Plus, depending on the specific threads you hang out in, it might actually be pretty easy to guess your profession. 🙂
It doesn't give away everything, but sometimes it reveals quite a bit, though I suppose it's hard to say if anyone actually cares about that kind of nonsense.
Anyway, I think this serves as a perfect lesson for the first rule of sociology on Reddit for anyone with a public profile: never include any identifying personal details in your username unless you're looking to get found or exposed. 🙂
And what's yours? What "female user" are you talking about??? I honestly don't see the point in responding if you aren't even reading the post. Nobody here knows what I do for work—even though it's relevant—and nobody knows where I live. Not in my username, and not in my DMs either.
Jeremy Johnson18 said:The mods don't have that info. Honestly, I doubt the admins do either, since Reddit doesn't even ask you to input any personal details during sign-up. I'm telling you, most people just volunteer it themselves in a post or leave some kind of hint, and then stalkers use that to dig up everything they need.
I haven't mentioned where I live to anyone. But, I guess mods could probably track that down through reports or something. Does it actually go that far, or is there some other way... It’s just not right, because a site like this really needs to guarantee anonymity. Honestly, I think a ton of people would just stop posting if US data privacy laws weren't being respected here.
Quick question here—I can't seem to hit the ignore button on bluemason3 because it keeps telling me they're an admin. I don't see any specific admin badge anywhere, though... so I guess what I'm wondering is, is that a one-time thing where someone acts as an admin, or does it mean they're always an admin, or a moderator, or whatever else?
So, I couldn't make it into work yesterday. It all started last night—just these intense cramps and sharp pains, honestly felt like I was going into labor or something. My doctor had prescribed me some stuff for the spasms back when I had an attack a few months ago, so I took everything they gave me, but... yeah, didn't really see any point to it. I did try some elderberry and chamomile tea, which helped calm things down just a tiny bit, I guess. I barely ate anything all day, just a little bread and some yogurt. I'm back at work today and feeling a bit better, though I have no clue what actually triggered it, besides maybe just being stressed out. I've got some stuffed peppers left over from the day before for lunch, so I'm just hoping that doesn't make things worse. Luckily, I didn't run a fever or anything.
I know exactly where it’s hitting me—like, down to the millimeter. Honestly, I just can't face another colonoscopy. I barely survived the last irrigography, and that was only after three days of fasting, liters of Gatorade, and those brutal enemas... and even then, they couldn't get a clear view. I guess I just didn't "clean out" enough. I've also been reading some pretty scary stuff about how a colonoscopy can actually perforate the bowel—there was even a case where a woman passed away from sepsis in the hospital because they didn't catch the issue fast enough. So, besides the food—which, let's be real, I never know what's going to trigger me—I'm starting to think stress plays a huge role too.
So, I saw that the Pope had surgery, and they were mentioning diverticula—and now I'm reading in some tabloid that diverticula can actually turn into cancer. Since the tabloids are always blowing things out of proportion anyway, I tried doing a little digging on Google, but I couldn't find anything to back it up.🙄
wearyowl29 said:I’m one step ahead! I’ve got everything I need and I am absolutely loving the grind. Right now, I’m just perched up here on a hill, looking out over the state, breathing in that intoxicating scent of lavender while the forest stretches out behind me. It's pure bliss.
You could totally come work here! Seriously, I mean it. It’s such a vibe. I was just thinking about how much fun it would be to have you around the office. We definitely need more bright energy in the mix!
I’ve finally realized it—true happiness isn't some prize waiting for me out there in the world. It’s not something I can go out and grab from a store shelf or find sitting on a porch in Chicago. It’s actually inside me all along! It's an internal thing. Always has been, really. Just had to stop looking outward and start looking inward. What a relief! At the end of the day, I just love sinking into my lounge chair, watching the embers glow in the backyard grill, and feeling genuinely happy. It’s all about that carpe diem spirit for me!
There is just something absolutely magical about a night sky when you get far away from all those blinding city lights. You haven't truly lived until you've stood out in the middle of nowhere—maybe somewhere like the high desert in Nevada or up in the mountains of Montana—and looked up to see the Milky Way stretching out right above your head. It’s breathtaking! Honestly, it makes all our little daily stresses feel so tiny. I remember one time camping out near Big Sky, and I just sat there for hours, completely mesmerized by the sheer scale of it all. Pure magic!😉
I've pretty much got all that stuff right out in the field—and some of it's even spilling over toward the front of the house, I guess. It’s just not quite how I pictured it... I mean, there's no house out in the middle of nowhere to retreat to, and honestly, it's just leaving me feeling kind of stuck here. 🙂 neighbor. Honestly, I’d much rather just invite you over for a backyard BBQ instead of having you work for me—but hey, I guess we can't all be built the same, right?
ruggedhawk20 said:Just head out to some field near the woods—sit on the ground and vibe. Simple as that.
All you're chasing is pure materialism—you just want some little cabin out in the sticks near the woods. Sorry, but that's not happening for you.
I mean, you know... what I'm getting at, I guess.🙄 I wasn't really looking for advice or anything—I've just been spending a ton of time out in the meadows and the woods lately. There isn't much left, though... I guess you could say tourism is basically swallowing everything up at this point. But honestly, I don't really feel like being that preachy or telling anyone they should just sit down in the dirt and soak it all in. Of course I want to "own" a house out in the middle of nowhere—are you, like, actually against private property or some kind of thing like that?
I’ve always had this dream—just a little house out in the middle of nowhere, maybe somewhere in rural Montana or Oregon—with a big vegetable garden and an orchard right out front, all surrounded by thick woods.🎉
ruggedhawk20 said:Can you actually defend the idea that "happiness is worthless if you have no one to share it with" without leaning on old-school proverbs?
How am I supposed to explain that, for example, I feel genuinely happy when I'm completely by myself?
Either you're just kidding yourself, or something's definitely off. That's my take on it, anyway.
The way this is phrased just sounds like some super cliché platitude, I guess.
It’s really not a cliché. I mean, you can only truly find yourself through connection with other people—and I say that as someone who usually keeps my distance from everyone else. Purpose comes from helping folks, sharing your time, your experiences, whatever. There's an old saying back home that goes, "Better a man and a mule than a man all alone."
Jamie Adams6 said:Does it even matter? Honestly, if I just told you to stop complaining, you’d probably spend all night whining that I’m being insensitive—wish it were that easy. Just to put things in perspective, look at those pet threads where people go absolutely ballistic over a dead cat or a goldfish and nobody thinks they're weird for it. Come to think of it, you'd probably rather deal with a literal death because grieving would be way more straightforward. Here, he's gone too, and you're mourning, but you're also feeling "betrayed"—you know, the whole mess where he ghosted you for someone else without even leaving you a settlement or an apartment to live in, but that’s a whole other conversation. That hurts, sure, but your ego is taking a hit here too, and honestly? I highly doubt you actually miss *him*. You just can't let go, and it looks like you're stuck in a loop. Even those six years aren't the real issue—it's the fact that you probably told yourself once that a year of grieving wasn't that long, so why is it a problem for two, three, four, five, or six? At this rate, you'll be hitting the ten-year mark before you know it.
Just pure passive-aggression toward something we don't quite get...
The whole Paleo diet thing—meat is actually one of those things you really shouldn't be leaning on too hard. The hospital protocol basically says to stick to veggie purees for as long as possible, and once you're finally stable, they move you toward foods packed with both soluble and insoluble fiber. So, we're talking brown rice, lentils, barley, fish... stuff like that. It's not even totally clear what causes these issues—it could be genetic, I guess—but one theory is that it's caused by increased pressure in the gut, straining during bowel movements, or just a diet that's way too low in fiber. Maybe it’s a stretch, but my first painful flare-ups actually started right after I switched to eating way more meat because I married MM—he's a huge meat eater, so I ended up eating much more than I used to. It would technically fit with that blood type diet (we're both Type O), though I honestly think that whole blood type nutrition thing is pretty baseless. Just my two cents.
This thread isn't exactly buzzing... I’m dealing with the exact same thing, and honestly, food is my absolute biggest struggle right now. I just can't figure out what triggers all this shit. All summer long, I've been eating tons of rose hips every single day. Apparently, with these newer diets, they say the seeds aren't as big of a deal as people used to think. Getting through that GI study was such a nightmare, but even after three days of dieting and two enemas, I wasn't "clean" enough to get a decent scan. It says there are "several diverticula in the sigmoid colon with spastic changes," but nothing else worked. The thing is, the pain is always in the exact same spot—I know precisely where it is, low on my left side. A few times a year, things flare up and I get a massive fever. I actually had one of those days recently where I thought I might need to take a COVID test, even though I knew exactly what was causing the fever. That scan is actually from 2005. Back then, my GP just told me to eat more rice. Now, this current doctor wants me to go back in (which sounds like a terrible idea since I don't want to repeat that whole ordeal) and run tumor markers. Other times, it's just intense pain—like that one time after having a beer on an empty stomach, though it happens plenty of other times too—and other times I get a fever, nausea, and just can't eat anything for a few days, kind of like how I am now. I've stuck to light foods, but the bloating and the dull ache are still there. For months, I was eating deli meats and winter salami every day, heavily seasoned (we have these really spicy peppers at home), basically everything. Then, I have two days of spaghetti with veggies and chicken breast, and boom—there it is. Or I'll eat a few clementines every day for months. I never know what the trigger is; I'll forget about it, and then... once, it hit me right after some peanut butter, and I haven't touched it since. It's driving me a little crazy. One thing is a "no-go" for one spot, but totally fine for another. I read recently that doctors don't actually know the root cause, so they don't really know which diet works, and you just have to figure out what suits your own body. When a flare-up hits, my white blood cell count spikes, but I don't even know what's actually inflamed or how it'll settle down. In the past, I'd go to the doctor, get bloodwork done, and get prescribed antibiotics, but I realized things end up being the same even without them, so I just handle it myself. If anyone knows anything that might actually help... I'm not looking for advice from Anita Šupa, she's just obsessed with pushing her Paleo diet.
Bubbles said: I didn't catch it. You really should report stuff like that.
I missed it too—mostly because I actually have that guy on my ignore list—but a different user sent me a DM because they couldn't believe someone would even type something like that. And yeah, it was definitely Robin Hood (honestly, what he wrote was probably even nastier than my version). It’s crazy how that stays up, though... I'm still trying to wrap my head around what I actually put in my own post. I guess "trolling" is such a vague term, right? But shouldn't the mods be spotting this kind of inappropriate stuff on their own, rather than just waiting for someone to flag it?